What’s the Purpose of My Meeting This Man Online?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Puzzled Aquarius, who met a guy online 11 years ago, had online contact on and off over the 11 years, but they’ve never met in person. The Council says it wasn’t planned in spirit for this reality that the two of you would get together permanently.
The Council says the first past life we’d like to share with you that’s affecting your current relationship takes place in England. You were in a religious order living in a convent. In this life he was a gardener and handyman. You’d speak to each other even though you were cloistered and really shouldn’t have been conversing with this man. There was flirtation going on, and yet you both knew the relationship could go no further.
In that life you built a bond and shared a closeness that you experienced a lot of guilt over this because it was against your religious order. The gardener knew he couldn’t push you in any way to create any sort of a relationship. It was a strong friendship and that’s how it remained in that life.
After that particular life you both planned that you’d like to come back and be close and see where you could take this next life. But what happened was you created a life where you were brothers who were close, but there was also great competition. One was always trying to win over the other, trying to be better, trying to have more than the other. This was to learn how to try and be together without the rules, without anyone saying you can’t do this like they did in England. You picked being brothers and you tried to build a closeness then.
In your current life you thought you’d give a relationship another chance. There were no plans made in spirit to see where this relationship would go. You didn’t know when you’d meet, if you’d meet, or what would happen. In your current reality it was arranged that you’d see day by day what would happen.
There may be a closeness that’s felt, that you want the same things, but we also see in this lifetime there’s part of a subconscious memory of your life in England that keeps this man from taking your relationship further. He likes the connection. He likes when the two of you talk. He likes knowing where you are, but there was no close relationship planned. You agreed to see what happens. You’re going into this relationship again, but is it what you want?
If it’s not what you want, can you let go of it? Like your relationship in England, can you have conversations and meetings every now and then and be satisfied with that? That’s the best you and this man are likely to achieve in this lifetime. That’s what’s going on. Of course you can always try with your thoughts and feelings to make this relationship more if that’s what you want. You can create anything, but you didn’t plan in spirit that it would be more.
Puzzled Aquarius says, I don’t understand why, after so long, we get connected and disconnected and we never seem to meet. What’s the purpose of this. The Council says the purpose is for the both of you to see what you could create. What you’re experiencing is the best of what you’ve created in your current lifetime. That’s all that was wanted. Let’s see what we can do. Now that you’re aware of this, is it enough? Would you like to hang onto this, or would you like to look elsewhere for a permanent relationship?
Puzzled Aquarius says we’re both still single, no children, never married, but we both want these things and we have a deep connection when we chat. The Council says this deep connection is something you also had in the relationship in your lifetime in England.
We’ve video-talked also. It’s like we’ve known each other from so many lifetimes. Did we have a recent past life and is that the reason why we’ve found each other? What were we to each other if we did, and what was the point of this? The Council says these two lives we’ve described to you are what are affecting your present life. The point was to try and get together again and see if you could create more closeness and to see how far you could take a relationship with the freedom to do whatever. Coming and going is part of this freedom. With the understanding of why this relationship is happening, is it wonderful? Would you like to keep this creation, and perhaps create it again in the future?
This man would have difficulty committing to a permanent relationship in this lifetime because he’s not consciously aware the lifetime in England is affecting him, but it is. It’s not only how he acts with you. The subconscious memories from his life in England have him acting the way he does with many other people. He doesn’t have a desire to get closer. There’s a desire to keep his distance, being a friend, but not committing.
Puzzled Aquarius says, I want to meet him, but can you see if this will eventually happen? The Council says where you’d want this, we don’t see him wanting this at this time. And yet he’s the creator and can change at any moment.
This man likes the idea of speaking or writing to people and finding out they also want the same things he wants. This is a closeness he craves, but there’s no intention of going beyond this. He’s interested in finding people who agree with him and what he wants that these other people also want.
We don’t see your relationship with this man going in a permanent direction, but as the creators, as you develop, as you experience and live this life, you can change what you want. A romantic connection is there on some level, but not at the level you’re looking for.
Puzzled Aquarius may be able to find a permanent relationship if she chooses to look somewhere else.
The Council closes by advising us to take information from our past, but don’t stay stuck in those lives. Take all that information and use it to further yourself in the life you’re creating at this time. We in spirit, as we watch you and see how you grow, learn from you and we grow also. We’re all gifts to each other.
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Hi, Capricorn. We’ll be happy to ask The Council about the man you met 5 years ago when we have time, and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for you question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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Hi Cynthia, Bob, and the Council. I was wondering if you could possibly help me with a query I have been struggling with. Thank you for what you do on this blog by the way !
