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Creating My Own Reality vs. Pre-Planning in Spirit

This post answers questions from a reader named, Jane, who wants to know how it’s possible to pre-plan in spirit to have a relationship and at the same time, be the creator of our own reality once we are in our current lifetime.

The Council says you pre-plan things like who you want to work things out with, who you want as a partner, who you want to help with their lessons, and who you want to help with yours. At the same time you can see how your life is going and make decisions on what you want to create as you go along. Some lessons aren’t pre-planned in spirit before you incarnate into this lifetime. While your spirit knows what you have pre-planned, you also have the freedom within this pre-planning to make creative decisions about your life in every moment. You create your own reality.

Jane says she was in an abusive relationship that ended seven years ago, but still doesn’t feel as if she’s moved on with her life. She doesn’t understand why she’s having so much difficulty getting past what happened in this relationship, and she’s having difficulty accepting the way she acted.

The Council says Jane acted the way she needed to act at that time. You chose the people around you that were involved in this relationship. What have you learned about yourself now that you’re no longer in it? How would you handle a similar situation now if it happened again? You need to forgive yourself. There is nothing wrong with the way you acted. There’s only experiences to learn from. How do you grow from these experiences?

If you’re suffering from this past relationship, you’re the one that’s bringing on the suffering. You’re not a victim. You planned this relationship in spirit and you went through it. Do you know others that have been through a similar experience and can you help them? In this lifetime you don’t have the option of redoing this relationship, but you can learn from it.

Jane wants to know why she felt compelled to stay in this abusive relationship until the other person let her go. The Council says Jane put herself in this situation to understand the lessons this relationship offered. If you didn’t have the courage or the strength to leave, your higher self understood and got you out by having the other person end it. There’s no reason to be ashamed that you couldn’t leave. What have you learned? Now it’s time to move on. You need to go to a happier phase of your life.

Jane says she’s having a difficult time understanding why it’s so hard to move on with her life. The Council says it’s because the feeling of abuse is familiar and you feel powerless about the situation with this relationship. You were not powerless. You created this situation. You stayed in this relationship long enough to get what you needed, and now you’re out of it. What did you learn from this relationship?

Jane asks, if this relationship was pre-planned, what creative power did I have over my life at that point? Could I have thought more positive thoughts and not have attracted this relationship? The Council says you pre-planned this relationship. You created it. Why did you create it? Because you wanted to see what abuse felt like. And now that you’re free from this abuse, how do you want your life to move on? That’s what this relationship was all about. In this relationship you acted 100% the way you were supposed to act. Now it’s time to learn from this abuse and this relationship and let it go.

The Council says there’s nothing you could have done to change the way you experienced this relationship because you didn’t want to change it. Always remember what you went through, even feeling alone or abandoned or out of control, was something you wanted (as spirit) to experience.

Where do you want your life to go from here? Now you need to move on. If you want to have a loving partner, think about this. Focus on it. Stop focusing on what you’ve come through and focus on what you want moving forward.

Jane asks if she’s on the right track to create the relationship she desires, or if there’s something else she needs to work on. She feels she still has unresolved feelings from this relationship that are holding her back, and she’d appreciate any advice The Council can give her on how to leave this relationship behind and move on with her life.

The Council advises Jane to know that whatever time she needed to be in this relationship, it’s over. You may not have all the answers now that this relationship has to teach you, but eventually you will. If you don’t know how to let go of the relationship, then think of your future. Think of what you want.

The Council says there’s another life where Jane and this person she was in the relationship with, were together as thieves, homeless, in London in the early 1800s. In this life also the two of you weren’t gentle with each other. You stayed together in order to survive. Did you feel in your current life that you needed to be in this relationship in order to survive? You recreated a situation where you were again in an abusive relationship in order to learn from it. The lesson you wanted to learn in both lives is that love is not abusive and you don’t need to stay in an abusive relationship in order to survive.

Listen to the entire 18-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Jane and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. Or ask The Council an unrelated question.

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August 30, 2019 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , ,

4 Comments »

  1. I am deeply interested in your program
    and in the knowledge you expound.
    I want to develop my understanding of the subconscious.
    I want information on its nature and purpose.
    Since it is such a deep protagonist in our being,
    I want to talk to it and know how it can improve my life.
    I am grateful for information you can provide.

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Juan E Ramirez | September 3, 2019 | Reply

    • We appreciate your gratitude, Juan. Thank you very much. We’ll try to get you some useful information on the subconscious from The Council when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of the session when it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

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      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 30, 2019 | Reply

  2. Such a great question, and I am sure many of us can relate.

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Moving forward | August 30, 2019 | Reply

    • Thanks for your comment, Moving Forward. We’re sure many of can relate also.

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      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 30, 2019 | Reply


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