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Creating A Life With My Partner Without Parent Or Friend Interference

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Peace.

Peace: Hello, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thank you for all your work and guidance.

I have a question about the people around me, their mindset, and how it’s affecting me. We have been having marital issues for a long time, and some of it is due to my partner’s parents. My partner has anger issues, as well. After we moved to a new city, his friends have been a source of frustration for me, as their mindset is very different from mine. This impacts my health negatively. Is it possible to create a life with my partner without the constant interference of his parents and friends?

Council: We would say, yes, of course it’s possible to create this, and you know the inner work that has to be done to create this. But we would ask you, why do you feel the parents interfere? And then when you finally move, you find that the friends are also interfering. So that is showing there that the question that needs to be answered, the question that needs to be worked on is, where is the communication problem? Have you spoken to your partner about this problem? How it makes you feel? How it affects you? And you are pulling that into you in a physical way because you are not having the conversation to really look at what’s going on.

And so you have a fear. And if you do not talk about it, and come to the reason why you have this fear, there will be others that will come in and cause this, what you think is a problem. People that perhaps you work with. It will escalate. And what it is you are supposed to be wanting to do, what you thought would be nice to do, was to sit down and together have these conversations to be understood about how you feel. But then also to hear what your partner says, and why there is this interference. Or why it is believed there is no interference, and it is just something that is annoying you.

It’s the conversation. It’s the communication of feeling. And when that begins to happen, and there is a true understanding of what the other person is feeling, what it is like for the other person, perhaps you feel this is an interference because your partner needs to talk, and confide to parents and friends because the feeling is not being able to have the conversations with you.

And so it is that sit down, and start very slowly about what goes on and why. And as you bring this to the surface, past traumas from this life and other lifetimes will come up. And you see that this not being heard, not being understood, is coming from a time where you were neglected, and anything you did say was not paid attention to. So knowing this, you look for it as you work with your partner on why this is going on now, and it will heal.

Peace: My husband is unable to grow out of this interference and is not able to distinguish between this relationship’s best interests. Or is it all happening so that my kid and I move on and completely create a new life without him?

Council: We would like to say here that running off with your child will not cure what you are trying to heal. You will create it in another relationship. There will always be some sort of interference until you quietly sit down and work, and keep working on conversation, how you feel, what it is that you need, and paying attention to what your partner is trying to say. It’s the understanding of communication that is wanted here.

Peace: Thanks.

Council: And so we wish you love, and peace, and happiness on your journey. And just enjoy. Find things to enjoy, and the rest will take care of itself.

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September 1, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Health, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , | Leave a comment