Disconnecting From a Woman Who Wants an Intimate Relationship With Her Husband
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Sarah, who says her husband had an affair 5 years ago, but they agreed to stay together and work through this difficulty. They have two children. The current issue is that the woman her husband had the affair with insists on continuing contact with my husband.
The Council says in another lifetime in England this woman was the very possessive mother of your husband, and her possessiveness prevented him from forming healthy relationships with women. This woman has brought into her current life some memories of this previous lifetime, and that’s why The Council feels it will be difficult for this woman to let go of Sarah’s husband right now.
The Council asks Sarah what she’s doing to stop this woman from having continued contact with her husband? If there are phone calls, the best way to handle this is not to answer this woman’s calls and feed her possessiveness. It’s this woman’s challenge to release her possessiveness of Sarah’s husband and Sarah is unable to help this woman meet the challenges she’s set up for herself at this time. Sarah is only able to find ways to stay out of communication with this woman at all times, no matter how this woman threatens Sarah and her husband. There must be no communication at all.
In your husband’s past life he allowed his mother (this woman) to be possessive and rule his life. He missed out on relationships that would have been fulfilling. In his current life will he allow this woman to interrupt what he’s planed with Sarah. The challenge your husband created for himself in your current lifetime is to find the courage to speak up.
If this woman hasn’t stopped her harassment, have you called the police to help you with this? If not, why not? Your challenge is to believe in yourself and that you’ll get the help you need from the police if you wish to end this harassment.
The Council says it’s time to change the environment around you. A new beginning and a move is needed to start fresh and get away from your problem with this woman. But before this move is made, you must both find the courage to ask for the help that’s needed. If this isn’t done, your current situation will follow you. Another situation will come along where courage to speak out is needed and for you to know you’re deserving of peace and harmony.
The challenge is your self-expression. This is coming from another lifetime to be healed in this lifetime. If your husband continues communication with this woman, you need to look at the reasons why. If there’s no communication, eventually this harassment will stop.
Sarah says she grew up in a conservative Baptist family, wasn’t taught about things like chakras and vibrations, and she’s been slowly trying to learn about things like this on her own. The Council says this was planned by Sarah and it’s time for her to go further on her spiritual path and learn about these things. The book, Emmanuel, by Pat Rodegast will help her right now.
Sarah says her husband wants to move to a new house, but her heart’s not in it. She doesn’t feel finished living in her current house. The Council says Sarah isn’t so much unfinished with living in their house as she is unfinished with the challenge this woman represents in her life. When you feel you have more of a hold on the situation with this woman, clarity will come and you’ll be ready to move into a new house.
The Council says Sarah has many abandonment issues and change and fear from several past lives also come into this situation, but it’s secondary to the challenge of this woman and her relationship to your family. The #1 priority right now is beginning to change your relationship with this woman who is interfering in your life and how you work together with your husband to get through this challenge.
The Council adds that in a past life Sarah was a man who sent his family away to live in better conditions in the western part of the United States. Unfortunately they were living alone and were attacked and killed. Subconsciously Sarah carries this memory with her. If a fear comes up about what will happen to her family if they move, this is carried from that lifetime and a move when the time is right will be good and you won’t loose any of your family.
The Council closes by saying there will be much understanding and peace coming from reading the Emmanuel book mentioned earlier and they suggest also reading the second Emmanuel book also.
Listen to our entire 13-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Sarah and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.
Tell others about this post:
4 Comments »
Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question
Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
Finding Your Way Around the Blog
Home Page
The left-hand column on the Home page contain a long chronological series of posts with the most recent on top. Each post begins with a title. Clicking on a post title will take you to a blog page dedicated to that particular post. Following each post is a Like button where you can indicate to us and other readers if you like the post.
The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.
Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.
At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:
Email Subscription: Use this to subscribe to blog posts. You will receive an email notification with a link back to the blog each time a new post is published.
Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.
Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
Bob & Cynthia
Ask The Council 
Thanks so much.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Interesting question, Susan. When we have time we’ll ask The Council about any past life relationships with your sister-in-law and see what they say about it. We’ll post their response as soon as it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
LikeLiked by 1 person
Bob, Cynthia, and The Council,
Great advice for a tricky situation. Reading the answer to Sarah’s question got me thinking about a tricky family situation I’ve got.
I have a sister-in-law (wife of my older brother – the one who treated me badly when we were growing up) who sometimes becomes very controlling. She sticks her nose into family issues that are not her responsibility, and has gotten her feelings hurt on more than one occasion.
Currently, because of her issues around control, jealousy, and poverty consciousness, she’s making my life and my younger brother’s life a living hell over one issue. Well, not quite hell, but close enough.
And my question to The Council is: Do I share a past life with this sister-in-law? Many years ago, we were close. And now, not so much (which is ok by me).
Thank you so much for all your helpful insights!
-Susan
LikeLiked by 1 person
wow! this is amazing, hoping for the best for Sarah and all those concerned
LikeLiked by 1 person