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Why Is My Son Estranged From Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lon.

Lon: It’s taken me so long to ask this question because I wanted to ask it wisely and from an enlightened perspective.

My beloved 27-year-old son chooses to be estranged from me. The only explanation I have is that his father brainwashed him against me, especially after my separation from his father 10 years ago. But I suspect his father had been brainwashing him all during my son’s life, as I was often humiliated or invalidated by his father in our son’s presence.

Council: What should be remembered here is that even now at the age of 27, this is his choice to not have you in his life, even if the father brainwashed him and was very negative with what he said about you. It is still your son’s choice whether to bring you back into his life or to just let you go.

And so going through this, the lesson you learn is to accept him the way he is and send him light. Don’t try to force this reconciliation to happen, but in a loving heart and loving energy, send him energy. The energy of love will reach him and it will be his choice whether to accept it.

And we can say here you are in his thoughts, but can you learn the lesson of letting him be who he is? He has to work out his issues around everything that happened. And you, before coming into this incarnation, agreed to be part of this so that you would both learn.

Lon: I only learned two years ago that there was such a thing as parental alienation. My son was my joy and fulfillment in life, and we were truly bonded and always got on well. I thought by now,  after a bit of a break, and now that his father passed on two years ago, that he would reach out to me. He’s now living in another country and I found out on social media that he’s married, which broke my heart because even that milestone didn’t cause him to think of me.

Council: And once again these are his issues to work through, and by trying to connect with him or have any sort of communication would not work at this time. If he’s in a place where he doesn’t want to have you in his life, by you trying to force it, it will only push you away.

So we would say work with the vibration of love and do not worry, do not focus on what the father did or what the father said about you. That only brings that energy in and will keep the two of you apart. Just in your mind picture beautiful energy and love going to your son from you. That will change things faster than any letter, any phone call, or anything where you try to make it happen.

Just keep the thoughts positive. Focus on him calling you, or writing you, or coming to see you, and then you have the chance to heal it. That’s what you should focus on. Not what the father did and how hurtful it was. And we understand how hurtful it is at this point. It can be changed if you do the work.

Lon: The only means I have of contact is his email and I don’t know if he blocks the ones I send regularly.

What caused me to bring this heartbreak to myself in this life?

Council: Because you both agreed to it so you could learn to stay in the vibration of love, even when you’re hurting and things aren’t going your way, and that you lost your son right now. And for your son to learn forgiveness for whatever was said to him about you, and to want you in his life. So the both of you agreed to do this.

Lon: And what amends can I make for us to get back together in harmony?

Council: No amends are needed, only the energy of love, thinking of him positively, thinking of him appearing in your life, hearing from him, and that you now have the opportunity to fix this rift and heal it.

And so we wish you love, and happiness, and fun in creating your lives. You are the creator in your life. No one else is.

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January 2, 2024 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 4 Comments