How Can I Overcome Stage Fright With My Dancing Hobby?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar Child: I want to know why I’m in a toxic circle for so many years with my dancing hobby. I don’t know why I have so many emotional problems with it. All my life dancing has been my biggest hobby. It’s made me feel happy, free, and alive when I dance just for myself or with other students, and I’m not bad at all.
Council: And that’s a wonderful thing. You’re doing something, whether it’s for work or a hobby, if it brings you pleasure, if it makes you feel good, that is a wonderful thing. And you’re on the right path
Bluestar Child: But I stopped going to classes many times because I have a stage phobia and I hate dancing in front of an audience. It makes me anxious, I get mentally and emotionally blocked, my mind goes blank, and I forget the choreography.
Council: And so at this point in your reality you’re aware enough of these feelings, and so we’d ask you to ask yourself, if you feel this way then why do you do it? Is there a person with a gun to your head? Are they going to throw you into a cell if you don’t perform in front of an audience?
It’s important to know how you feel and to follow your feelings because your feelings come from your higher self, which is you. And so your feelings are trying to tell you that you love dancing. It’s giving you that answer, but you don’t like doing it in front of an audience. And so your higher self, again which is you, is telling you that you don’t need to do it this way. So ask yourself, why do you force yourself to do it?
You’re in a place in this reality where you’ll create your future. You have choices. You are free to make decisions that make you happy. Always go for the happy feeling. That is your guidance.
Bluestar Child: Do I have past lives that are affecting me in developing my hobby?
Council: There was one particular life in India with dancing that you would do with other women and you’d also perform on your own. At the age of no more than 25 years old the people that owned you or took care of you would take the girls that reached that age and no longer have them dance. And either they would make them be concubines or they would kill them. And so there’s a subconscious memory you have of when you don’t dance, when that time is up and you don’t do what they ask, you’ll then lose your life. And that’s where your fear comes from.
Bluestar Child: Does my problem come from the lack of self-esteem as a woman from my childhood in this current lifetime?
Council: Not at all. You are working through that.
Bluestar Child: Although my teachers know about my problem dancing in public, they ask me or pressure me to dance at galas and events, even if they have nothing to do with my classes, and always for free.
Council: Do you see the connection, how in this past life you’d be told to dance, whether you wanted to or not? You weren’t paid for it. This was just something you had to do. And so this time you’re trying to find another way to handle your situation and enjoy the dancing, but have the choice of whether you want to perform in front of an audience or not, and have a good ending for you, have a good ending to this problem, to this fear, and to move on.
Bluestar Child: They never want to pay me for this job and it seems to me that they abuse me.
Council: Ahh, bingo, another connection with your past life. Do you see it now?
Bluestar Child: And when I tell them, no, that causes problems for me, and my teachers, and with the other students. Is what I’m doing correct, or should I perform in front of an audience?
Council: We feel you know this answer, but we tell you if it’s not bringing you happiness, then dancing for an audience isn’t correct, and that you have the ability to change how you handle this. You have a choice.
Bluestar Child: I’m stressed and I don’t know how to handle this situation that causes me suffering. And since I don’t know how to solve it in another way, in the end I always end up leaving classes to avoid having to dance in public.
I feel very attached, in particular, to Arabic belly dancing…
Council: Ahh, yes.
Bluestar Child: …and Egypt, and I feel that I’ve already danced this dance in another life. I’d like to know if this is the case, or why I have this deep feeling since I learned about this dance.
Council: This is because you have done it before and you did have pleasure from it. And you have pleasure, you’ve created it again in this reality where this dance would bring you joy. And so we say, do it, but do it only for yourself if that’s what gives you joy.
Bluestar Child: I’d like to know how I can approach ancestral belly dance for spiritual development because I feel that I have a spiritual mission to fulfill with it, but I don’t know what it is or how to achieve it.
Council: So what you’d do here would be to dance, to sit and meditate after you dance, or even meditate before you dance, and ask for the feeling, ask for the visions of how you had it before and what you loved about it. And you’ll link into this other life and then when you decide in your current reality to handle the situation your way, the joy you get from this dancing will increase a hundredfold and you will find other ways to use this dancing.
So you don’t have to know how this will happen now, but with the meditation and using your imagination, what would that have been like in India, what would that have been like in Rome, what would that have been like in Egypt, When you dance and you ask for this, the answers will come. And why the answers will come is because this dancing brings you joy. When it brings you joy, the answers will come.
