How Acceptance And Appreciation Can Help You Lose Weight
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wannabe Beauty Queen.
Beauty Queen: I have some questions about health and beauty which I’d love some help with.
I’ve had a deep and very upsetting problem with my weight that I just can’t seem to crack, and I’d like to know how I can permanently lose weight, keep it off, and also build muscle and tone. I’ve tried many, many things over the years, but seeing as I’m writing you, nothing’s worked.
Council: It’s because you do not accept who you are. And so now your weight is bothering you, and we can tell you until you learn to appreciate yourself and others who are overweight or have other features that are unpleasant to you, you’ll stay on this merry-go-round.
And so we’d say first, what you wanted to learn was acceptance, to love yourself no matter what you look like or what you experience. That’s very important for you. When you can start appreciating something that’s good about your weight, something that you can focus on and be grateful for, your weight will begin to change.
So any physical problem that’s coming up for you, you have created because you wanted to experience learning acceptance, accepting yourself, and accepting those around you.
Beauty Queen: What’s behind my weight problem and how do I resolve it? I’d very much love the key to remedying it.
Council: There’s the word. You very much love. Yes, and you’re very much in a place where you have to learn to love yourself the way you are now and then show that love to others who are perhaps not exactly what are considered beauty queens. And so it’s all about acceptance. It’s a big lesson for you.
Beauty Queen: These days my hair also seems to grow slowly…
Council: Oh, another problem.
Beauty Queen: …and break at a certain length. It’s also very dry. Why is this?
Council: You are not happy with your hair. And so the more unhappy you are about it and the more you focus on this problem, it will stay that way, and it can even get worse. That’s how powerful you are. What can you find about your hair that you like and appreciate about it? Look at your hair differently. Try to find something good in each situation.
Beauty Queen: Again, I’ve tried things to no avail, but I’d really love waist-length healthy-looking hair. Also is it true I can make my hair grow straight even though it’s curly? How do I go about doing this and how long would it take me?
Council: Appreciate what you have and then focus, focus, focus. Anything you are determined about and anything that you love can change and can bend with time into the way you’d like it to be. We don’t feel you are ready at this time to believe you can do this so we would say for now to go with appreciation.
Beauty Queen: I also used to have a thing where people used to tell me all the time how young I looked for my age.
Council: Oh, another problem.
Beauty Queen: What do I have to do to naturally look much younger than my years again?
Council: Love yourself. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself. Find as many parts of yourself that you appreciate.
Beauty Queen: What did I have then, and how do I get it back?
Council: With your focus, with your mind, with your visualizations, and with your feelings. Feel good about yourself. Feel beautiful. Feel that you are special and that you are here to learn how to change everything into what you would like it to be, not because you don’t like it, but because you see it, and in it you’ve found something to appreciate and now you want to make it even better.
Beauty Queen: How do I be the one who naturally defies aging?
Council: Oh, that’s a good question. Do you feel like you don’t want to age? Then you know what that means. You will leave the planet and you’ll transition back into spirit. As long as you are in your human body you will age. And again for you, appreciate each age that you get to, everything you experience, what it was like ten years ago, what it’s like now, what you want it to be ten years in your future, and accept who you are. But if you want to not age, if you want to defy that and live forever, we feel at one point you could do that, but not now. And so if you don’t want to age, we’d say be careful what you think because that will help you transition over to spirit.
And so once again these are lovely questions. And we send everyone loving energy, and support from the spirit world to love yourself and to learn how to walk down that path, and be kind to each other.
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Hi, Anonymous. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your questions when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your questions. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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Hi. I have questions about my life in Electra, what other planets have I been to, and about my current mission here on Earth because I have struggled to find my path and my worth? I also wonder if my twin flame is still here in physical body, or in spirit. I don’t know how to connect with him, or if I should connect. I have another romantic relationship and I fear triggered.
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Hi, M. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your questions about past lives and your concerns about abundance as soon as we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks so much for your questions. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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I have some questions about my past lives. Do they usually correspond with family heritage or nationality? Both of my parents are half Scandinavian and I’m curious about whether we all lived there together in previous incarnations or if it’s all random. I’m also curious about mine and my husband’s past connections. Our meeting was intense and our relationship has been wildly healing and sometimes triggering. Is my daughter who I think she is, a particular spirit from my past in this life? Finally, I have some wonderful, big dreams and goals but many doubts about them too. I desire success and financial abundance but worry that’s selfish or too greedy. Is this fear founded in the need to learn moderation, or from a past life as a communist (haha, this might sound funny but I do currently believe deeply in equality of shared resources), or just my own doubts about success that tell me I’m not worthy? Thanks -M
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Thank you so much for your encouraging words, Anon. They are a beautiful testament to how someone can change their thinking about their weight no matter what others are thinking. And much appreciation for your thanks to The Council and us.
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To Beauty Queen,
I really appreciated your questions, as someone who has felt unhappy with her weight for a long time. I’m now living abroad and realize how difficult it is to love your body when in America, at least, there is so much negative and obsessive thinking about weight and food. It has been really, really powerful for me to enjoy my food—really enjoy it, no matter how fatty or whatever it is—and see other people of all sizes and ages be so happy and excited about food. Food is a national obsession here, a pure joy.
One thing I’ve realized recently is that my body is MINE. It’s me. It’s given me so much health, and joy, and strength. I’ve never even broken a bone or twisted anything! I’m not a doll where parts are replaceable, and thus I’ve come to stop thinking, “if only I had those arms, those legs.” My arms and legs have carried me all the way here, through life’s sorrows and its many pleasures. So I’ve started to pat my stomach, my chest, my arms, and my back and say, “Thank you, body, for being so healthy and being with me every day.” No one told me to do this, I just started on my own. And I feel like my body has responded by losing weight faster, yes, but that’s the least powerful thing about it. It’s more like some joyful presence that has always been fearful and slouching like a cowering dog is unfurling in me, stretching like a new green leaf. It is a wonderful feeling and I feel blessed to experience it. I hope that you will find your way to this kind of feeling too, even if you don’t do what I do. You will find a way. Your body is you, and you are lovely. It’s okay to just love yourself, even though everyone around you might also be complaining and hating their body and dissecting it into bits. Take back your joy, and your power.
With warm thoughts, and thanks as always to Cynthia and Bob and The Council
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