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What Did My Soul And This Man’s Soul Plan For This Lifetime?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about a relationship.

Anonymous: I have questions connected to a comment on your post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny? I think I had something similar, but with a guy over social media who I felt helplessly drawn to know. He happened to move to my city, we met, and it was wonderful.

Council: We’d like to say here that if this is someone that you would like to get together with, you never miss your destiny. It goes in the direction that you want. If you feel you should have done this or you should have done that, and it drifted apart, and it didn’t work, you will get another opportunity to have what you want.

Now if you do the work, it would be with that same person, or if you just think of a perfect relationship, a wonderful relationship that makes you happy, you will bring it in. But you never miss a date with destiny. It will come around again if you want it.

Anonymous: He pursues me romantically, and it looks like we have feelings for each other. But he is polyamorous and has someone else, as well, who he’s marrying to bring into the country, which was a massive shock.

Council: So why would you want a relationship with someone that’s married to somebody else? And how do you see this happening? Do you want to be the third wheel? Wouldn’t you like to have a relationship of your own with this person, or some other person that you bring into your life? So we would say very seriously, ask yourself why on Earth would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is married to somebody else?

Bob: It’s possible that when Anonymous says, “He has someone else, as well, who he’s marrying to bring into the country…”

Council: It doesn’t matter why.

Bob: It may not be a romantic relationship. It may just be somebody that he wants to bring into the country.

Council: And those are excuses and that would not bring in the kind of relationship she’s looking for.

Anonymous: When, as you say in your post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny?, I think of all the good things that could come out of our being together and I feel intensely happy. But the idea of him being with other women only partly feels okay to me. I was wondering what our souls planned in this lifetime?

Council: The plan that we see was to just come together and have fun. We don’t see it becoming anything more than that. Of course that can always change. You are the creator. You can change that.

Anonymous: Did we say we’d just be friends, romantic partners, or in a polyamorous relationship?

Council: It was more or less let’s see what happens. Nothing, nothing, nothing is written in stone. Even if you made a contract and you signed it in blood, or you signed it in vibration, you can change it. You are the creator, and that is what is important for you to know.

But more than that it’s for you to find out what is it that you want? How do you want to experience this? What kind of a life do you want to have? Who do you want to bring into it? How do you want it to be?

We are sure you wouldn’t want to be somebody that’s on the side, that’s with a man who’s married to someone else. That’s not what we see you wanted.

So follow what you have both planned and just have some fun. And then you can move on, or perhaps you can change it, and you can if you do the work. And so it’s up to you.

Anonymous: If we were just meant to be friends, how many more of these little scenarios with men have I lined up for myself…

Council: As many as you want.

Anonymous: …before meeting the one?

Council: It’s all up to you. It could be one, it could be ten. It’s your thoughts and your feelings that will bring in the relationship that you want.

Anonymous: And how do I bypass these little scenarios and get straight to him?

Council: By focusing on what you want. The answer is very simple: focus, focus, focus. It’s not always easy to do, but that’s where you use discipline. How bad do you want it? Do you believe you can do it? And there’s no reason why you can’t do it. You are a spirit. You came here to play, to have fun, and create. That’s what you focus on now.

Anonymous: Another thing I was thinking that’s connected to the post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny? Is it possible for the two of us, if we contracted to marry other people, to choose to stay together and marry each other instead? Are there any consequences to doing this?

Council: There are no consequences. You are the creator. And if you decided to stay together, then the other people that you would have been with have other souls that will jump in and come into their reality.

So no one is left hanging. There is no horrible mistake. There is no destiny that’s been missed. It’s all up to you. Have fun with it. Relax with it. Be happy with it. Everything will work the way you want it.

Anonymous: And do the people we don’t end up marrying, that we maybe had a contract to marry, find other people instead?

Council: In your mind please rip up this contract. There’s no contract that you can not change. Everything is changeable. Nothing is in stone. Forget all about that. There’s always Plan B, which we hear in your reality. There’s another scenario that will work out. No one will be left hanging.

Anonymous: Thank you. I’m a very curious soul and can’t wait to feel how the answers will expand my heart and my life.

Council: Have fun with it. These are fun questions. We love being part of this. We love watching you. We love giving you supportive energy. We love seeing you grow. And when you come back here (to spirit) we’ll have a great parade, we’ll have a dinner, we’ll have happiness and dancing, and we’ll all be together again.

And it might help when you do something that makes you happy, or you help someone, that you say to yourself, “Wow. Wait till I get back home. Wait till I share what I did with this.” And that’s part of the fun.

And we wish you all love and light. And take out your crayons and your paintbrushes and create the colors, the happiness, the feelings, anything you want.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own free question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll answer it when we have time. For the time being you don’t have to attach your name to the comment, but there have been a lot of anonymous comments lately, and it can be confusing for us to keep track of these. It would help us if you made up a name rather than using no name.

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February 9, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s Blocking My Having A Long-Term Relationship?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s looking for a long-term relationship.

Anon: I asked you about a long-term relationship in my future a while back and recently, after not focusing on relationships for a while, I tried to date again and met someone I thought had some potential. However, it’s been a very brief and confusing experience and they’ve decided to see someone else.

Council: So what have you found in this relationship that would bring you joy? What have you found that you can move on and find in another relationship? It’s always good to look for the experience and you’ll find in it things you want and things you don’t want.

