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What’s My Life Purpose Now That My Husband Has Passed?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Grieving Widow, after she read our post, Why Did My Partner Crossover Sooner Than Expected?  She says I also have similar questions. My husband passed suddenly in a car accident and I’m unable to accept it. I’m constantly trying to connect with him and continue our relationship.

The Council asks Grieving Widow what she’d need to accept her husband’s death. You know he’s no longer in your physical reality, but he’s here in spirit. There are ways you can connect with him through meditation or asking for a connection in your dreams. You can ask for little signs he’s around that would give you the comfort he’s really gone nowhere. He’s still part of your life, being around you, seeing what you do. He left because it was his wish and his time to finish this lifetime. It was to give you a chance to explore more of who you are and what you want moving forward.

Grieving Widow says she doesn’t want to be here without her husband and asks The Council what is her purpose here without him? The Council says to find out who you are. What would make you happy? What ideas did you have while your husband was still here about things you wanted to do, but never had the chance? Now is the time to move forward and do these things.

Grieving Widow says we have three sons and my relationship with my oldest isn’t good. How can I help him with his life lessons and be the best mother to all my sons when I can’t even find joy in anything anymore?

The Council asks Grieving Widow if she’s saying she doesn’t find joy with her children? Do you focus at all on how to be with them, be part of their lives, and invite them into your life to give you some sort of comfort? Communication is needed here. There’s a coming together to bring you closer together.

What you need to remember is that your children will see how you’re carrying on now that your husband has passed on into spirit. How do you handle this? Do you show them that you’re aware your husband is now in the spirit world, and that you know at some point you’ll all go back into spirit, and that your husband is helping all of you from spirit? Do you talk to your children and uplift them in this moment?

The loss of a husband is traumatic, but your children have lost their father. Do you focus on that? This is a way for you to learn to be of service to others, and at this point it’s your children that need you. How will you be of service? The Council reiterates that much more communication is needed.

Grieving Widow says, I don’t believe I chose to be without my husband and I’m struggling to find a purpose to stay in this life. Do I have a purpose to remain here? The Council assures Grieving Widow that you did plan in spirit with your husband that he would pass. Your purpose, as we mentioned before, is to find out more about yourself and what you would like. What are your interests? Hold your children together. Bring your family closer. Be of service to others.

The Council understands in the human form this is a very difficult time for you. Give yourself more love by accepting you are sad at this moment, accepting this is a grieving time, accept all of that, but somewhere within that make time to help others through what they’re going through.

Grieving Widow says, I feel my sons will learn their life lessons better if I’m not here because I feel I hinder them. The Council reminds Grieving Widow that she is part of her children’s life lessons and they are very aware of how you speak and how you act. Remember that the way you do this, you are adding to their lessons and showing your children how to be and how not to be. They need you in their lives for many more reasons. Be aware of your behavior and your communication. This is part of what they agreed to learn and you have all agreed to this.

The Council understands Grieving Widow’s feeling that she’s hindering her children, but because you’ve all agreed to your husband’s passing, you don’t hinder them. And if you feel you hinder them now, how do you change that? If you can learn how to meditate and how to find things to be grateful for it will change your vibration and help you through this time.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Grieving Widow and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question in a Comment box located towards the bottom of most of our post pages.

If you like this post please consider clicking the LIKE button in the section following the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.



March 7, 2021 - Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Gratitude, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , ,


  1. I apologize, I didn’t realize. He has passed on.


    Comment by AlwaysMrs | April 20, 2021

  2. Hi, AlwaysMrs. Please confirm for us that your husband has either left physical form or he is still living. Your question is ambiguous on this subject. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | April 20, 2021

  3. Does my husband want us to continue our marriage? I have received mixed messages where sometimes the message is yes he will forever be my husband and will do everything in his power to be what I need and want, and I do not need to find someone else and that He doesn’t want me to be with someone else. And then others say general messages like “he wants you to move on and be happy”, alluding to find another. I want to continue our marriage and strengthen our connection as he lives on, but because I can’t directly hear from my husband, and have to rely on mediums, I don’t know how he feels right now and want to know if this is something he wants like I do, and if he will work towards making it work with me, till we are together again. I don’t want to pursue a relationship he doesn’t want anymore. I know how he felt before, but obviously things changed and I need to know how he feels now and how we move forward, as still married or not.

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by AlwaysMrs | April 19, 2021

  4. Thanks for your kind words for our Anonymous commenter, LilyDaisy.

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | March 16, 2021

  5. It’s our pleasure, Anonymous. Thanks for your interest in our blog.


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | March 16, 2021

  6. Hi, Juan. Thank you for your praise for The Council and your other kind words. When we have time we’ll ask The Council your question about your dreams of being lost and your desire to get home. We’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your interest in The Council. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | March 16, 2021

  7. I don’t know you, but but I think the way you have responded to the Council’s advice is so awesome, I wish you the best and feel great things happening within your family. Great job 💕

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by lilydaisy | March 8, 2021

  8. Wanted to say big heartfelt thank you for responding to my question. Now that it has been validated that this is what I and we, have chosen for this life, I will try harder to communicate better with my sons and try to be of service to them and others. I just wish I could flip a switch and rewire my thoughts and actions. I try to meditate but it’s a work in slow progress, and also try to do the chakra clearing that has been suggested in other posts! I really appreciate you taking the time and sharing your gifts with me and the world. Stay blessed ❤️

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    Comment by Anonymous | March 7, 2021

  9. Esteemed Cynthia and Bob:
    You are fantastic persons and your labors are mind expanding.
    I find “THE COUNCIL” mentally expansive and have a collection of your articles.
    I see myself as a free thinker and agree closely with your responses,
    as per Shakespeare:
    ‘All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.
    They have their exits and their entrances;
    And one man in his time plays many parts.’
    I am disturbed at the reference of evil persons as just acting a role,
    and us being responsible for our misfortunes as learning paths.

    I place a question before the “THE COUNCIL” seeking an answer.
    For a long time I have had a large quantity of dreams of being absolutely lost.
    I see myself in strange places trying to find my way home.
    I walk, drive, go over bridges, ride buses, talk to people, and never get anywhere.
    I do not know where I am and my firm desire is to find my way home,
    but I do not where home is.
    The dreams last for sometime while I search, and ends when I wake up,
    feeling dissatisfied.
    Thank you
    I await you response


    Comment by Juan Ramirez | March 7, 2021

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