There is a man I briefly met in higher education about 5 years ago. I am inexplicably drawn to him. We barely spoke (we were more like friendly acquaintances) but as far as I know there was a mutual physical attraction. I haven’t seen him in years so I initially forgot about him. But at the beginning of this year, he popped into my head out of the blue and I started thinking about him again.
I can’t figure out why I’m so drawn to him when we barely spoke. I do find him attractive, but there are many physically and mentally attractive people around. And we were only acquaintances so it should be relatively easy to forget him.
Could you please help me figure out if that is all there is to this “crush” of mine? Did I sign a particular soul contract with him going into this life, or did I have any past lives with him? Or is this purely about physical attraction / my own issues with limerence and nothing more?
We seem to be quite similar in some ways and have interests in common, so intuitively I felt there might be something more there. But I can’t explain any of it.
Also, can I manifest a relationship with him if I decided to do that, or would that be impinging on his free will?
Thank you and love to you all, Capricorn. xx
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No problem, Christine. Please be patient. It may take a while before your post is ready to be published. Love and light.
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Hello, I didnt realise the previous question was sent, so I had rewritten it. Any advice wold be gratefully received. Thankyou!! xx
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Hi, Christine. We already asked The Council your similar question from your comment on April 9, and we’re waiting to publish a post with an audio recording of The Council’s response. Please wait until we publish this post to see if all your questions have been answered. We will not be doing another session to answer your questions from this more recent comment from April 27. We hope you understand. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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Dear Cynthia, Bob and The Council,
I have met this elusive internet man twice now and it was a million times better than expected. We both agree that we have known each other in so many lifetimes, but i was wondering if we have ever been in a relationship in any of the lifetimes? The past 3 months I have been participating in a women’s healing groups where we do a cacao ceremony, journalling, breath work and meditation. I feel absolutely amazing after these sessions and feel like my soul has had a cleanse. unexpected opportunities occur after these healing circles. I had zero interest in breath work, however, when I did my first session, I went into a past life. I was in Egypt in a temple and the feeling of being there was pure calmness and I knew my place. It’s hard to explain. The way the world is today, was not like that at the time. Stress and anxiety did not exist. There was not even word for it and no one had even experienced the feeling of it. The way they describe Egypt on documentaries was not what I felt in that past life. I saw myself as a priestess and I felt really grounded, not only to earth, but to everything in the universe. I had no idea what to expect with breathwork, but now im loving it.
The second time I did breath work, a month later, I wanted to know how I knew internet guy. I don’t know if it was just my imagination, but I was in Egypt, again, and I was on a throne laughing and relaxed, and I saw him in the crowd, down below from where I was sitting. I did not want to see his face and blurred his head and shoulders purposely, and pointed at him, ‘I know where your’e from, I know where you’re from. Thankyou for loving me’. Is this from my ego wanting to create a story or was I really in two past lives? I feel like he’s getting justice towards me because I think we’ve never been able to be in a relationship in any of the lives and he’s punishing me in this current incantation. Can you please clarify and confirm if we were ever together and were those visions I saw during breath work real?
I understand the reason he ghosts me in this life is because he has a mental illness, but is there still a possibility to create a relationship by using law of assumption?
any guidence would greatly appreciated with gratitude,
Much Love, Christine xx
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Dear Cynthia, Bob and the council, I have finally met this online guy, twice! Our connection is incredible, however, I realised that the reason it’s been so hard for us to meet and manage any stability is due to his mental illness. Although I fully support him and want to be there for him, I can’t deal with the ghosting. He’s either completely obsessed with me or disappears and I don’t exist. I really sense we’ve had so many lives together, and he agrees, but were we ever in a romantic relationship in any lifetimes? I’d love to know that. I’ve discovered when he ghost me, he’s playing video games and I think he’s living in a virtual world, but in 14 years of communication, he’s never mentioned it at all. When he tells me he loves me, is it true or is it the mental illness talking? When he tells me, I can feel it and I can hear it, but is it really him and is it coming from his soul? He believes I’m his soul mate, but I feel we’re karmic. I feel like he’s punishing me in this life due to our previous past lives. Am I able to manifest a relationship with him or if we have not planned in this lifetime to be together, am I unable to do that? I thought you can manifest whatever you want? I’d love some answers and would be grateful and you can provide me with some guidance. Much love, Christine xxx
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Glad you liked the blog, Puzzled Aquarius, and happy it’s given you clarification. We’re so glad you love our blog.
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That was such an incredible response, Thankyou. And it all makes sense on why he is a runner. This has given me the clarification I needed. Thankyou for helping so many people. I absolutely love this blog.
Love and light,
Puzzled Aquarius xxx
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