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I Feel Like Women Should Not Tolerate Or Allow Sexism

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from an anonymous reader in response to our post, Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me?

Anonymous: I do have a follow-up question for The Council regarding this topic (sexism). You mention allowing people to live their own path. I have a hard time allowing this behavior.

Council: How would you feel if you believed a certain way, or you did things a certain way, and people wouldn’t let you behave the way you want to? They wouldn’t allow you to have your own thoughts. That’s what you are explaining here. We are here to allow. It may be very difficult for us to allow, but we are here to learn that.

Bob: This reader seems to feel that they have a difficult time allowing this particular behavior (sexism).

Council: It doesn’t matter what the behavior is. You have some sort of problem with allowing it, and so change how you look at it. It may be upsetting for you, but can you say, “This is that spirit’s path. This is the way it wants to be. This is what it is choosing.”

They don’t need your okay to be this way, but can you open your heart to accept the way people are? You don’t have to agree with them, but you can not hope that everyone will think the way you think.

Anonymous: Why must we allow negative behavior?

Council: Because would you want to be living with robots that all behave a certain way and everyone is happy and good? What would you learn from this? How will you grow? How will you learn to expand if it’s only people who behave a certain way, who speak a certain way, and carry themselves a certain way? There’s learning in this for you. You may not like it, but you chose it.

Anonymous: Sexism is degrading and demeaning. I personally don’t feel like women should tolerate that behavior, or allow it when it comes to themselves, or when they see other people being victimized.

Council: Who are you to tell other women what they should allow and what they should accept? Again, you can only allow and accept what works for you. You can not say these women are wrong and how do they let this happen? There are reasons they are going through this and you don’t have to know what those reasons are.

Again, you are not allowing. This is your big, big lesson. So calm yourself down. Tell yourself, “I don’t need to understand this upsets me. So if people talk the way I don’t like, if they behave the way I don’t like, I don’t have to get angry. I don’t have to go into a big speech about how they’re behaving. I walk away.” Take yourself out of the presence of this sort of behavior. You’re in control. You don’t have to stand there and fight because it’s going to get you nowhere.

And you are determined to have these people act the way you want them to act. How would you like it if that was reversed?

Anonymous: Should we not help to raise peoples’ thoughts and vibrations?

Council: Yes, but you don’t stick it down anyone’s throat. And you don’t give anyone your opinion unless it’s asked, unless there’s a healthy dialog going on about this. But even if it is, allow the other people to have their say. If you can’t hear this, then you don’t belong in that dialog because you are not allowing.

Anonymous: Allowing negative behavior helps perpetuate it.

Council: In your reality. In others’ reality, allowing that behavior opens their eyes to try to find a way to change it. And so again, it’s all how you perceive it.

Anonymous: A father who is a womanizer can easily pass that behavior and thought process down to their sons.

Council: That’s one way. And another way is, the child will grow up seeing this and not agree with it, and not like it at all, and be totally different. You are going towards the negative. You are not allowing what’s going to happen. You see it only going in one direction.

Anonymous: When we have the opportunity to teach better options, shouldn’t we take it?

Council: If it’s wanted, yes. If you do it in kindness and show that there is another way without stomping all over somebody else for the way they are behaving, yes, you can do it with love. Everything with love.

Anonymous: I simply can’t turn my head and allow this negative low-vibration way of thinking. Sure, we can’t make someone think a certain way, but we can educate.

Council: If they want to be educated. There could be people around you saying, “Oh, there she goes again with a speech, with a, ‘You can’t take this, and you can’t take that, and this is not right.'” And so there are people that will look at you, where you think you’re doing a great job, and they are so tired of your behavior, but they are allowing you to do and say what you want to. It always goes in both directions.

And so we wish you all peace, and love, and happiness, and health, and adventure, and joy, and a wonderful, wonderful way of creating with your intention, with your feelings, and with your smile. Smile as you think of how you want things. It will help you immensely. So have fun with it.

We’d like to thank this anonymous reader for having the persistence and courage to take issue with The Council’s guidance in their original post, Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me? We imagine there are many people who feel the same way. By questioning The Council’s guidance it’s given The Council a valuable opportunity to make an important point about allowing people to behave in ways we don’t agree with rather than trying to change their behavior to be more in line with what we believe.

