How Can I Regulate My Emotions Better Without Medication?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Seeking Help.
Seeking Help: Greetings, Bob & Cynthia. I have a question about managing my health better. I have anxiety, and I think I may also have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). I have not been able to regulate my emotions under certain stressful situations. I need to understand how I can get better at managing my emotions and staying calm.
Council: Number One, the emotions always come from the thoughts that go on in your head. Many of these thoughts are old memories. They are not conscious. And so, when you feel this nervousness, when you feel frightened, it is then where you have the power (and always know you have the power, you have the choice) to change your thought.
So #1, you would tell yourself, “Alright, I don’t remember what it is. I’m not sure what’s going on, but I am feeling emotions that come from past lives, maybe the beginning of this life, or past lives in other dimensions.” And so, concentrating on these emotions of fear, anxiousness, and not understanding comes from these thoughts.
So first, you acknowledge something is going on, some sort of unconscious memory that is bringing on the emotion, and now you have the choice. “Okay, I know something is happening. And so now I have to find a different thought.” It is at this point that you would think of happy memories, a fantasy that makes you feel good. How does it feel to feel joy and love? And concentrate on that, and the emotion will change.
Seeking Help: If I can manage my emotions and stay calm, it can help me be more kind. It can also help in loving myself and others more. Can The Council please guide me regarding how I can regulate my emotions better without taking medicines on a daily basis?
Council: With control of your thoughts, which can easily be done a little at a time. Learn to meditate. If you don’t want to meditate, work with just changing your breath. Breathing in to the count of four, holding it to the count of six, and breathing out to the count of eight. You can do that. You can pray. If there are books that you like to read, go to that. If there are shows that you like to watch that have happiness in them, go to that.
And so, you have many ways to improve this. And that is the challenge that you set up in this lifetime. And so, you have ways now to try different ways to help yourself.
Seeking Help: Sometimes I feel neglected, uncared for, and unloved, and I can feel very sad and anxious for an extended period of time.
Council: And so remember, if you don’t know why you feel like this, but you feel it so deeply, it is from other lifetimes. And knowing that, you don’t need to feel that way now. When you feel that way, and you stay in it, it is your choice to stay in it. When you feel neglected, and lonely, and sad, change the thought. In your challenges that you have set up, it all comes to knowing you can change your thoughts.
Seeking Help: My brain also has a habit of going into a thought loop. I need to know how to break this cycle.
Council: Everything is with the thoughts.
We send love, and light, and healing to all.
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