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What Did My Soul And This Man’s Soul Plan For This Lifetime?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about a relationship.

Anonymous: I have questions connected to a comment on your post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny? I think I had something similar, but with a guy over social media who I felt helplessly drawn to know. He happened to move to my city, we met, and it was wonderful.

Council: We’d like to say here that if this is someone that you would like to get together with, you never miss your destiny. It goes in the direction that you want. If you feel you should have done this or you should have done that, and it drifted apart, and it didn’t work, you will get another opportunity to have what you want.

Now if you do the work, it would be with that same person, or if you just think of a perfect relationship, a wonderful relationship that makes you happy, you will bring it in. But you never miss a date with destiny. It will come around again if you want it.

Anonymous: He pursues me romantically, and it looks like we have feelings for each other. But he is polyamorous and has someone else, as well, who he’s marrying to bring into the country, which was a massive shock.

Council: So why would you want a relationship with someone that’s married to somebody else? And how do you see this happening? Do you want to be the third wheel? Wouldn’t you like to have a relationship of your own with this person, or some other person that you bring into your life? So we would say very seriously, ask yourself why on Earth would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is married to somebody else?

Bob: It’s possible that when Anonymous says, “He has someone else, as well, who he’s marrying to bring into the country…”

Council: It doesn’t matter why.

Bob: It may not be a romantic relationship. It may just be somebody that he wants to bring into the country.

Council: And those are excuses and that would not bring in the kind of relationship she’s looking for.

Anonymous: When, as you say in your post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny?, I think of all the good things that could come out of our being together and I feel intensely happy. But the idea of him being with other women only partly feels okay to me. I was wondering what our souls planned in this lifetime?

Council: The plan that we see was to just come together and have fun. We don’t see it becoming anything more than that. Of course that can always change. You are the creator. You can change that.

Anonymous: Did we say we’d just be friends, romantic partners, or in a polyamorous relationship?

Council: It was more or less let’s see what happens. Nothing, nothing, nothing is written in stone. Even if you made a contract and you signed it in blood, or you signed it in vibration, you can change it. You are the creator, and that is what is important for you to know.

But more than that it’s for you to find out what is it that you want? How do you want to experience this? What kind of a life do you want to have? Who do you want to bring into it? How do you want it to be?

We are sure you wouldn’t want to be somebody that’s on the side, that’s with a man who’s married to someone else. That’s not what we see you wanted.

So follow what you have both planned and just have some fun. And then you can move on, or perhaps you can change it, and you can if you do the work. And so it’s up to you.

Anonymous: If we were just meant to be friends, how many more of these little scenarios with men have I lined up for myself…

Council: As many as you want.

Anonymous: …before meeting the one?

Council: It’s all up to you. It could be one, it could be ten. It’s your thoughts and your feelings that will bring in the relationship that you want.

Anonymous: And how do I bypass these little scenarios and get straight to him?

Council: By focusing on what you want. The answer is very simple: focus, focus, focus. It’s not always easy to do, but that’s where you use discipline. How bad do you want it? Do you believe you can do it? And there’s no reason why you can’t do it. You are a spirit. You came here to play, to have fun, and create. That’s what you focus on now.

Anonymous: Another thing I was thinking that’s connected to the post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny? Is it possible for the two of us, if we contracted to marry other people, to choose to stay together and marry each other instead? Are there any consequences to doing this?

Council: There are no consequences. You are the creator. And if you decided to stay together, then the other people that you would have been with have other souls that will jump in and come into their reality.

So no one is left hanging. There is no horrible mistake. There is no destiny that’s been missed. It’s all up to you. Have fun with it. Relax with it. Be happy with it. Everything will work the way you want it.

Anonymous: And do the people we don’t end up marrying, that we maybe had a contract to marry, find other people instead?

Council: In your mind please rip up this contract. There’s no contract that you can not change. Everything is changeable. Nothing is in stone. Forget all about that. There’s always Plan B, which we hear in your reality. There’s another scenario that will work out. No one will be left hanging.

Anonymous: Thank you. I’m a very curious soul and can’t wait to feel how the answers will expand my heart and my life.

Council: Have fun with it. These are fun questions. We love being part of this. We love watching you. We love giving you supportive energy. We love seeing you grow. And when you come back here (to spirit) we’ll have a great parade, we’ll have a dinner, we’ll have happiness and dancing, and we’ll all be together again.

