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Mending A Relationship

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named A.

A: Dear Council. I’ve been in a committed relationship with my current partner for 10 years, and we have a family together. My partner is a wonderful man, and yet we’ve been in a place of deep struggle for years now.

Council: And that is part of choices that you’ve made, to have happy times, and to have periods of time where there is a struggle because you wish to learn from it. You want to see how you handle struggling, with kindness, with love, which is what we all planned to do when we decided to come into this reality. And so you are right on point.

A: There’s a big part of me that feels we have chosen to work this through and spend the remainder of our lives together. But I’m having a very difficult time even opening up to the idea that we can mend what we have, and give each other what we need and deserve.

Council: Oh, everything is mendable. All you have to do is remember (perhaps) getting together, [and] come up with the happy memories, [and] the happy feelings. And when you reach those feelings, you hold on to the happy feeling, and you bring it into what is happening in your life at this point. And so, when you truly want to mend it, you can.

A: To make matters more complicated, there is a man who is more than an acquaintance, but not someone I’m necessarily close with, who I cannot stop thinking about.

Council: And that is your problem. [Council laughs.] And how can you concentrate on giving everything into this relationship, no matter what is going on, to work it through, to make it happen, when there is someone else that you are attracted to? There’s someone else that you are thinking of. It is a choice you make to know how you feel about this other person, but to let that go if you truly want this to work with your husband. You concentrate on that. You put your focus on that. But when you keep thinking of someone else, and going to the thought of someone else, and you’re attracted, and maybe something can happen. It takes away from the mending and putting together the original relationship.

A: I can’t help but feel there is potential for something beautiful there. And I can’t figure out why, as we are not flirtatious, nor have any boundaries been even remotely crossed.

Council: So that is your imagination. That is the feeling that makes you feel better, feel good, that oh, there’s someone else, and maybe it could be better. That is what you are creating at this particular time.

A: I would like to know if you see a connection here, where it might come from, and what the agreement between us is in this lifetime.

Council: Where it comes from is the spirit world. And why it is here is because you agreed upon it, the two of you. He would come in, and you would be going through whatever choices of things that you are creating, and he would be a little diversion to make you feel better. He would put you in a place where you would think about this, learn from it, and feel what it is you truly want.

And not that there is something new that can happen. And of course it can if that’s what you really want. But he agreed to do this so that you would learn from it, from having this person in your life, of having the problem with your husband at the time, and what kind of decisions you would make. As a spirit, what would you choose to do? And that’s all it is. It’s something you agreed upon, that he would pop in at this particular time, and you would search yourself, who you are, what you want, and your choices.

A: I would also like to know what the agreement between myself and my current partner is because we love each other very much, and I know neither one of us want to see our family split apart.

Council: This is true, and you’ve had other past lives together, and this is something that you and him have agreed upon. Let’s have this struggle. Let’s see, as spirits, how do we handle it? Do we fall apart? Do we get mad? Do we blame each other? Do we withdraw? Or do we look for the love, keep looking for it, keep showing it? And that is all it is – an experience.

A: I know free will plays a role in all of this.

Council: Oh, definitely.

A: And nothing is that black or white, but I’m incredibly confused, and would greatly appreciate any insight. With sincere gratitude, A.

Council: Just remember, all three of you have chosen it – to come in together to, in your own ways, deal with it because you want to see how you would handle it. It is self-growth. You don’t have to be concerned with how your husband handles it, [or] how this other person handles it. All you have to be concerned about is, where are you? What are your choices? How are you handling it?

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March 12, 2026 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Letting Go Of Struggle And Handling Your Situation Differently

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader in response to a post we wrote called, Did I Have Past Lives in Atlantis?

Anonymous: Thank you so much for this message Cynthia, Bob, and The Council. It really got me thinking. A month ago or so (May 20, 2023) I asked a question about being stuck in  government systems and feeling helpless. I’d like to provide an update on the situation to add to my original questions, if you don’t mind.

All my big tax and visa troubles have gotten resolved in the way I had hoped except for one of them.

Council: Isn’t this wonderful. And we hope you’re remembering several times a day to be grateful for that.

Anonymous: This one issue will require starting a whole visa process over, costing significant time and money. I thought I’d come to understand these challenges as a way to show myself I can turn my problems around with my thoughts, and maybe I was able to do that with all the other situations that have turned out positively. However, I truly believed this last trouble would disappear, and this morning I’m shocked to find that it hasn’t gone my way. Was there anything I could have done differently?

Council: Of course, but not physically or an action to be taken physically. But when you’ve had such success turning things around and yet there’s one situation that hasn’t changed (it will take more time and more money), then it’s something you’ve pre-planned, something that will teach you how to handle your situation a different way.

Now this different way is for you to look at your situation and think: Maybe I’m looking at it the wrong way. Maybe there’s some other way I can look at my situation because there’s something else here that I need to learn, or there’s some person I need to have contact with. There’s another way to turn this situation around.

