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How Can I Help This Man Who’s Dealing With Loss?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Curious. She says, A family friend who I haven’t heard from in years, maybe decades, reached out to me recently because he’s dealing with loss and he’s having a difficult time with it. He thought that since I was also grieving he’d get in touch and maybe we can be a listening ear to each other. I’m trying to help him, but I’m struggling with my own grief. I’m very moody and sometimes I’m sharp with him. I talk about my own problems instead of helping him, so I’m not sure I can be of help.

The Council says the two of you pre-planned in spirit for this man to reach out to you, be supportive, and for you to help each other get through the grieving process. When you speak about your own problems, that’s a way of sharing and helping the other person, even if you don’t see it that way. You can talk about feelings and things you think about. When you share these it helps the other person. Don’t be so hard on yourself and know that this was planned in spirit. Your way of helping is by sharing. And pay attention to what this other person shares. It’ll make an impact on your life.

Curious was told she should try to be of service to others, so she’s trying. The Council asks if Curious knows when she’s of service to others she’s also bringing healing energy to herself. It’s never a one-way issue.

Curious asks, How can I be of service to him and others? The Council says by doing exactly what you’re doing. Go through your moods and feelings and share them. How the two of you share your experience with each other is how you help each other in this situation. When helping others, always be a good listener. Be compassionate and find comforting words that you feel. As long as you feel and believe it will help this person, share that.

Curious says, I’m curious if we’ve had past lives together and I’m supposed to help him during this time. The Council repeats that this was pre-planned and mentions that you’ve shared a few other lives together. Because of these other lives there’s comfort with each other, a lot of learning together, and a lot of joy together. In this lifetime, because you’re both dealing with grief, there’s the desire to come together and deal with this grief together.

Curious says, I don’t know his intentions and I don’t want to be rude and directly ask him what they are because he’s very fragile, grieving, and needing support. The Council says his intention is to support you and not feel alone in his grief.

Curious says, I don’t want to assume someone always wants something, but I wonder why he’s contacting me now. The Council says it’s not that he wants something from you. He’s contacting you so you can share your experience.

Curious asks if this relationship will be for a short time and once he’s moved on from his grief, things will be back to how they were and we’re just crossing paths for only this moment? The Council says they feel the creations you’re both working on right now is to keep this friendship and not disappear from each other’s lives. If the both of you continue to have these thoughts of a longer-term relationship, you’ll create this. We can’t predict ahead of time what you’ll create with your thoughts and your feelings, but you planned to stay in touch.

Curious says, This experience has shown me that I’d love to be of service to others and help them. I’m even thinking of trying to learn Reiki or something like that. Is this something I should pursue, or just stick to concentrating all my energy on my sons? The Council says they always advise pursuing healing modalities. By learning Reiki you’ll learn more about energy and vibration and how to work with it. This is a very good thing. By learning Reiki you’ll learn how to heal yourself, you’ll learn how to heal others, and you’ll be of service, which is what you wanted.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Curious and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it in one of the Comment boxes that appear toward the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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June 15, 2021 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Helping Others, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , ,


  1. Thanks, Susan. We agree. Thanks for your input.

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    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | June 18, 2021

  2. Great advice and wisdom. I’ll add that if you learn Reiki it’s more than just learning a skill, you will be changed for the better. The act of becoming Reiki attuned is a major healing in and of itself, which is something most people don’t realize.

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    Comment by mariner2mother | June 16, 2021

  3. Hello,
    During covid I became very spiritual.I now practice meditation on a daily basis.I am reading many books channeled by ascended masters. I am doing many things to raise my vibration but I can’t seem to hear or see my guides or masters.I have asked many times for the guides and my ascended masters to let their presence be known to me .
    I would love to know who they are and make direct contact with them. . Is there anything you can suggest that they would want me to do to raise my vibration enough so that this is possible.
    Thank you -Hopeful

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    Comment by Susan | June 15, 2021

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