And it might help when you do something that makes you happy, or you help someone, that you say to yourself, “Wow. Wait till I get back home. Wait till I share what I did with this.” And that’s part of the fun.

And we wish you all love and light. And take out your crayons and your paintbrushes and create the colors, the happiness, the feelings, anything you want.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own free question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll answer it when we have time. For the time being you don’t have to attach your name to the comment, but there have been a lot of anonymous comments lately, and it can be confusing for us to keep track of these. It would help us if you made up a name rather than using no name.

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February 9, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Did I Miss A Date With Destiny?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous #3.

Anon #3: I’ve been experimenting with these techniques and I’ve seen how much of my body I’ve ignored in my decision-making processes. It’s been really useful and insightful, so thank you.

Bob: I assume Anonymous #3 is referring to The Council’s meditation techniques.

Anon #3: I had a strange experience connected to this which has thrown up related questions which I thought I’d ask. A couple of months ago I felt compelled, almost moved beyond my control,  to apply for a job in another country, as jobs in my sector are scarce.

Council: Your strong sense of doing this lets you know that it comes from your higher self and that it was something you pre-planned in spirit before you were born.

Anon #3: Afterward I decided I didn’t really want this job. What was I thinking? When I was offered an interview, I was full of fear and a feeling I shouldn’t take this job, so I withdrew my application after journaling and finding nothing positive about it.

Council: So you created going further, an interview with someone interested in you. And yet what we see here is that out of fear you didn’t go in the direction of this job. And that, of course, is always your choice.

Anon #3: I don’t really understand what happened, and now I’m afraid I missed a date with destiny. Is this true? Did I?

Council: Never. Whenever there’s something that’s strongly wanted that perhaps you planned for in spirit, you’ll get the opportunity. When you miss it, you miss that particular opportunity. You don’t miss your destiny, or you don’t miss going on the path that you wish to go on. You will have other opportunities. It will come in other ways. It will always take you to where you want to go.

But we’d say to work on fear. What happens if you take a chance and do something very different? Do you go with love, or do you go with fear? If you go with fear, okay, you’re still not ready. Another opportunity will come along. It will always be there. And if, for some reason, you turn down everything that you create that will help you get there, you’ll have an opportunity to do it in another life. So there is no wrong answer.

The answer for you is to learn how to look at things with love instead of fear, to imagine the good that could come out of it, and that you are always protected. Your higher self, which is you, is taking you down this path.

Anon #3: Does the opportunity you’re destined for come around again?

Council: Of course.

Anon #3: Do we ever miss our calling?

Council: No.

Anon #3: And what happens to the soul contracts with the people I missed by not taking this opportunity? Do other people and experiences come in and take their place?

Council: Of course. It’s always planned in spirit. If I do this, what happens? And then a spirit will say, “Then I’ll jump in.” Or we’ll create something different and we’ll make ourselves be there. There are always backup plans. You are never left high and dry.

Anon #3: I also wonder about that strange, being moved to apply for the job, feeling.

Council: That was your higher self. When it comes with such force and you start thinking, “Am I nuts? What am I thinking of this for? Why would I want to do this?” It’s your intuition. It’s your higher self saying, “This is what I wanted. This is what I wanted. Come on. Come on.” And sometimes that feeling is overwhelming, and the choice is yours.

Anon #3: Was that my higher self moving through me, or spirit aligning me to my purpose?

Council: Definitely.

Anon #3: Or was I just wishful thinking and panic applying, as I really need a job?

Council: Wishful thinking doesn’t come with the force of a feeling that says, “I must do this. I don’t know why,” and doubting, and questioning. But the feeling that’s there is more than wishful thinking, and that’s how you know there’s something going on here. This is something I must want and my higher self is guiding me.

Anon #3: Does spirit ever move through us like that…

Bob: …meaning the panic applying for the job…

Anon #3: …and if so, how do we know it’s that and not us or our higher self?

Council: When it’s fear, you’ll feel it in your body. It’s a different feeling. It’s not overwhelming. There’s a lot of doubt and a lot of thinking going on with your brain, why you should or why you shouldn’t do something.

