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How Can I Learn To Speak Up For Myself?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Shy Girl.

Shy Girl: Hi, Cynthia and Bob. Does The Council have any advice on how I can move on from the effects of selective mutism? When I was four years old, I moved to a new country with my family. On the first day attending a new school, I was introduced to my new class, and just having them look at me triggered my selective mutism. I couldn’t speak for the first two years at school, and it took me a while to find the courage to talk.

Although I have no problem speaking up now, I often find that when I’m in a new situation or feel uncomfortable, I tend to withdraw inward and dim what I truly want to express, experiencing physical symptoms like blushing and feeling small. It’s affecting my courage and my ability to speak up when it counts the most, like in dating.

Council: And so what we see here is – of course being preplanned that you would go through this – you wanted to learn what it would be like to feel in these different situations, not being able to talk.

In another lifetime you had a stutter that affected you. And in that lifetime, you would wish that you could talk regularly, without the stutter; that you could talk slowly, and take your time, and be understood, and feel good with it. So in this lifetime you’re trying to heal that other lifetime with the stutter that was very painful.

So we would say, when you find yourself blushing or having difficulty speaking, what are the thoughts that are running through your head? When you discover what it is, you are to replace them with thoughts like, “I can speak. This is so wonderful. I am so grateful. I can take my time. I can speak, and people will hear me and understand what I say.”

So that’s why you’ve created it in this lifetime, because you wanted to feel the gratefulness of being calm, and taking your time, and just speaking. So you have created it perfectly. And now we would say, do the work. Of course, helping the body, it would be good to do the chakra breathing, especially the throat, so it would have more energy to work the way you want it to.

And just remember that whatever it is that you want, pretend you have it already. And actually, in this lifetime, you do have it already because you left the stuttering behind.

Shy Girl: Can you sense what guidance my spirit is trying to tell me?

Council: Your spirit is trying to get you to follow through on what you planned, to feel the difference, to perhaps now learn about the stuttering and compare how you would feel when you had that to what you have now.

And what you are looking for is to find the feeling of gratefulness. When you reach that point, it will begin to bother you less and less – less blushing, less being shy. You will just be overcome with gratefulness that you can speak and people can hear you, and understand, and not walk away and make fun like they did in your past life.

Shy Girl: I know that my true self is more extroverted and likes exploring new places, but my fear hinders my ability to completely enjoy myself in new situations. I want to maintain my true energy constantly and consistently, and be myself regardless of what situation I’m in.

Council: And sometimes we find there is an exercise where you look in the mirror and you speak to yourself in the mirror, and watch your eyes as you’re speaking, and how you feel. And as you begin to recognize the gratefulness of what you have, you will put that inside of you, and that will grow stronger and stronger. So as you begin the exercise of speaking in a mirror, it will become easier and easier for you. And you will see that little by little, feeling that you are shy or that you don’t like the way you speak, or that there is a problem, that will begin to fade.

And so we wish you love, and peace, and happiness on your journey, and just enjoy. Find things to enjoy, and the rest will take care of itself.


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August 29, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Exercise, Gratitude, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment