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Dealing With Wife’s Infidelity, Career Search, And Money Problems

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Roy.

Roy: Hello, Bob and Cynthia. Thank you for your wonderful platform. My questions center around three areas of my life where I’ve struggled the most. In my marriage I struggle with letting go of past wounds, as my partner had an affair several years ago, yet recently I’m obsessing over it and feeling very guarded.

Council: So you are suffering from the situation that happened to you. What have you done to let it go? Can you let it go?

If you are with this person and you constantly have the thoughts that: 1) there is no trust there, 2) you can’t make this work, and 3) it is uncomfortable, it’s very hard to turn it around.

But if you say, “Well, you know we both came here, we’re spirits, we wanted to be together. So the first thing as spirits, we have to find the love.” Show each other love, and do things that will bring happiness back into the relationship.

It is not so much thinking, “I’ve got to let it go,” because there’s hurt in those thoughts. But when you think, “We’ve planned this. We came together. We love each other. We want this to work,” that’s what changes what happens. And so, you have to want to bring joy, and trust, and love back into the relationship.

And, of course, communication is the first form of getting this (as we would say) out on the table, and discussing what can be done to bring the love that is there, and it is still there. How do you bring it forward?

Roy: I also struggle with finding a career path that I would find fulfilling.

Council: So what kind of desire do you have? What kind of joy do you have when you think of working? Even if you have an image of becoming a millionaire, how did you do it? What do you see yourself doing? It’s always important to play with you’re imagination and pay attention to what it feels like.

When you come into this reality, you always bring with you many, many gifts from other lifetimes. Well what is it? What brings you joy? Do you like to read? Do you like to draw? Do you like to be around people? Do you like to help people who have problems, or who are sick? Look and see what is of interest to you. Do you want to be around animals? Do you want to be outside? Do you want a job where you travel?

No one can give you that answer. You can’t sit back and say, “Tell me what I can do.” There are many, many things you can do, but now play with it. Do the work, and you will be surprised how fast this changes if you are intent on doing the work. You can do it. You can find it. It is already within you. Reach out for it. Be open to it being anything at all, but you will know because you will be happy doing it.

Roy: And I have financial problems that cause challenges in all areas of my life.

Council: And so we would say, as you tell us what is going on in your life, we would like to explain to you that energy is energy. It doesn’t always hit one area of your life. If you find yourself in (the word people use) a funk, it’s everywhere in your life. It will hit your finances, it will hit your relationships, and eventually it will hit your health. So right now, instead of putting pressure on yourself to feel better, to have a better relationship, to find a better job, work on yourself. How do I find a way to feel happy about anything? And by anything we say, are you happy walking down the street when you see babies playing together? Are you happy when you see a cute dog walking on a leash? Are you happy to look in store windows? Find the little things first. That is your challenge right now, because it is in every area of your life where things are not moving.

Find things to be grateful for and acknowledge them. Even if you were to find a penny on the street, laugh, acknowledge, “Okay, here’s some money.” Whatever it is, try to find the happiness in it. When you do that, you will find more and more things to be grateful for, and you will start feeling better, and you will find the right kind of job, and your relationship will improve. Find the gratitude. There is too much around you, and you have reason to feel this way. But now you know you are a spirit. You have the power to change your life by your choices, by how you think of things. And so we suggest you go on that path.

Roy: Any insights would be greatly appreciated. I feel I have been repeating patterns, and I am unable to move past this stage in my life.

Council: The pattern can be changed, but only you can do it. And you can do it. We see that.

And so we send you love, and all the joy that you can find in your lives. Create, create. create/

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June 17, 2025 - Posted by | Career, Feelings, Imagination, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , ,

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