When it’s your higher self, the feeling is there and you know this is something that you need to follow, but it feels good. And you don’t have to know how it’s going to happen, or when, or where. But that feeling, that really overpowering feeling that sometimes you can just giggle about it, like am I crazy? What is this? It’s a good, happy feeling.

Anon #3: Also, I was wondering how I could have been moved to do something that I first changed my mind about and then felt so much fear around.

Council: Because being in the human body and thinking with the human brain, sometimes it’s very difficult to accept that your higher self can come through so strong, and there’s a lot of success and happiness waiting for you, but it’s the doubt and fear that holds you back.

And so you will go through two feelings. It will feel great, then it will feel horrible. What am I thinking? Oh, but imagine if this happened. A lot of going back and forth, but you always go with the feeling that feels good. When you doubt, that’s not your higher self. Your higher self will never take you down that road. Anything coming from your higher self will feel great.

Anon #3: I’d really love to feel clarity around this, so any light that you can shed that will help me move forward in my understanding would be appreciated. Hopefully there are others out there that will also find this information helpful.

Council: So when something comes so strongly and you don’t know whether to believe in if it’s right or if it’s not, and you have those back and forth feelings, just sit. Sit quietly for 10 minutes and think of it and the feeling that came with it. Will it bring you happiness? Is it something you could never imagine happening and that it could be so wonderful? Concentrate on the wonderfulness of it and imagine what it would be like. Play with it and you will bring it forward, and you’ll start feeling better and better about it.

And so the choice is to feel that good feeling. Imagine what it would be like and just take a chance. You can even go on an interview and if you’re still afraid, turn it down. You will get other opportunities.

Have fun on your journeys. Everyone is on their journey. Find the good feeling and continue on that path.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous #3 and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

If you like this post, please click the LIKE button in the section following the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.

July 16, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Choice, Decision Making, Feelings, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

What is My Life Purpose?

This post answers a question from a reader named Linda, who asks about her purpose in this lifetime. She’s heard it’s whatever she’s passionate about, but there’s nothing that excites her. The Council asks if there’s anything that made Linda happy in this lifetime or anything she’s had an interest in and enjoyed doing?

The Council says there are things you plan on doing before you came into this life, but there’s never the idea that this plan has to be accomplished. They say when you come into this new lifetime, your #1 purpose is to create as you go along, to find what gives you joy and to follow that. Nothing is written in stone that you must do.

The Council says in her current life it time Linda wanted the ability to focus, she wanted to pay attention, and she wanted to feel what’s interesting to her. They feel Linda has either done this and ignored it, or maybe she didn’t believe what interests her was possible to achieve. The Council suggests thinking about this lifetime and what she has experienced.

Linda says she doesn’t want to be a wasted space and miss her destiny, and The Council replies that we are never wasted space and miss our destiny. Our destiny continues forever. They remind us that we are the creator of our life experience and the #1 thing is to create joy.

The Council says in this lifetime it was Linda’s idea to meet people she recognizes from other lifetimes and they would show her the way, or she would experience certain situations together with these people. The Council feels this is a large clue to Linda’s purpose.

The Council says some people who ask questions need specific answers, some people need guidance, and some people need to be pushed to open another path within themselves so they can find their own answers and this is how they grow.

The Council says they are here to teach as well as to provide answers to questions. They are here to remind us that we are powerful spirits and we have all the answers within ourselves. They’re here to help us find those answers.

Listen to our entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Linda and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel.

December 22, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 3 Comments

Feeling I’m Failing to Do Something I’m Destined to Be

This post is inspired by a question from a reader named Mary who feels like the professional life she thought she would have isn’t happening. She’s happier now than when she thought her professional life was going according to plan, but she feels like she’s failing to do something that she imagined she was destined for.

The Council says in this lifetime what Mary wants is to just be – no pressure, no crazy deadlines, no living a life that’s not enjoyed.

By relaxing into the joyousness she experiences, she’s teaching the people around her about happiness. She will connect on a higher vibrational level to who she truly is as a spiritual being. She is doing exactly what she’s meant to be doing, even though it may feel otherwise. Just relax into this joyous life that only she has created for herself.

Listen to our entire 5-minute session with The Council (below) on Mary’s question to hear all their guidance, and let us know what you think.

January 2, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment