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Should I Have A Child With My Current Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sophie.

Sophie: Thank you very much for your answers to my questions in your post about pregnancy and my partner smoking marijuana. They are straight to the point.

It seems that I got pregnant not when I was writing to you, but now, and I want your advice on how to make the best decision. My biggest concern is the baby’s health due to my partner’s marijuana smoking. As far as I know he stopped, but who knows for how long? Also I got a terrible stomach virus at the same time I became aware I’m pregnant.

Council: We’d like to say right here: Do you realize you already have made the decision of what to do, and you are now just creating little scenarios to show you what’s going on?

And so you talk about your boyfriend on marijuana, then you talk about an upset stomach. What else is there?

Sophie: My progesterone dropped down at that time, but now it’s going up again.

Council: And so the progesterone dropped.

Sophie: Is this virus a coincidence, or something I should consider also?

Council: The virus isn’t a coincidence. It’s another way you show yourself what you choose to do.

Sophie: I was also sick just a couple weeks back with a throat infection, but I  didn’t take any strong medication, as I had a feeling I could be pregnant, and now I know I was.

Council: And again, now a throat infection.

Sophie: Another question is: Could it be the same soul as my previous pregnancy where I felt so much love for the fetus and was speaking to the spirit, and it said it would come back, and it showed up in a dream?

Council: We’d like to say here, and this is very important, you are giving yourself these different experiences that would stand in the way of a healthy pregnancy. And why you are doing that is because you and the spirit of this child would like to come together in this world.

We’d like you to know that the spirit you have this agreement with will come to you when the time is right. It doesn’t want to come and have a life where it’s not healthy. That is not what it wants to experience. Getting sick and having a partner with marijuana issues limits and will affect what happens.

And so at this time the child really doesn’t want to come into that lifetime. So there’s a lot for you to think about. And do you really want to have a child with this person?

Bob: Could you directly answer whether it’s the same spirit that she was pregnant with previously?

Council: Yes, it is. And it will come again.

Sophie: I kept talking to the spirit and before I knew I was pregnant I heard in my head, “I’m already here.”

The other side of why I want to continue is that I’ve wanted a baby for a couple years already. I feel that I want to take care of a little one and take some time from work to do something meaningful and loving.

Council: And so do you feel that you are capable of taking care of this child and giving it the best life you can provide for it financially and healthwise? Where you are now, is it the best life you can provide for this child?

Sophie: Also I have some concerns if I don’t continue with the pregnancy I’ll blame my partner, as it’s his marijuana use that’s my biggest concern.

Council: And that right there says a lot, which you need to look at. So do you have a child and maybe it will come with some sort of defect because your partner is on marijuana, or you are creating sicknesses that could affect this child? Is that what you want? Or do you want to give the child the best life that you can?

Sophie: And how are we going to plan the next pregnancy if my partner continues to smoke marijuana?

Council: Well we’d think you have a choice whether to continue trying to have a child with this person, or not. The choice is always yours. Look at what’s going on. Look at everything you’re creating. You are giving yourself the answers if you stop and look at it.

Sophie: It might be just a waste of time and a delay to fulfill my dream of having children and a family, so I’m not sure if I’ll be able to continue the relationship.

Council: There is a very good question that you are asking yourself. And the way we see it, you already have the answer. And there is no right or wrong answer. It’s to go by what you know, what you feel, and to have clarity on it.

Sophie: But I don’t know if I’m brave enough to change the direction of my life and take a chance that something brand new might come up, and leave my current relationship knowing it won’t be so soon when I can plan a family with someone new, who first needs to appear.

Council: And so because you’re afraid to take a chance, you’ll stay in this relationship that you’re already questioning? And why shouldn’t you find someone else? Don’t you think you deserve it? Of course you’ll find someone else if it’s your true intent to be happy and in a healthy marriage with healthy children. It’s all there for you, but the choices you make will or won’t bring that in.

Sophie: It seems my partner also plans to propose, and it seems like forever already that I wanted to be engaged and plan a family.

Council: And so that’s not happening either?

Sophie: It’s what I really want in my life, but another concern of mine is his daughter from another relationship, which is hard for me to deal with sometimes, and also the part where we’d all live together.

Council: And there you go again. We’re only pointing out to you what you already know and what you’re telling us. And so have the clarity to look at this. Why would you choose to have this sort of life, and there’s another child in it that’s difficult for you to deal with. That’s not going happily into a relationship. Again, the choice is yours, but the lesson here is to open your eyes, believe in yourself, and then follow what you want, whatever you want.

Sophie: I feel so lost. And whatever choice I make, of course there will be consequences and a delay in my dream.

There’s another question. Do you see that if I decide to change the direction of where I’m going, would it be a good idea to get back together with my first boyfriend and make a family?

Council: The energy is very good there.

Sophie: Somehow an idea came into my mind about him one day and he wrote to me. He proposed to me when we were together, but I said no, as I thought he’s not caring enough for a family and there should be something better, and we broke up. But after almost four years apart, neither he nor I so far created a family.

Council: And so we feel perhaps you created your current relationship to show you that this isn’t what you want, and maybe what you had before is still there for you and you want it. It’s very interesting what you’ve done. You’ve created these two relationships, and you’re at a point now where you can choose.

Sophie: My previous boyfriend also wants a family already.

Council: Wonderful.

Sophie: He said he misses my family, and he got along well with them. And my family also talks well about him and says he was the best of the partners I had.

Council: And so there’s another positive. Are you listening? We’re telling you that’s two positives you’re telling us already about your old relationship.

Sophie: It was my longest relationship I’ve had so far. Maybe you could share some techniques on how to make the best decision, as I feel so stuck and now both decisions seem like carrying some of the worries I think about.

Council: And so we can’t make the decision for you. But from what you’ve told us here, if you look at your current relationship, there were many things in it that weren’t positive. When you think of this new relationship, you’ve already given us a few positive answers about this person.

So look at this person and reconnect with him. You want a child and this person wants a child. Is this person healthy? Do they smoke marijuana or don’t smoke marijuana? Does this person want to have a happy, healthy child, and acts in ways that will have this happen? See the choices of things that this person wants and what you want. Do they combine nicely? Do you want the same things? Is it safer? Do you feel safer in that relationship?

So just look at it. Reconnect and look at it. Go slowly and look at it. And perhaps your child will come from that. It’s all your choice.

Sophie: As you said in the post that answered my last question, I’m thinking of my baby being healthy and beautiful, and having a wonderful time growing up.

Council: In your present relationship do you think that’s possible? This is another question to answer.

Sophie: But in the first weeks when I had a feeling I might be pregnant, my only thoughts were that I can’t accept my partner smoking marijuana and it having an effect on my baby.

Council: There is your answer if you care to truly hear it.

Sophie: At the same time I feel so irresponsible that I put myself in a position where I’m considering pregnancy termination again. It’s not how I want to live. Hope to hear from you.

Council: Good luck with your choices. Be positive. Know there’s so much more for you, and there’s no reason to be afraid to take a chance and go in a different direction. And we send you love and support in whatever you choose.

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June 29, 2023 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Decision Making, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , | 3 Comments