Please Help Me Heal My Trust Issues with Women
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Clare, who is asking for help with her trust issues with women. Clare says, As far as I can remember I’ve never felt full trust in women. It’s as if I know they’ll betray me or hurt me. I had some close friends, but the relationships always ended without an explanation. What happened that I can’t have closer and beautiful relationships with women?
The Council says there’s one lifetime where you had a twin sister who received all your parents’ attention. She was a bright and beautiful child and you were in her shadow. In that life you always felt less than everyone else. There were many other lives where you chose to have lessons about trust, about being your own individual, and about believing in yourself.
There was also a life where a very good friend that you’d trusted, died from a disease. With that woman taken from you, there was always the fear of other friendships and close people in your family, particularly women, would be taken from you.
There were two other lives where you wanted to experience the other end of the coin and you became very competitive. You enjoyed taking men away from the women they were with, which made you feel powerful. There were times where you had other people get in trouble for things you did. This isn’t anything for you to feel guilty about. It was just the experience you needed. In your current life you’re trying to bring in a lot of women to heal all those lifetimes where there were trust issues, where there was hurt that came from family and friends, and where there were abandonment issues.
Clare asks, Is there something I can learn from this? The Council says to first acknowledge that this is something you’re trying to heal in your current lifetime. It started from one particular experience with parents, but it continues in one form or another in other lives where you didn’t understand because you felt hurt when women were taken away from you. And then you decided to be what you’d consider the evil person and cause trouble for others. That was just the experience that you, in spirit, wanted. In your current life it’s good for you to connect and realize it’s just a healing that you’re looking for with women.
You created a space in your life where this doesn’t happen for a time, there are trust issues with women, and relationships with women don’t work out. In going through this you learn how other people in your past lives felt when you betrayed them, when you caused trouble for them, or when you took a loved one away from them. Just by understanding these things and realizing that was then, this is now, you’re ready to heal this.
Work on one relationship at a time. Don’t feel desperate. Don’t doubt it will work. Don’t go into fear. Just let the relationship flow. Concentrate on how you want each and every relationship to be. Go into detail about what you want. Think about how you’d like each relationship to develop. With the ease and the love inside of you and the pride you get from trying to heal this, things can begin to change.
Clare says, I’m asking for advice because I want good friendships. The Council says that’s very possible in your current lifetime. Remember that you are the creator. When you connect all those lifetimes, and you realize why you’re going through all this now, and that this is a healing process, this will make things much easier.
The Council says don’t wait for your situation to explode. Just flow with it. Meditation would be a great help. Even if it’s sitting in a chair for five minutes, just resting, thinking loving thoughts, thinking about anything that would make you happy, thinking about future goals, and thinking about things you’d like in your life and bring you joy.
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Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
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As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
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