Remember to have fun on this journey that you’ve created for yourself, to have fun with the spirits around you that you’ve welcomed into your life, and always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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What’s the Purpose of My Meeting This Man Online?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Puzzled Aquarius, who met a guy online 11 years ago, had online contact on and off over the 11 years, but they’ve never met in person. The Council says it wasn’t planned in spirit for this reality that the two of you would get together permanently.
The Council says the first past life we’d like to share with you that’s affecting your current relationship takes place in England. You were in a religious order living in a convent. In this life he was a gardener and handyman. You’d speak to each other even though you were cloistered and really shouldn’t have been conversing with this man. There was flirtation going on, and yet you both knew the relationship could go no further.
In that life you built a bond and shared a closeness that you experienced a lot of guilt over this because it was against your religious order. The gardener knew he couldn’t push you in any way to create any sort of a relationship. It was a strong friendship and that’s how it remained in that life.
After that particular life you both planned that you’d like to come back and be close and see where you could take this next life. But what happened was you created a life where you were brothers who were close, but there was also great competition. One was always trying to win over the other, trying to be better, trying to have more than the other. This was to learn how to try and be together without the rules, without anyone saying you can’t do this like they did in England. You picked being brothers and you tried to build a closeness then.
In your current life you thought you’d give a relationship another chance. There were no plans made in spirit to see where this relationship would go. You didn’t know when you’d meet, if you’d meet, or what would happen. In your current reality it was arranged that you’d see day by day what would happen.
There may be a closeness that’s felt, that you want the same things, but we also see in this lifetime there’s part of a subconscious memory of your life in England that keeps this man from taking your relationship further. He likes the connection. He likes when the two of you talk. He likes knowing where you are, but there was no close relationship planned. You agreed to see what happens. You’re going into this relationship again, but is it what you want?
If it’s not what you want, can you let go of it? Like your relationship in England, can you have conversations and meetings every now and then and be satisfied with that? That’s the best you and this man are likely to achieve in this lifetime. That’s what’s going on. Of course you can always try with your thoughts and feelings to make this relationship more if that’s what you want. You can create anything, but you didn’t plan in spirit that it would be more.
Puzzled Aquarius says, I don’t understand why, after so long, we get connected and disconnected and we never seem to meet. What’s the purpose of this. The Council says the purpose is for the both of you to see what you could create. What you’re experiencing is the best of what you’ve created in your current lifetime. That’s all that was wanted. Let’s see what we can do. Now that you’re aware of this, is it enough? Would you like to hang onto this, or would you like to look elsewhere for a permanent relationship?
Puzzled Aquarius says we’re both still single, no children, never married, but we both want these things and we have a deep connection when we chat. The Council says this deep connection is something you also had in the relationship in your lifetime in England.
We’ve video-talked also. It’s like we’ve known each other from so many lifetimes. Did we have a recent past life and is that the reason why we’ve found each other? What were we to each other if we did, and what was the point of this? The Council says these two lives we’ve described to you are what are affecting your present life. The point was to try and get together again and see if you could create more closeness and to see how far you could take a relationship with the freedom to do whatever. Coming and going is part of this freedom. With the understanding of why this relationship is happening, is it wonderful? Would you like to keep this creation, and perhaps create it again in the future?
This man would have difficulty committing to a permanent relationship in this lifetime because he’s not consciously aware the lifetime in England is affecting him, but it is. It’s not only how he acts with you. The subconscious memories from his life in England have him acting the way he does with many other people. He doesn’t have a desire to get closer. There’s a desire to keep his distance, being a friend, but not committing.
Puzzled Aquarius says, I want to meet him, but can you see if this will eventually happen? The Council says where you’d want this, we don’t see him wanting this at this time. And yet he’s the creator and can change at any moment.
This man likes the idea of speaking or writing to people and finding out they also want the same things he wants. This is a closeness he craves, but there’s no intention of going beyond this. He’s interested in finding people who agree with him and what he wants that these other people also want.
We don’t see your relationship with this man going in a permanent direction, but as the creators, as you develop, as you experience and live this life, you can change what you want. A romantic connection is there on some level, but not at the level you’re looking for.
Puzzled Aquarius may be able to find a permanent relationship if she chooses to look somewhere else.
The Council closes by advising us to take information from our past, but don’t stay stuck in those lives. Take all that information and use it to further yourself in the life you’re creating at this time. We in spirit, as we watch you and see how you grow, learn from you and we grow also. We’re all gifts to each other.