This point is not always easy to understand, yet it seems fundamental to what The Council has been teaching us for many years. We hope this anonymous reader and other readers who agree with her will be able to consider, as The Council suggests, that there are reasons these people who disagree with them are going through this different point of view, and you don’t have to know what those reasons are to allow them to believe in them.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own free question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll answer it when we have time. For the time being you don’t have to attach your name to the comment, but there have been a lot of anonymous comments lately, and it can be confusing for us to keep track of these. It would help us if you made up a name rather than using no name.

If you prefer to keep your comment private, you can pay $60 to speak with The Council on the telephone for a half-hour by clicking this link. Once we receive your payment, we’ll contact you by email to arrange a mutually convenient day and time for your phone call and your questions.

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February 15, 2024 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , | 6 Comments

Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.

Anonymous: I struggle with what I suppose I view as sexism in my environment, and in friends and family who are dear to me. I’d like guidance on how to mitigate this challenge with grace or remain undisturbed. I don’t know if I’m too sensitive, or if others are insensitive.

Council: Does it matter if others are insensitive? If you feel you are sensitive, that’s where you are right now, and that’s what you work with.

Anonymous: I don’t know how to hear things that upset me so much and remain at peace. I feel disturbed when I hear men speak about women dismissively, or congratulating each other for sleeping with as many women as possible, or getting laid, or exploiting a sexual encounter with demeaning accounts of their experience with a woman.

Council: Can you bring yourself to a place where you allow this to be? You want to change the way people think, their ideas, and how they act. You can’t do that. The only thing you can do is work on yourself. How you handle it. And not everyone will feel the same as you.

So others are allowed to think and say what they want. That doesn’t mean you have to stay there and say nothing. You are allowed to say what you need to. But also remember, many times that will cause arguments. And so one of the things we’re all here to learn is to allow others to be who they are. They are on their path. They are dealing with what they need to learn, or what ideas are in their head, and whether they want to complete this life the way it is, or they want to learn how to change.

It’s very important that you allow others to be who they are. And when they say things that upset you, you can acknowledge that it upsets you and then remind yourself that’s not your path to change anybody. Your path is to allow them to be who they are, walk away, go into another room, and keep asking yourself, “Why does this upset me?”

It comes from other lifetimes where women weren’t treated right. There was a lifetime as a slave in the South, and again you saw a lot of horrendous things happening to women. So when you hear people talking like that it pushes buttons. It’s a trigger of something you remember unconsciously. And then you have to get to a place where you say, “Okay, I think I understand where this is coming from. I don’t like what I’m hearing, but I am a spirit, these people are spirits, and we’re all on our own path.” And allow them to go their way.

Anonymous: I feel that some men’s behavior is shallow, harmful, and self-serving. I contemplate whether to speak up or try to change the part of myself that’s offended.

Council: You don’t have to change the part of yourself. You have to acknowledge you feel offended and then make the decision. Do I say something? Will it bring this subject to a close? Will it cause an argument? And then decide what to do. And there’s always the allowing. Allow them to be who they are, but you don’t have to be around it.

Anonymous: How is it that I’ve come to be so hurt by these things? I don’t think women should regard men this way either. I don’t understand the nature of our attitudes towards sex on this planet, and what looks to me like ignoring that the other sex is a whole person rather than a useful subject to masturbate with.

Council: But remember here that everything you’re experiencing you have brought in. So you’ve brought these kinds of people in for you to learn how to turn it around where you are more comfortable now.

Anonymous: I’d like to see more care and love employed in the way we relate to one another.

Council: That would be wonderful, and we’re all here working on that.

Anonymous: Some input to help me understand myself and others would be so appreciated here. Thank you so much.

Council: It’s all about you. Remember that. How do you make yourself feel better? How do you allow others to be who they are? And when you can do that, your feelings around this won’t disturb you as much as they do now.

And so we wish you all a great journey, and to find love on your journey everywhere you can. Show it every day you can. Feel it for yourselves every single day and you’ll begin to change your life.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own free question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll answer it when we have time. For the time being you don’t have to attach your name to the comment, but there have been a lot of anonymous comments lately and it can be confusing for us to keep track of a lot of anonymous comments. It would help us if you made up a name rather than using no name.

If you prefer to keep your comment private, you can pay $60 to speak with The Council on the telephone for a half-hour by clicking this link. Once we receive your payment we’ll contact you by email to arrange a mutually convenient day and time for your phone call and your questions.

If you like this post, please click the LIKE button in the section following the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.

January 28, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 7 Comments