Being Open to Other People’s Points of View
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Grale, who says she recently messaged her twin flame and is concerned she may have been too hasty with her choice of words. She told him she’s stepping away if he doesn’t want to open up to her more, but if he changes his mind she’ll always be there for him.
The Council says the last lifetime Grale shared with her twin flame they were brothers in a family of eleven children around 1905. You and your brother were very competitive. There was a good family life and there was a great understanding and acceptance of each other.
In your current lifetime it was discussed in your pre-birth planning that it would be fun to share another life together and that the lesson for you would have to do with gaining understanding. You wished to come across people that would teach you from their perspective, which would be different from your own. You came into this lifetime wanting to meet people, including your brother from your last life, and try and understand their feelings even though they thought differently from you, and not try to change the other person’s idea of what they want.
When people in your current life talk about things you don’t agree with, do you try to understand their point of view? That’s the lesson you wanted to learn in this lifetime – to open up and realize that people can be accepted for what they believe in. They don’t have to agree with you and be on the same page with their ideas.
The Council says many people use the phrase, twin flame, to describe souls who’ve come in together and have shared many past lives. They say if it gives you comfort to think you’re a twin flame then that’s your belief, but we’re all twin flames. We come into this lifetime, we interact, and we learn from this.
The Council asks if in your current life, where you aren’t a blood relation to your brother from your previous life, is there still love and understanding of one another? In your past life you tried to change each other’s ideas about how you thought about things. In your current life can you accept people the way they reveal themselves to you? Learn acceptance. Try to learn how these people think and feel. On a soul level this will help you grow.
Grale says several weeks have passed since she messaged her “twin flame” and she’s concern he may have misunderstood her intentions, or he may not want to get any closer to her at this time. The Council asks Grale, when she thinks back on what she said and how it was said, if she can understand how he may have misunderstood her? If she’d like to explain her thoughts and what she meant to this person, The Council suggests Grale do this. If it’s still not accepted, can she understand how this person would feel based on what she said? If you say you’re stepping away it can bring up abandonment issues for this other person.
Your situation with this person is about you understanding the way you acted. Perhaps you could have handled the situation differently. Perhaps before you speak to people you can try to understand and accept their point of view. And sometimes you can comment on their point of view and sometimes you can just let it go and show acceptance, which is a form of love.
Grale says she feels a disconnection from her brother in their last life and it worries her. She asks The Council if she made the wrong choice in her message to him. The Council says there aren’t any wrong choices. There’s only learning from how you handle the situation and how you reach out again, or perhaps just handle the situation differently with other people.
Grale asks The Council what she can do to have this person open up to her more. The Council reminds Grale that perhaps this person doesn’t want to open up to her at this particular time. Can Grale accept this? Can she rephrase what she said to this person and make it clearer with less of a sense of urgency? Can she do this without saying, “If you don’t do this, I will step away?” It’s a threat and won’t help him open up to you more. But if there still isn’t a desire to understand each other, which you had in your previous lifetime, perhaps this person isn’t ready to open up to you at this time. Can you still send him love, accept his choices, and see what you can build by learning your separate lessons?
The Council says Grale’s situation is that she wants closeness with this person, but it’s not there. She wants to be together based on their shared past life and she wonders why they can’t be together again in her current life. Why aren’t you open to me when I want to be open to you? It’s so Grale can learn about acceptance of other people’s feelings. And it’s not just with this person. It’s also with other people who come into your life. How do you handle people who don’t accept your ideas and that you find difficult to understand? These are your challenges that you’ve set up for this lifetime.
The Council says much can be learned by Grale from being open to people’s different points of view. And as she learns this, more and more people will come into her life that want to be around her and have similar points of view, but before this happens Grale needs to accept everyone.
In closing The Council says there’s no failure if this person she’s calling a twin flame doesn’t want to get closer to her. This is what’s being worked out between the two of them. As this person goes through their lessons they’ll either learn to open up to her or move along.
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1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
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Hi, Mel. We can ask The Council about your bad luck when we have time and post an audio recording of the session on our blog when it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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I have run into some bad luck lately. This luck has nothing to do with money but more to do with situations that are out of my control and I need to resolve these issues for my family. I wonder if this bad luck can be reversed? Is there something that I can do? Or does this misfortune have something to do with the past. What can I do to change these circumstances?
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