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Looking for a Man in Her Life

This post answers a question for The Council from Still Looking, who asks if there’s a relationship in her future. Still Looking is in her thirties and ready for a beautiful relationship. She’s tried positive affirmations, meditations, healing, psychic readings, and self-love to make this happen, but her relationship hasn’t arrived yet.

Years have passed and she’s beginning to accept that she’ll be on her own and she says she’s okay with this. But she asks if the psychics are just telling her what she wants to hear, or is there someone for her?

The Council begins by saying it’s entirely up to Still Looking whether she attracts a man into her life. They say because she has a desire for a relationship, it’s there for her in another dimension. Her work is to bring this relationship into her physical reality. And the only way to do this is by believing it’s there and not to get depressed that it hasn’t happened yet.

Every time Still Looking has the thought her relationship isn’t here yet and maybe these psychics are wrong, it only delays the relationship she wants to experience. Be as positive as you can and keep focusing on the fact that this relationship is there.

Still Looking should think to herself all the reasons why she’d like a relationship; what she’d be doing in this relationship; where she’d live; how the future will be; until she makes herself so happy from imagining these things that she’s actually able to bring this relationship into her physical reality.

The Council sees Still Looking had a pre-birth plan to have a partner around this time in her life if she’s willing to do the inner work. The pre-birth intention was to be with a partner and do much traveling together, and they’ve done this in two or three other lives together.

The Council says Still Looking will be included in the life this partner is already living and this will open her up to helping others. She should add this into the details of creating the partner she desires because it’s what she had in mind in her pre-birth plans.

The Council says Still Looking needs to become the creator in her life. It doesn’t matter what anyone else tells her. She creates a partner with her belief that she can. She creates him with her thoughts and feelings of this happening, but don’t put any pressure on herself that she must be in this relationship by a certain date.

The Council says there is someone for Still Looking as long as this is her desire and she’s willing to believe and create this.

Listen to our entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Still Looking and the rest of us on how to create what we desire, and let us know your feelings on this subject.

November 2, 2017 - Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Desire, Helping Others, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , ,


  1. We’re so glad you liked The Council’s message, Now Manifesting. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | November 6, 2017

  2. That was an amazing reply and I’m so happy! It made me smile and it made me cry:). Changing my name from still looking to now manifesting. Much love xxx


    Comment by Now manifesting | November 6, 2017

  3. Hello Bob, Cynthia, and the Council,

    I’m at a point inside of myself currently where I am trying to focus on the good feelings of love I’ve picked up from all of the experiences in my life. I can’t deny to myself that I do want a relationship-I’d actually really love to have a long term, profoundly deep relationship. I have been trying to deny it because as I feel, the best way to develop a healthy love is to go into a situation with someone without the expectation of falling in love. I try my best to remain open to situations that arise, to people who make their way into my life. I focus on all of the beautiful things I want to create with someone, and more importantly, how they feel…yet, I’m still attracting situations that don’t end with this. Why?

    Sometimes I wonder if my desire to be independent in this life goes directly against a desire to have a partner.

    I think I’d just like to have some pointers and maybe some directives for what I’m trying to do right now.

    I’d also like to know a little more about a best friend who has been there on and off for a long time. We’ve had a bit of a bumpy ride for the span of our relationship in this lifetime-he’s been in love with me and I’ve tried it out and ran multiple times. He’s currently refusing to have anything to do with me, and I’m incredibly sad over it. The sadness and longing I feel seems a little out of proportion for the relationship we’ve had, or more specifically the fact I haven’t been IN LOVE with him…so I’m curious if there’s some other past life stuff we’re working through. Should I release him permanently so he can lead his life without the pain of me being in it but not his partner? Or should I hold an open space for him if he decides to return? What do you see for us in the future?

    Love is my favorite thing, but man is it complex and confusing.

    Thank you for your insight always,


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    Comment by Sarah | November 4, 2017

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