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Did The Man I Was With Not Want To Commit Because I Wasn’t Young And Pretty Enough?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Violet.

Violet: Hello, Bob and Cynthia. Thanks in advance for answering my questions; there are two. The first one is about a man who I ended the relationship with because he did not want to commit. I have always wondered, was it because I was not young and pretty enough? What did he come to teach me?

Council: He did not want to commit because, at that time, the lessons he was looking to learn were different from yours, and you could not give him the lessons that he needed to learn. So it’s about his higher self letting him know, right now, this is not the path to go on because there is something else you want to learn. And that’s all that is.

Violet: The other question is about physical appearance. I have a condition that makes me look very tired and sick, and I have not been able to accept this condition, and let go of the need to be prettier so people would not reject me.

Council: You do not need to be prettier so people do not reject you. You need to feel better about yourself. If you feel you look tired and worn out, well, there are many things in your reality you can do. You can do makeup, you can do hair, you can sleep more, you can eat better. You can take care of that.

But we would like to say, in almost every relationship, whether it’s with a husband, a wife, good friends, or people that work together, what makes you appealing is your smile. No matter how tired you are, when you smile, your eyes will smile. It puts out a welcoming energy, and people will come to you because there is something in the smile. And they don’t know…wow, the energy from this smile… but the smile… When you force yourself to smile, when you make the corners of your mouth turn up, your energy changes. It comes from the eyes, it comes from the heart, because the smile is the sign of love.

And so we would say, smile more. Feel good about yourself. If you can do it, look in the mirror and smile at yourself. And that is a very hard thing for many people to do. But the beauty will come from inside you when you smile. When you smile, you say to people, “Hello, you look interesting.” And they feel it. And then they look at you, and all of a sudden, you look differently. But it’s not your physical features. It’s how you feel about yourself and that smile. We would say, practice it a lot. You will see a difference.

Violet: What do I have to do and learn from this experience? Thank you again.

Council: What you have to do is smile. What you will learn is how powerful your smile is.

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March 29, 2026 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , ,

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