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How Can I Overcome My Fear Of The Sea?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mystik Mermayde, in response to our post, Why Am I So Obsessed With Mermaids Since Childhood?

Council: Many people who’ve lived past lives in Lemuria are fascinated by mermaids.

MM: Thank you so much for this great question and answer. As you can see by my screen name, I also love mermaids and the sea. I have a related question for The Council about this which I’d love help with, please. I absolutely adore the sea and everything to do with it, but paradoxically I also have a debilitating phobia of the sea.

Council: You’ve had many lifetimes that were connected to the sea. As a fisherman in one life you worked on the shores and helped build boats. You went out into the ocean to fish. That’s part of your connection to the ocean and the water. These are pleasant memories. There were lifetimes of playing and swimming in lakes that brought you happiness. Then there were other lifetimes.

There are two very traumatic lifetimes where you drowned. One on a fishing boat where there were storms. It was evening and getting dark. During that storm you left that life in a lot of fear.

But there’s another very important lifetime where you were young and experiencing many different ways to create joy and fun in your life. You had many friends. On one particular day, going on a shortcut to another part of the beach and villages, a place you’d never gone before because it was so desolate, you drowned.

But what brought you to this end in this lifetime wasn’t drowning by water, but drowning in quicksand. Ending that life was so traumatic, trying to pull yourself out of the quicksand, and swallowing grass and weeds in a panic to save your life. And at that time thinking this quicksand would cover your mouth, your nose, and your eyes. You thought about this step by step at the end of that life.

That life is what’s coming up for you now. That life was the traumatic one that brings up all the other memories of life near the oceans and the lakes. Some lives were joyful and some lives weren’t, but this one is the one that holds you in fear in your current lifetime. And you’ve created the fear to deal with it, to try and find the answer, and to connect the dots from this lifetime about what’s bothering you and where it came from.

MM: Obviously it’s impossible to enjoy the sea when I have this phobia. I’d love to swim, dive, kayak, surf, and enjoy underwater sports and activities, but I can’t do any of those though I live at one of the world’s most beautiful beaches. The phobia also extends to any deepish body of water, particularly if the water is dark or murky. I can’t even look at a photo taken underwater without severe fear. The smell and taste of seaweed also makes me gag. I feel like it’s related to the phobia somehow. However, the fear isn’t present when the water is clear and brightly lit.

Council: So can you see how here you’re having both memories, good ones when the water is lit, and the frightening ones when the water is dark and murky?

MM: I’ve happily swam in deep water in tropical areas where the sea is brightly lit, and those were some of the best and most memorable experiences of my life.

The phobia is now affecting my relationship also, as I’m with a merman who loves the sea even more than I do, but he has no phobia. He wants to share his joy of exploring the sea with me, but he can’t. I’ve tried one session of hypnotherapy last year, but I couldn’t afford to continue. I’ve had a number of past life regressions over the years and death by drowning is a common memory that comes up. However, unfortunately, simply having these regressions doesn’t help reduce the phobia at all.

Can you please offer any advice to help me overcome this phobia, and also offer any explanation about my love of the sea as well as my phobia?

Council: You know there’s the love of water and you know there’s the fear. It’s one thing to have past life regressions and to see this, but how far did that regression take you? We’d advise that in your meditations sit quietly and try to imagine the good times in the water. What do you imagine it felt like? And what do you know it feels like in your current reality? Connect the dots between the two lives.

Then we ask, when you’re able, to go into the life with the quicksand and picture yourself walking and playing that morning, walking through this area and then being trapped in the quicksand. Imagine little bits at a time because it’s traumatic. What happened to you at the end of that lifetime? But now you take it a step further.

When you know you’ve passed from this lifetime, where are you? Who is with you? Is there a guide? What do you see? Realize you’ve passed from that life, but you’re still very much yourself. There wasn’t any ending. The fear of death wasn’t there because now you’re out of your body and you’re having other experiences. Who has come to talk to you? What do you see around you?

Sit and meditate on that and see who you see. See how you feel, and feel the joy you experience when you’re in spirit and there isn’t any ending, and you’ve gone beyond who you were. Experience the joy. Experience meeting other souls that you knew. Experience guides coming through as well as angels, and animals that you knew. The joy will overcome the fear.

When you realize that, the fear from this past life will begin to leave you because you’re still here. You’ve still created other lifetimes, and you’ll go on to create more lifetimes. That, in time, will erase the fear.

Do this very slowly so you’ll be able to handle it. When you go into this and you begin to have the fear at the end of that life, you can stop it and replace those fearful thoughts with more uplifting thoughts. You’ll get stronger as you’re able to say to yourself over and over again, “But I’m here. I’m still alive. I’m still a person.”

Knowing that will bring you the courage to see it so you can connect to that life and see how it’s affecting your current life. But that life is over. That was then, this is now. You’re a brand new person in your current reality. You’re creating different experiences, but you’re creating this because it was a great desire when you were creating your current lifetime, to heal it.

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May 28, 2022 - Posted by Cynthia & Bob | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | Courage, Drowning, Fear, Hypnotherapy, Joy, Lemuria, Meditation, Mermaids, Past Life Regression, Phobia, Quicksand, Sea, Spirit Guides, Trauma