And so we always say, before you look again, what have you learned? And what is the desire you want that you can create with the next person you bring into your reality?

Anon: I feel I understand the part I may have played in sabotaging things a bit, but I can also see that this person has baggage that makes us incompatible, at least for now.

Council: It’s good that you acknowledge this, but this baggage that you mention, it’s just experiences. It’s just beliefs the other person has, wanting to change or bring into their reality.

As a spirit you can notice, and you’ll only notice where you are, you can notice the differences or the baggage as something you’d like to go through with this person and also learn from. Or just help. Or you can be in another place where this is too much for me. I don’t want to be involved. There’s no right. There is no wrong. It’s just choices.

Anon: Is this just another short learning experience, or is there any further potential in this relationship?

Council: There is always potential. But what we like to put out there to everyone over and over again, you are the creator. If there’s potential and you want to stay in this relationship and see how you create it the way you want it to go, it’s because that is your focus and your heart’s desire. Your wanting will make it the way it will appear in your reality.

So yes, of course there’s the possibility of a relationship with this person. And there’s also the letting go if that’s what you wanted. Always know that you are the creator. What will you learn in the relationship? How will you bring love into this relationship?

Everyone has your so-called baggage. You have baggage. Where is it?

Always remember it’s your choice on the path you take. It’s not written in stone anywhere that you must do this because there’s this contract. There is no contract. There’s just spirits coming to help and say, “I’ll be there for you. I’ll go through this with you. Or I’ll pop in for a little while.”

The #1 example we’d give you  is to look at this relationship. Is there enough for you to want to work through the baggage? Or is it too difficult for you? Make that decision and then go from there.

“Well it’s difficult, but I’d like to create it a little differently.”

“Well it’s too difficult. I need to get out of this situation and find somebody else where it’s easier.”

Well you can do this also.

“Oh, I’d like to have two or three partners at one time and just have fun.”

You can create that too. You are the creator.

Anon: At the least I do feel like this person could become a friend in my life and I’d like to help them on their journey, but I’m not completely sure.

Council: Well, you can jump in there for a little while. Show kindness. Be supportive. Show love. See what you receive back. And is this making you feel you’re closer to the true you? Are you closer to spirit?

Whatever decision you make, whatever direction you decide to go in, if you don’t like it, well the answer is simple. You change your mind and you start creating in another direction. It’s as simple as that.

Anon: What would be the most loving way for me to approach this connection?

Council: Be genuine. Love yourself. And in every situation try to remember this person is also a spirit that has agreed to be in your life, and wants you in their life for whatever reasons. Isn’t that wonderful? What a wonderful friendship. So take this relationship where you want.

Anon: Is there someone else coming into my life with whom I’d be able to build or co-create a long-term romantic relationship?

Council: It’s entirely up to you.

Anon: What’s blocking a long-term relationship from coming in?

Council: Just your focus. Find your desire. Focus on it and it will happen.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for the anonymous reader and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. You can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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October 12, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

I Can’t Accept My Friend Has Committed Suicide

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Feeling Empty, who lost a friend to suicide last week. They’re in complete disbelief and can’t believe he’s not here. My mind is unable to accept his death because I can’t attend the funeral (due to the coronavirus lockdown), which would make his death real and believable.

The Council asks if you can’t have faith in anything unless you see it? Your friend hasn’t gone anywhere. He’s still around you. He can still see and hear you. You’ll be able to hear him when you believe he’s just lost his human form. The essence of your friend is still here. This is what you need to experience.

Start with believing your friend has only changed his appearance. When you believe that and ask for signs he’s around, you will receive them. You’ll be together again and we’re sure there will be more lifetimes together.

There’s a lesson for you in your friend’s committing suicide as well as a lesson for him. What have you learned? Was your friend’s life so difficult or was he so sick that suicide was his way out?

Always remember suicide is a contract that’s made in spirit. It’s an option that’s available when life is too much. When you created your current lifetime everyone involved agreed that suicide was acceptable. Everyone would be okay about taking part in this. This way you help each other grow as souls.

Think of what your life has been like with your friend and what you’ve learned. Imagine how wonderful it is that you agreed to come so far with him and agreed to the suicide. And know you’ll be able to meet your friend again in another life if this is what you both want.

Feeling Empty asks if their friend is okay now and The Council says he’s perfectly fine. We assure you he’s very happy and very loved. And when it’s your turn to transition out of your human body he’ll be there and so will others you’ve shared this lifetime with. Feeling Empty asks if their friend knows how much I care about him. And The Council says he knows everything now.

Feeling Empty closes by saying although I’ve been spiritual and believed in an afterlife, I’m beginning to lose faith in all my beliefs. The Council says your faith will return when you get the sign you’re looking for, when you accept that your friend has left only your current reality, and you’re okay with that.

Your grief, anger, and loss of faith are blocking your connection between you and your friend back in spirit. Work on this. Realize all is well and the situation is exactly what you wanted. When you cross over you’ll meet again and you can plan other lifetimes together. Life goes on and on and on after you leave each individual life. When you’re happy knowing this you’ll receive your sign.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Feeling Empty and the rest of us and let us know what you feel, or ask your own question.

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August 14, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Spirit | , , , | 2 Comments