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How Do I Let Go Of An Ex-Friend With Love?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lindsey.

Lindsey: I’d greatly appreciate The Council’s insight on a friendship that I’m having a hard time letting go of with love. We’ve known each other for about 15 years, and the last five years haven’t been great. During this time I’ve felt the friendship to be somewhat toxic and one-sided. There was a breaking point for me about three years ago, but I still showed up in group settings. I’ve since distanced myself more this past year, declining gatherings if she would be present. I dream of her often, which I find odd since we’re not in each other’s lives currently.

Council: It’s because subconsciously you do think of this person all the time without being aware of that. And so you would dream of this person, you’d have memories come up about this person, and you’d be, with your human brain, trying to figure out what’s going on, where in a situation such as this you’d have to come more from your heart and not your brain.

And so if it’s a toxic relationship, it’s fine to put an end to it if that’s what you want. But would you stay out of social situations because of this one person? And if you did, then once again your focus is on this person. There would be other people there for you to talk with and hang out with. And so think of it this way. If you need to let go of this relationship, that’s fine. But look at the surroundings, the people you want to be with, or don’t want to be with, and then make the decision for what you really want. And make yourself comfortable in that situation, and learn to focus on these other people. And you would see your feelings would be different hanging out with others in that group.

Lindsey: These past few years I’ve done a lot of self-work and I’m unwilling to allow people in my life that bring down my vibration, or don’t have good intentions.

Council: Ahh, right there, you don’t want people in your life that will bring down your vibration. Let’s see. We will put it this way. You are in control of your thoughts. And so other people that are around you, how you choose to see them will bring your relationship up or down.

Are you practicing accepting people the way they are? Maybe not understanding them. Maybe not even liking the way they react to things, or the way they treat you. But if you could find one good thing, even it’s, “Well, you know, I really don’t like being around this person, or this person annoys me, but they are going through their stuff, and I’ll send them some love.”

Or if I can’t do that, don’t focus on their negative qualities. And so when you don’t focus on these negative qualities, your vibration will not go down. You can simply think, “Oh, they’re on their path. I don’t get it. I don’t have to get it. I don’t have to understand it, but I can accept that.

Lindsey: Do you know if this is a relationship from a past life?

Council: We’d say, yes, there were several past lives. But what we’re trying to teach now and get people to understand, that past life doesn’t matter. It could have been wonderful. it could have been horrible. It could have been some of one and some of the other. You are here now to learn how to focus and create the relationships and life that you want.

And so even though many people like to know about the past – did I have a life with this one, did I have a life with that one – it really doesn’t matter. You are taking leaps up the ladder of enlightenment and growing, where you can let go of the thoughts of the past and see what’s going on now, how you handle it, how you can accept someone, and then just let it go and put your focus somewhere else. You will see a huge change in how you feel, and how your vibration is.

Lindsey: Do you have any advice on how I can be more at peace with the distance between us so I can honor the boundaries I feel are needed?

Council: Honor your boundaries, the ones that make you feel comfortable. Know that you had a relationship for a while. Try to remember the good parts of it and now say, for whatever reason I don’t understand yet, it’s time to let that relationship go. It’s so simple. It’s your choice.

Lindsey: Many thanks for all your guidance.

Council: So focus now on what you want – a new someone in your life, a more peaceful relationship with people around you, being able to feel more love from your heart. Even if you don’t like someone, you can just understand you are a spirit, they are a spirit, and you are all on your own paths.

And so as always, we wish you love and fun in your creations, and learning from them, and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.

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January 9, 2024 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Decision Making, Desire, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , | 1 Comment