Is This Man At Work Interested In Getting To Know Me Better?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Clueless. after she read our previous post on a similar subject, Is This Man Interested In Knowing Me Better?

Clueless: Wow, I’m experiencing the same thing. I haven’t asked the guy at work for coffee, but everyone says I should.

Council: So everyone knows what’s best for you, and what you should or should not do.

Clueless: So many people at work think he’s interested, but I see no signs at all.

Council: There’s your answer. That is what you have to learn. It doesn’t matter if one, two, fifty, or one hundred people tell you what to do. Do you see it? Do you feel it? Do you feel it’s right to go and do this? Does it make you comfortable? Does it make you uncomfortable? Forget what everyone else says. Learn to follow your intuition.

Clueless: I’d love to get to know him as a friend, as we have so much in common, but I fear the rejection.

Council: Everyone in your reality doesn’t like rejection. But you must remember that if you are rejected in this lifetime, that doesn’t mean you won’t create with this person in another lifetime.

But is this experience teaching you to ask for what you want? It might be good for you to become friends with this person, but how does it make you feel? That’s where your answer is. Forgetting what everyone else says, forgetting about the rejection, is the Earth going to explode if you are rejected? Are you going to walk down the street and get hit by a car, or better yet get hit by lightning because you’re rejected? No.

Can you take the chance of asking this man to have coffee with you, and if you get a, “No”, can you say, “Alright, so I was right and those other people were wrong.” And so I’ve had that experience, and let it go. It’s just an experience. But if there’s a part of you that wants to ask him to have coffee, that wants to be friends, take the chance. Nothing horrible will happen.

So what do you learn from rejection? It doesn’t feel good, but at least I took a chance. And the next time it will be easier to take a chance. Or someone will take a chance and ask you to have coffee.

So it’s all about following your intuition. And if everybody is thinking, “This guy is interested,” then you can always tell these people that he should ask you. And if they say, “Well, he’s shy,” you can just laugh and say, “Well he’ll get over his shyness if he wants to know me better. But be playful about it. Don’t take things so seriously.

You know we’ve all come here to learn and have fun. And jumping into this reality we knew whatever happens, I can handle it, but let’s see what I learn from this lifetime. Let’s see what I learn from this creating. Will it make me strong? Will it make me proud of myself? And that’s what this is all about. It’s not that if you are rejected the world comes to an end and you can never go forward. It’s taking a chance. Pat yourself on the back. It worked, I took a chance, it worked, or it didn’t work. Okay, that person is not ready. I was ready, but that person wasn’t, so this isn’t the time. That is all that it is.

Clueless: Whatever others are seeing, I’m not seeing it from him. He’s an awesome guy, but I don’t know if he’s shy, or purely just not interested.

Council: So you have a choice here to wait until you see some sign from him, or to just jump in and ask, or to just wait. Just follow your feeling if it tells you to wait. And that’s the answer. Do you take a chance? Can you stop relying on what everyone else is saying and wait it out, or take the chance? In your imagination, in your thoughts, you can always see him asking you out. Having the feeling: Oh, I’m so surprised, this feels so great, he’s asking me. Create it that way, from joy, from happiness, and you’ll get what you want.

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