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Will I Be In A New Relationship Before My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Full Dreamland.

Dreamland: Hello, Council, Bob, and Cynthia. I appreciate all your guidance to me and others over several posts. I am in the middle of a separation from my husband. I have been told by a psychic that he will be in another relationship soon. I have also been told I will be in a relationship once I master being happy alone and learn my lessons around independence. I want to know if I will get married, or be in a new relationship, or if my husband will.

Council: Oh, is there a race here? Who’s going to do it first? Very interesting.

There’s more interest in finding out, not if you will get married again, and who will do it first, because no psychic can tell you. From moment to moment, your path can change. And a very good psychic may look and say, “Yes, I see you married. How wonderful.” And then the choices you make the next day can move the energy in another direction. So no one knows for sure what will happen.

We would say, if you want to see yourself married again, maybe you can be kinder to people. You can learn from what you went through in one relationship and make sure you don’t do it in another. It always comes from you looking at yourself – what you can do and how you can be on the path that you want to take. So that is the lesson. Look at yourself and don’t worry about what your husband is doing. It’s really none of your concern. His lessons will come to him when he is ready.

But if you would like to be married again without the thought of who’s going to do it first – thinking like that will definitely hold anything good coming forward because you are not looking at it correctly. As we said before, this is not a race. This is about your relationship. What have you learned from being in it? How have you changed? Are you working on yourself? Or are you wondering what he or his family is going to do?

Dreamland: I want to know what are my husband’s lessons with respect to my child and me.

Council: Well we won’t tattle, so we won’t tell you his lessons. But his lessons to you and to your child were to, when it was set up in your mind, your spirit, to come together in a loving fashion, to go through certain experiences, and find a kind, loving way to handle it. That’s what your lessons are. Everyone’s lesson is, when you come here, handle everything with the one answer, which is love, kindness, and compassion. So that’s why you are here. Have you learned it in your marriage? You would think that at one point it was there. Why did it change? What happened?

And this is not for you to look at him or his family and say, “They did this, they did that. He did this. He let them do that.” It was for a while this was going on. What is your part in it? How are you handling it? Are you honest, and sitting down and talking and saying, “You know this is going on. It’s uncomfortable. It hurts. And let’s see what we can do about it because we’re going down the wrong path.” It is that simple. The answer is always, “What am I doing? Am I kind? Am I understanding? Am I loving?” Though we hope, at this time, that you are doing that.

Dreamland: Will he ever realize the mistakes he made in our relationship and feel sorry for what he has done to us? Or will it be very easy for him to forget us and move on, and live his new life happily and without any regrets?

Council: You are not letting go of the thought of him realizing what he did was wrong, he’ll have regrets, he’ll miss you. Again, you are wasting time trying to figure that out. What you figure out is, how am I now as a person? Why do I have to know what his lesson is? That is none of your concern. We would never tell you another person’s lessons. Of course, he might be sorry, and then again, he may not.

But you’re taking your thoughts, your choices, and you’re putting them in the wrong direction. Work on yourself. Let go of what happened. Let go of getting even. Let go of wishing him not wellness, not a good situation, not being jealous if he gets married, and if he gets married first. Can you see that?

Dreamland: I find it disturbing that he and his family can keep on ruining innocent girls and his own child’s life, and not face any consequences. I’m trying to find peace in this situation. Thank you for helping.

Council: It’s not up to you to prepare to find out that he is having a hard time, or that he is having terrible consequences for disrupting other people. Again, we see you are concerned about will his family learn that? We would like to say, have you learned that? Have you learned that all of this has to do with you? It is your responsibility to change how you act if you find you are jealous, if you’re angry, if you’re wishing him and his family wrong. You are on the wrong path. And so when that begins to change, when you realize that, then you will find happiness.

And who knows, maybe tonight you’ll dream of us. And of course we have to add, you can see us every night, you can talk to us every night, you can dream of us, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to remember. But what we teach you, and what you need to know is within you, and when you need that information, you will remember.

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December 14, 2025 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , ,

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