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How Can I Attract A Loving Relationship?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Jay.

Jay: I’m just so confused. Why is it that the guy I didn’t have any energetic connection with ended up being the guy I could open myself up to, while the guy I had a connection with triggered something in me to shut down?

Council: How could you think there’s no energetic connection if you can open yourself up to someone? We would say to take another look at this because if you feel safe enough to open up in any way that you imagine, there is a positive energetic connection there. So look for it, feel it. It’s definitely there.

Now it may be not what you want at this moment, but you have to give it time to grow, and watch it, and learn from this. And when there is no energetic connection, what do you mean by energetic connection? A love attachment, Intimacy? There’s much more than that in a connection.

And so watch and look at how you feel with both people and learn from it. And be aware of what’s going on. Be open to what you see.

Jay: I don’t know if I should continue dating or not. It seems to drain my energy, so I’ve decided to focus on creative pursuits to build myself up a bit more.

Council: So why does it drain your energy? Are you trying so hard to make something happen? Is it not going in the direction that you want?

You can date and keep things very light, and learn about yourself in these relationships, and learn about these people in the relationship. So there’s a lesson in there. There’s a learning that you wish to go through.

Jay: I did reach out to the first guy to be friends with him because I felt it was easy to open up to him, but I’m worried I could be setting myself up for an attachment.

Council: That’s because it’s something that you want, a relationship. It doesn’t mean it will be with this person. Can’t you have a friendly attachment to this person and then see how you feel? Or let things grow? Or fall apart? But watch these relationships?

Jay: What can I do to move past this and attract and keep a loving relationship with a man I desire, especially since I’ve never been in a relationship before?

Council: So if you’ve never been in a relationship before, imagine how you’d like your relationship to be. Nobody can do that for you. Nobody knows what you want.

So you have to do the work of getting yourself in a good vibration. Either meditate or think of happy thoughts. Anything to raise your vibration. And then imagine with the person you want, or a brand new person, how would you like it to be? And focus on that, and feel that.

And that’s how you bring in what you want. You always do the vibrational work first. It’s already happening for you. So for you to bring it in, imagine the way you want it.

These are fun questions. We love being part of this, we love watching you, we love giving you supportive energy, and we love seeing you grow. And when you come back here (to spirit) we’ll have a great parade, we’ll have a dinner, we’ll have happiness and dancing, and we’ll all be together again.

And it might help, when you do something that makes you happy, or you help someone, to say to yourself, “Wow, wait till I get back home. Wait till I share what I did with this.” And that’s part of the fun.

And we wish you all love and light, and take out your crayons and your paint brushes, and create the colors, the happiness, and the feelings. Create anything you want.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Jay and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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February 6, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Imagination, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Why is My 4-Year Old Son So Attached to Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, WorriedMom, who has a 4-year old son who’s very sensitive, introverted, and attached to her. She knows this is typical for his age, but he always wants to be with her. Why is he so attached to me, and how can I make him stronger rather than so sensitive and anxious to leave me for even a little while?

The Council says they prefer the word, intuitive, for her son rather than introverted, and they add that he’s learning to deal with this. It’s not WorriedMom’s job to keep her son from being so sensitive. This sensitivity is a tool that will help him as he grows.

Being attached to you is very normal at this age. In this lifetime his closeness with you will raise these questions for you. Your son’s childhood will evolve and this great tie he has with you will change. Why do you find your son’s attachment disturbing?

Your son is a gifted child. The best you can do for him is to spend time with him and your husband together. The three of you should play games and go for walks together. When your son does spend time alone with your husband he should give your son lots of praise.

Your son is here to learn a lot about family. There were other dynamics in other lifetimes where your son was abandoned, where he had no family, where he lost his family, and where he left a lifetime early. In his current lifetime your son wants to learn what it’s like to be fully involved with a family.

Please don’t criticize your son for what you imagine as weakness. This is just your son evolving and bringing in memories from other lifetimes that he’s working on in this lifetime. You don’t have to change your son or get him to be less close to you. This will come when your son feels safe.

Right now your son doesn’t have the words to explain the way he feels, but when he begins to talk more of things he sees or hears, or he asks questions that seem more about the spirit world, please acknowledge these things when you speak with him. Always ask him about what he’s seeing and feeling. Read up on children who are spiritually gifted and can feel energy.

It’s your job to learn how to raise this gifted child. Learn how to be patient, how to be loving, and how to always soothe him when you think he’s upset. Teach him everything is well in our world and teach him about gratitude. This is what he’ll go on to learn about. This is your son’s purpose.

Listen to the audio recording of our entire 7-minute session with The Council (bekiw) to hear all their guidance for WorriedMom and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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September 26, 2019 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 11 Comments