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Is There a Lesson in a Friendship with an Old Flame?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initials, PE, who says she confessed her love to a friend a few years ago, but the friend didn’t feel the same way and PE was heartbroken and embarrassed. PE and her friend became distant after this and she let go of her pain over the embarrassment.

Recently this old flame came back into PE’s life and he wants to reignite their friendship by PE spending time with him and his new girlfriend. But when PE spends time with this couple she ends up feeling sad and doesn’t know why. She let go of the feelings she had for this guy and she’s not interested in him romantically any more. PE asks The Council if there’s a purpose or a lesson for her from this situation?

The Council sees PE and the guy she liked planned in spirit before they were born, to be together in this lifetime, but it was also planned if they were unable to find a way to be together romantically, they would at least be friends and be in each other’s life.

If PE is sad when she’s with this guy and his new girlfriend, the best she can do at this point is wish them well, accept the situation, and then take these good wishes into herself so she’s able to find her own partner. As you can be happy for this couple, that happiness will come back to you. If you’re unable to be with this couple for a while, find a way to get comfortable with this, but know that on a soul level you and this guy planned to be in each other’s lives, even if not romantically.

It’s PE’s choice to take the relationship in whatever direction she wants. He found a way to bridge the distance that was created previously and ask for a friendship. He’s following that part of their soul agreement, even if he’s consciously not aware of it. Now it’s up to PE to see what direction she wants to take her life. The Council adds if PE isn’t able to be a friend with this man in this lifetime, they can promise her she’ll have other opportunities in other lifetimes until they work out the relationship.

The Council says when you’re able to change how you see your situation and realize there’s another option that you both chose in spirit, perhaps you’ll feel differently. PE can feel good about telling her friend she loved him because she was following the original agreement. But because you and your friend have free will, it doesn’t always mean what you planned in spirit will come together easily. So you planned another way, which was to remain in each other’s lives, but as friends. Can you get to the place where you’re able to be friends with this man? If not, why?

As difficult as it may be, wish this guy and his new girlfriend well. Send them love. If you don’t feel it, fake it until you can make it happen. When you can truly feel happiness for them, your life will change. The feelings you have will affect your life, not theirs. Work toward feelings of forgiveness for him, for yourself, and for plans that didn’t work out. And know that you made a back-up plan which you still have a chance to follow. And if you’re unable to follow your back-up plan, you’ll be able to do it again in another lifetime.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for PE and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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August 17, 2018 - Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Free Will, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , ,

4 Comments »

  1. Hi Council, I have a philosophyical question.

    In many posts here there is this concept of “if something didn’t work out you’ll have opportunities in other lifetimes”. But it doesn’t make any sense to me.

    Let’s say two souls agree to have a relationship but one the parties don’t follow the plan while the other does. Does it mean that the person that “showed up” would have to keep reincarnating together until they are able to create that relationship?

    Even in this blog you can see questions from people who are in deep pain because situations like this. I have met people in my life who were never able to overcome it, it just ruined their lives. It sounds terribly unfair that they would have to keep trying to create it because the other person didn’t want to follow the plan. I really don’t understand, thanks.

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    Comment by Anom | September 16, 2018 | Reply

    • Hi, Anom. We’ll ask The Council your question about opportunities to work out issues in other lifetimes when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response when it’s ready. Thanks for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

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      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 17, 2018 | Reply

  2. Hi Cynthia, Bob and the council,
    I would like to know whats in store for me in the future career, family and generally please. Do you see a moving of residence? What do you see for my children?
    Thanks, Maria

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    Comment by Maria Gerhardy | August 19, 2018 | Reply

    • Hi, Maria. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your questions when we have time and post an audio recording of their response on our website when it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

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      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 5, 2018 | Reply


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