Why Did My Brother Die When He Was 26 Years Old?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Grieving98.
Grieving: Hello, Bob and Cynthia. Thank you for having these sessions. I hope you and The Council are doing well.
My family and I are in great pain right now because we just suffered the loss of my younger brother. He was sick for a while, but we never expected he would die so young.
Council: First we would like to say, in your belief system you feel that you have lost him, but he is still around. You do not see him because you are not in a place now where you believe you can. But he has gone nowhere. He is right here around you. And it is very good for you, at this point, to talk to him, and let him know he was here, and that you love him.
Grieving: My mother is devastated. Why did we have to go through his loss?
Council: There are always many reasons for experiencing loss. First of all, you all agreed to it. And what you wanted to learn was how to accept people for how they are. Did you accept him? Did you do what spirit comes here to do? Did you show him love? Did you try to list, in some way, how he felt? These are all things that came together to see how you would handle it.
So he was wanting to leave this life early, but he came in to do this so he would learn from it, and you all would experience it and learn from it.
Grieving: He was only 26 years old. We feel that we were somehow responsible for it by not being caring enough for him during a difficult time.
Council: First of all, you can never be responsible for anyone’s death. They choose when their lesson that they wanted is over. They choose how they will go through it. They will remember what they wanted to learn when they were here. So it doesn’t matter that you think you are responsible, or the family feels responsible.
The #1 thing right now is to let go of that thought and be happy that you all played this out. And start thinking, what did you learn? How did you feel? What would you do differently? And knowing he is spirit – you are all spirits – and you will be together again. There is no loss. There is only experience and learning, if you liked how you handled things, or didn’t. There are no mistakes. There is nothing wrong.
Grieving: Was he happy living his life amongst us?
Council: It’s exactly what his spirit planned; what you all planned. So whether you think he was happy or not, he was experiencing what he needed to learn from this experience. He was feeling, and growing, and learning from it also.
Grieving: Did his spirit plan for this to happen to us?
Council: Yes. All of you agreed to it. There’s no innocent bystander here. You all said, “Let’s go for it.”
Grieving: Will his spirit come back to our family in some other form?
Council: Eventually, when it’s wanted by all. If not, when you all pass over and leave this life, you will be together that way. But, yes, you will be together.
And so we send you love, we send everyone happiness and hope, and the ability to change their lives and know that they can, and make it exactly the way they want it. And that is why we’re all here right now. Love to you all.
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