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Can I Manifest A Romantic Relationship With A Guy I Met Online?

This post answers relationship questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine.

Christine: I have finally met this online guy twice. Our connection is incredible. However, I realize the reason it’s been so difficult for us to meet and manage any stability is due to his mental illness. Although I fully support him and want to be there for him, I can’t deal with the ghosting. He’s either completely obsessed with me, or disappears and I don’t exist.

Council: So from what we are hearing, it is very difficult to deal with this, and you’re not in a place that can accept it as it is and have the relationship when you can, or completely walk away. So #1, that is something you need to focus on and decide what works best for you.

Christine: I really sense we’ve had so many lives together, and he agrees, but were we ever in a romantic relationship in any lifetimes? I’d love to know that.

Council: We see many, many lifetimes, and yet – interesting that you ask this question – there’s never been a romantic relationship. You were always siblings or neighbors, and always growing up to around the age of 15, we see. And then, for whatever was going on in your lives at that time, you separated. So in your current lifetime, there is the coming together again, but in his way. This is how he will protect himself from the parting, which is not wanted.

Christine: I’ve discovered when he ghosts me, he’s playing video games, and I think he’s living in a virtual world.

Council: Yes.

Christine: But in 14 years of communication, he’s never mentioned it at all.

Council: So in 14 years this is never mentioned, you never got closer, and where it’s frustrating, you are still there in that relationship. What does this relationship give to you? And again, at this point, is this what you want? It’s a wonderful relationship if you find that it’s enough for you, but we hear and feel that more is wanted. In this particular relationship, and of course you can always change it, but it would take a lot of imagery, work, and feeling to change it. If that’s something you don’t want to do, then this will not get much better than what you have right now.

So there is the accepting that you wanted to learn, or put it on the side and have it when you can have it with this person, and find another relationship that’s more permanent.

So you have options here, but you have to figure out what it is, and then do the mental work to create it. That’s by meditating on it, seeing it down to the last detail the way you want it, over and over. And when you see it, feel it. Feel it like you already have it. And of course when you do this, the universe will bring it to you.

Christine: When he tells me he loves me, is it true, or is it the mental illness talking?

Council: In his reality, he does love you as best as he can, which is wonderful.

Christine: When he tells me, I can feel it and I can hear it, but is it really him, and is it coming from his soul?

Council: Of course it’s really him. There is no fake him. It’s what he’s feeling. And we would say, it would be nice for you to be able to accept that. Because as much as he can love you, he loves you.

Christine: He believes I’m his soulmate, but I feel we’re karmic. I feel like he’s punishing me in this life because of our previous past lives.

Council: There is no punishing going on here. It is something you both agreed to. And you agreed to experience it, and in it learn your likes and dislikes, and how to handle it. And most of all, like what everyone here is doing is, learn to accept it. If there’s true love there and you want to be in it, then accept it. But only you can decide what you want at this point.

Christine: Am I able to manifest a relationship with him, or if we haven’t planned to be together in this lifetime, am I able to do that?

Council: You can create whatever it is that you want, but we would say there are many lessons there. So we’d say for you, do the work. Go back and see how you met. How did it develop through the years into what it is? Fourteen of your Earth years is quite a long time.

Christine: I thought you can manifest whatever you want. I’d love some answers and would be grateful if you can provide me with some guidance. Much love, Christine.

Council: Well that’s a wonderful letter. And there’s so much in this lifetime for the both of you to realize, to accept about each other, to create more. And perhaps accept the relationship the way it is, but have another relationship where you get more out of it.

There’s learning that can be done. You can share with this person what you find out, what you’re working on, asking that person if they’d like to work on it also. And that, again, would bring a closeness. So you can just respond with what you find out for yourself, and share it, and see if just the sharing changes the relationship.

And so we wish all of you great happiness on your journey. You all created this, and you all wanted to learn so much from what you have created. And with that we would say, have fun with it.

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May 19, 2024 - Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Love, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , ,

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  1. Hi, KG. We’ll be happy to ask The Council about your relationship with your aunt when we have time, and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

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    Cynthia & Bob's avatar Comment by Cynthia & Bob | June 3, 2024

  2. Hi Bob and Cynthia,

    I need some clarity regarding this difficult relationship that I have with my Aunt. My mom and my aunt are identical twin sisters so I grew up seeing my aunt almost like a second mother. When I was a kid our relationship was much easier. She was a lot more happy and fun loving. She lived on the other side of the country so I didn’t see her that frequently but those week long vacations that we would take to go visit her are some of the fondest memories of my life. About a decade ago my aunt moved out here to be close to the rest of the family and our relationship has gone downhill ever since. I don’t recognize the person she has become since she moved out here. She’s no longer the fun-loving aunt that I knew before. She’s the most negative and angry person I have ever met. Everybody in the family feels like they walk on eggshells around her because she flys off the handle at the drop of a hat. She’s not only nasty to all of us but she’s rude to everyone she encounters like customer service people, neighbors, the mailman, you name it. Nobody is exempt from her wrath. To make matters worse my aunt, my mom, and I are all in business together. My mom and I endure constant abuse from her and I just don’t know what to do. Does my aunt have some type of personality disorder? Or is there some sort of past life connection to this? Perhaps my mom and I mistreated her in a past life and so now she is mistreating us so we can see how it feels? I would just like some clarity on the lesson we intended to learn here. And I would also like to know if my soul intended to find a way to work with her despite all these issues or if it was my soul’s intention to break away from her and leave the family business and do something independent from her. I can’t tell if my pre-life intention was to stick around and try to help her or to break away and be independent from her. Any clarity you can provide on this situation is much appreciated. Thanks.

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    KG's avatar Comment by KG | May 20, 2024


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