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How Can I Heal My Relationship With My Brother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wairua47, after they read our post, Why Is My Son Estranged From Me?

Wairua: Thanks for answering this question about estrangement in the earlier post. I have a very similar situation with my brother, so these answers are helpful. I’d like to know the cause of my situation, and in what area are there lessons to learn?

Council: There are lessons in every part of everything you experience.

Wairua: And are there any possible solutions to help heal what I thought was a great relationship with my brother. We’re both in our 40s and it turns out he may not have been honest with me over the years about our sibling relationship. I have no idea for how long.

Our relationship has recently turned extremely toxic by his wife who apparently thinks I’m the worst person on the planet, and she has started airing 25+ years of supposed grudges against me. Most of these grudges make absolutely no sense to me and seem insane.

Council: Remember here that you and your brother have allowed this to come into your lives to experience it. So even if his wife is causing problems, it’s his place to deal with it in any way he can. Even if he doesn’t believe what she’s doing, he’s trying to find a way to deal with that. You, on the other hand, are blaming her and maybe blaming him. You don’t know what’s going on.

We’d suggest, at this time, that you have the best relationship with your brother that you can have right now. What would that be like? Would it be when you speak with him not to bring up the complaints and don’t mention his wife? When you act like that, do you have a better relationship with him? And so remove what you think the problem is and see how your relationship goes.

Wairua: When I message my brother he usually ignores me. But when I call him on the phone he appears to enjoy speaking to me and has good things to say, be he seems to avoid questions about all the stuff his wife says.

Council: And again we suggest you not bring that up. It’s very difficult for him to deal with it at this time. And so he may love talking with you, but he doesn’t want to go into the problems, and that’s the way he needs to handle that right now.

Wairua: But then, after every nice phone conversation with him, I always get some upsetting, or angry, or accusing messages from either his wife or from him. Obviously I’m not actually sure who’s actually messaging me. This has been continuing for months. He never seems to try to get in touch with me unless there’s a complaint, and recently I’ve asked him multiple times to call me about the last complaining message, but he just ignores me so I’ve given up trying.

Council: So if you were to get a call from him with a complaint, you can say something simple like, “I love talking with you, and when we don’t talk about complaints the conversations are better. So I won’t bring it up and I would appreciate if you don’t bring it up.” And this way it stays on sort of an even keel where you can somehow have the relationship until you realize something different about it, or your brother realizes something different.

So again, allow yourself a good conversation. Still call your brother when you want to and enjoy that. And if there are any complaints after your conversation, you don’t mention them.

Wairua: I’d love some help. He’s my only sibling. We have no cousins or other family and he means the world to me.

Council: We see here, the way this is going, it has a very good chance to heal, so don’t push it and don’t complain. And allow yourself, your brother, and his wife to do whatever they need to do, and it will flow.

And so we wish you all a great journey, and to find love on your journey everywhere you can. Show it every day you can, feel it for yourselves every single day, and you’ll begin to change your life.


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January 24, 2024 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , | 3 Comments