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Is a Career in Human Resources Right for Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who wants to know if they can provide a spiritual perspective on her struggle to find good jobs. She says I don’t understand why I have problems with this and I’m especially afraid of interviews. I’m at the point where I want to move forward in my career and my life, but I feel stuck, unsure, and overwhelmed.
The Council says the reason you’re having difficulty comes from a past life in New York where you were in a large, very religious, and strict family. You were sent out into the world at a very early age to earn a living. Many of the places where you worked took advantage of you by not paying you or paying you very little. It became very difficult for you to go out and find work, which is what’s affecting you in your current life.
The subconscious memory of this past life is affecting how you feel about work and getting a good job. In this past life you always wanted a better job, a job where you were appreciated, a job where your employer would keep you coming back day after day.
Coming into your current life you created a situation where you’d have this uncomfortable feeling and work through it by having a job and not being afraid to move forward by applying for different positions. In your subconscious mind you expect to fail and so it’s very uncomfortable for you. What you wanted to do to heal this memory was to feel that feeling and then go forward and do it anyway and see that you’re accepted, which would give you more self-confidence, which you didn’t have in that past life.
Denisa says she has worked mostly as an Accountant, but now she’d like to start working in Human Resources. Is this move the correct direction for me now or is there another career path ready for me? The Council says Human Resources is a wonderful career path for you because you bring forward feelings from that past life where you had difficulty finding and keeping a job. In Human Resources you can help other people find positions they are good at and this will heal the feelings of being stuck that’s coming from the past life.
Go forward with this career in Human Resources. Learn what you can. Prepare yourself for this career move and you can become very successful. Begin to have confidence in yourself now that you know where these negative feelings are coming from. Know that you chose, in spirit, to have these feelings so you could heal them and turn your life around.
Denisa asks what spiritual or life lessons do I need to learn from this situation. The Council answers, confidence, believing in yourself, and helping others.
Denisa asks if The Council sees her in a new job later this year. The Council says it’s very difficult to give a time frame because you’ll create how slow or how fast you go on your path. If you do the inner work, meditate on this move, and follow through with your gut feelings, by next summer you can create a whole new path.
The Council thanks Denisa for coming forward with these emotions to work on them and heal them. As you heal them you help others who will heal from what you accomplish. We learn new realities in spirit and humans can climb the ladder of success with whatever they’re trying to heal from past lives. One energy always touches another.
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Is There a Past Life Relationship to My Being Underweight My Whole Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wonder, who says I’ve been underweight my whole life and I’ve tried to gain weight many times. Sometimes I’m successful, but something always comes along to disrupt my weight gaining journey and bring me back to my previous weight. Do I have a past life that’s affecting my difficulty having a normal weight?
The Council says there’s a particular life in the courts of France where you came from a wealthy family and witnessed many wealthy people hoarding food, living a life of abundance, and not sharing while many people didn’t have enough food or places to live.
In that life you cared about others who were hungry, always trying to help these people, and generously fed them. But you ended that life very upset and not understanding how the other wealthy people could be obese while others had nothing.
You’ve come into your current life with the subconscious memory of that life in France and the belief that you don’t want to misuse your body and become overweight. The best thing you can do now is understand how you helped so many in that past life. In your current life you don’t have to make yourself look the way those poor people in France looked to understand what they went through. There’s a part of you that came forward thinking you had to be the way the poor people were.
In your current life how much do you give to others and share? When you do this, remember you’ve done this in an earlier life and there’s no need to deprive yourself to keep your body where you don’t want it to be. This is your struggle with gaining weight. The memory is there that if you eat, you’re taking away from others.
That was then and this is now. You can put on weight if you want to. It’s not taking away from others. You aren’t responsible for others not having enough food. When you understand this and how past lives can affect your present life, you’ll be able to gain the weight you desire.
What you want to experience in your current life is giving more of yourself and feeling good about this, and to understand the issues of how your body looks are separate from what you’re trying to experience.
Read and understand how past lives affect you, not just on eating, but on any challenge you face in your current life. See how other people have come to understand what they’ve gone through and how they’re able to change their life.
When you truly understand you have so many subconscious memories from that past life that are keeping you from looking the way you want to look in your current life, you can begin to change this. Understanding your past helps you reveal the lessons you wish to learn.
Your appetite will return and you’ll understand how much you’ve done for others. There’s no need to experience the hardship of not eating and not looking the way you wish to look. When the understanding comes your appetite will return, you’ll gain the weight, and you’ll slowly change that lesson.