When you start thinking this way you sort of let go of the struggle. You think this must happen and you get angry because it hasn’t, but everything else has. Instead, it’s an interesting way to look at it and let go of the struggle process.

There’s something here. Something else you will learn. There’s something else to see, and that’s good for you because all good is happening. And because this situation is here, there is another way to look at it. You look at it in a way that there’s something else, another way that you’ll learn to get through this. It will be easy. You will be surprised, You’ll have joy from it.

But instead of the struggle, think about your situation as a question. Hmmm, my higher self is still showing me this situation. There’s something else I must learn. And in that way you are in control. And it’s a much calmer feeling, it’s a much lighter feeling when you think: Very interesting. There’s another way for me to look at this situation. So let me go forward with this.

Bob: It’s interesting that you mention another way of looking at this situation because Anonymous says…

Anonymous: Reading Sophie’s post on, Did I Have Past Lives In Atlantis?, it strikes me as another way of looking at the situation is that maybe I wasn’t listening to the signs saying: This isn’t going to work out for that specific issue.

Council: In that specific way that you thought it would, but there’s a surprise. The universe will surprise you. When you let go of the struggle and be open to: What is it that I need to learn, and how do I go about it?

Anonymous: Stubbornness and positivity saw me through on the other difficulties. I’m not sure why it didn’t work out in the way I wanted it to this time.

Council: Because that energy – stubbornness and trying to force it to happen – that’s a heavy energy. That’s you trying to push yourself through this and change the situation with just pure willpower. But there’s an easier way, and that’s what we ask you to feel. Feel it. Like this is so interesting. This won’t go away until I’m open to looking at my situation differently. That I will be shown by another person, by a bunch of people, or by documents that are needed, that it can change. And it won’t be difficult because I’m letting go of the struggle. I am opening to see how this will happen.

Anonymous: How can I look at the information about this situation more clearly?

Council: By knowing that there is something else. There’s another way to do this that you haven’t been open to. That you feel the struggle and all the time it will be taking. You need to go through this again, but that’s an old thought, that’s an old way. So the way for you to go through this is to relax. Be like a child excited about something new coming in, some surprise that will be easy, and let this situation change.

Anonymous: There are many things in my life to be very grateful for, but it’s unusual for me to get cast up on the rocks over and over again when normally things are smooth sailing.

Council: Well it’s not being cast up on the rocks. It’s being put back in the classroom. Now look at it. Look at what’s on the blackboard. Look at it differently. Look at it with interest, like a puzzle, and laugh. It’s there. It’s right in front of you. And do that with excitement.

Anonymous: I’m trying the techniques The Council has suggested to turn things around on a spiritual level as well as other practical efforts.

Council: This is another way to do it. This is the way you need to do it now because of how things have changed.

Anonymous: But I expect more course correction is needed and I’d greatly appreciate your suggestions on how to do that.

Council: And you just got our suggestions.

Anonymous: Finally, I’ve been seeing a lot of angel numbers around recently. Many more than I normally have. Angel numbers aren’t something I’ve paid attention to at all until now. Is seeing the numbers 333, 555, 777, and sometimes 222, and 1111 multiple times a day a sign? And what am I supposed to be taking away from it?

Council: In your reality now angel numbers are so popular. It means this, it means that. If you see it, it’s a sign. It’s a sign, but it’s not a sign of a specific thing. It’s your guides, it’s your angels, getting you to laugh and getting you excited when you see these numbers to show you they are around. There’s help there for you, and it’s just to get you to know that this help that you need is right there for you.

So a specific number doesn’t really mean anything unless it’s what you prefer to believe – 333 will bring me money, 444 will bring me a new home, but not really. What it means is: We’re here. Think of what you want. Relax. Feel it. Feel your way through what you want, and the universe has to deliver it.

Anonymous: Thank you for all you do. I always enjoy reading your posts and ponder the wisdom provided in this blog often.

Council: Wonderful, wonderful questions. This has been such a joy for us. And we’ll send everybody love and happiness on their journey, and remind everyone to stay with the positive thoughts. In your reality, because of what is going on, a lot of positive thoughts are needed. And when you tap into this and more and more of you do this, the whole reality that you exist in right now will change. The course of your world is up to you. It all comes with the right thinking.

You have created your lives with the special people in them for a purpose. You have agreed to do things together. And always the agreement was to have happy thoughts, positive thoughts, finding things that don’t work right and finding a way to get them to work right. Help each other, help animals, help the trees, and  help the ocean. You’re all here together to make this reality better and better.

And so we wish you joy. And remember, coming into this life you came in with the thought of having a joyous time and to find happiness everywhere. And that is your purpose. Have a happy life. Enjoy it. Create fun. Create love. You can all do this.

Listen to the entire 12-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready.

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July 29, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Feelings, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 5 Comments