Relationship Lessons and Passing Them On
This post is inspired by questions from Christine, who says she’s having a difficult time after ending a relationship she was in last year.
The Council says what Christine considers love and what her ex-boyfriend considers love is not the same. He felt love for Christine involved controlling her and keeping her where she was. He thought this was for Christine’s own good and for her protection, but it was more that he could feel in control and safe.
This was overwhelming for Christine and wasn’t allowing either of them to be the spiritual beings they truly are. The Council feels the ex-boyfriend’s challenges of anger and his need for control fed his insecurity and prevented him from bringing in the love his spiritual being desired to experience. Under these circumstances Christine’s higher self gave her the strength to put an end to the relationship.
The Council says it’s understandable Christine will feel depressed over ending this relationship, but they suggest she look at her knowledge it needed to end, how she removed herself from the situation, and what she has learned so she doesn’t fall into the same situation again.
The Council advises Christine to begin creating the kind of relationship she wants by imagining how this relationship feels and what it looks like. By changing her focus from the past to the present and future, Christine will be able to move forward in her desired direction. She can let go of the fear her next relationship will duplicate what she’s just come through and begin to think about what she’s learned from this relationship. She now knows the danger signs of being manipulated.
The Council says Christine should honor herself for learning the lessons this relationship offered and how she freed herself from it rather than stay until it became even more challenging. She’s many steps ahead of where she could have been. Christine’s ex-partner will go on to learn his lessons another way; perhaps with another partner, or being very lonely, but these are his challenges, not Christine’s.
The Council says this relationship was pre-planned in spirit by Christine and her ex-boyfriend and if she must think about it rather than focusing on the new relationship she wants to create, she should think about it with joy rather than depression. Her ex-boyfriend agreed in spirit to push Christine to develop and learn from this experience that she deserved better and needed to protect herself. And Christine had a desire to learn how to take care of herself in a severe situation.
The Council sees in Christine’s future she will have the opportunity to help another woman in a similar situation and they advise her to learn all she can from the relationship with her ex-boyfriend so she can help this woman. The Council says this is a more productive focus and it will allow her to create a more loving experience for herself.
The Council makes the interesting point toward the end of the session that when souls return to the world of spirit, they will meet the souls who put them through these horrible experiences in their physical reality and they will love them and say thank you for presenting them with these opportunities to grow.
Listen to the entire 21-minute session (below) to experience all of The Council’s guidance for Christine and the rest of us.
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1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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Thankyou for responding to my question. It makes so much sense! Much Love, Christine xx
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