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Disconnecting From a Woman Who Wants an Intimate Relationship With Her Husband
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Sarah, who says her husband had an affair 5 years ago, but they agreed to stay together and work through this difficulty. They have two children. The current issue is that the woman her husband had the affair with insists on continuing contact with my husband.
The Council says in another lifetime in England this woman was the very possessive mother of your husband, and her possessiveness prevented him from forming healthy relationships with women. This woman has brought into her current life some memories of this previous lifetime, and that’s why The Council feels it will be difficult for this woman to let go of Sarah’s husband right now.
The Council asks Sarah what she’s doing to stop this woman from having continued contact with her husband? If there are phone calls, the best way to handle this is not to answer this woman’s calls and feed her possessiveness. It’s this woman’s challenge to release her possessiveness of Sarah’s husband and Sarah is unable to help this woman meet the challenges she’s set up for herself at this time. Sarah is only able to find ways to stay out of communication with this woman at all times, no matter how this woman threatens Sarah and her husband. There must be no communication at all.
In your husband’s past life he allowed his mother (this woman) to be possessive and rule his life. He missed out on relationships that would have been fulfilling. In his current life will he allow this woman to interrupt what he’s planed with Sarah. The challenge your husband created for himself in your current lifetime is to find the courage to speak up.
If this woman hasn’t stopped her harassment, have you called the police to help you with this? If not, why not? Your challenge is to believe in yourself and that you’ll get the help you need from the police if you wish to end this harassment.
The Council says it’s time to change the environment around you. A new beginning and a move is needed to start fresh and get away from your problem with this woman. But before this move is made, you must both find the courage to ask for the help that’s needed. If this isn’t done, your current situation will follow you. Another situation will come along where courage to speak out is needed and for you to know you’re deserving of peace and harmony.
The challenge is your self-expression. This is coming from another lifetime to be healed in this lifetime. If your husband continues communication with this woman, you need to look at the reasons why. If there’s no communication, eventually this harassment will stop.
Sarah says she grew up in a conservative Baptist family, wasn’t taught about things like chakras and vibrations, and she’s been slowly trying to learn about things like this on her own. The Council says this was planned by Sarah and it’s time for her to go further on her spiritual path and learn about these things. The book, Emmanuel, by Pat Rodegast will help her right now.
Sarah says her husband wants to move to a new house, but her heart’s not in it. She doesn’t feel finished living in her current house. The Council says Sarah isn’t so much unfinished with living in their house as she is unfinished with the challenge this woman represents in her life. When you feel you have more of a hold on the situation with this woman, clarity will come and you’ll be ready to move into a new house.
The Council says Sarah has many abandonment issues and change and fear from several past lives also come into this situation, but it’s secondary to the challenge of this woman and her relationship to your family. The #1 priority right now is beginning to change your relationship with this woman who is interfering in your life and how you work together with your husband to get through this challenge.
The Council adds that in a past life Sarah was a man who sent his family away to live in better conditions in the western part of the United States. Unfortunately they were living alone and were attacked and killed. Subconsciously Sarah carries this memory with her. If a fear comes up about what will happen to her family if they move, this is carried from that lifetime and a move when the time is right will be good and you won’t loose any of your family.
The Council closes by saying there will be much understanding and peace coming from reading the Emmanuel book mentioned earlier and they suggest also reading the second Emmanuel book also.
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Past Life Death and an Abortion in This Life
This post is inspired by follow up questions from a private phone session for a reader named Andrea, who was told her abortion last summer was pre-planned before she was born and the spirit of the child was waiting to return to her in a future pregnancy. The abortion was related to a past life where she died in an orphanage fire where she was taking care of the children, and she’s struggling to understand the relationship between these two events.
The Council says in this past life, not being able to save herself and the children from this fire, she died feeling guilty and with the belief she doesn’t deserve to have children around her. In her current lifetime she comes in wanting children, but the subconscious memory from the lifetime with the fire makes her believe she cannot take care of them.
Andrea must learn this is a different life from her life with the fire and now she has a chance to redo her experience with children and become a great parent or teacher. When she truly believes this she will have one or more children and there will be no more miscarriages or abortions.
Andrea’s abortion was the result of her subconscious belief she wasn’t worthy to give birth to a child and be around them. As she learns to focus on all the good things she’ll be able to create in a life with children and brings love into the current reality, she’ll be able to give birth to one or more children.
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