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Improving Self-Esteem for Healthy Relationships

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.

Bluestar: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I am almost 44 years old and for the first time, I think I feel in love.

Council: Oh, that’s wonderful.

Bluestar: This guy is my Zumba teacher. The problem is that he’s 20 years younger than me, he already has a girlfriend, and I am hopeless and sad.

Council: And so why would you want to try and have a relationship with someone who is in one already, and perhaps is very happy? Is it just that you are looking for a relationship? And this has come along and there’s a feeling of familiarity, or just a fantasy that you can imagine, and it brings you happiness. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, but the reason is that you do want a relationship for yourself.

Bluestar: A while ago I had two Akashic record readings, and the guides told me they saw me with someone in the near future. But in the second reading they told me that until I had more self-esteem, I would not be ready to be with anyone.

Council: And that is true with everyone. You always need some self-esteem. The more you can love yourself, the more you will bring in the perfect partner for you. When you have serious issues about feeling good about yourself, how can you bring someone in who will appreciate you and love you if you do not love yourself?

Bluestar: So I would like to know, was this [Zumba teacher] the guy that the guides told me about, or is he a different man? And if he is another person, have I already missed that opportunity by not being ready?

Council: There is someone there for you. We would not say it is this person [Zumba teacher], even though with the correct imagery you can create it the way you want it. You have not missed any opportunities. When you are ready, when you realize you are loveable and there is someone for you, and you don’t know who it is right now, but that you can get excited that that person is there and will come into your life, that’s when you’ll create it.

Bluestar: Have I had one or more past lives with this Zumba teacher that I like, and if so, how were they, because his company seemed familiar to me from the beginning?

Council: It seems like in the early 1700s he was wealthy and you were a maid in his household. But you were very friendly then, you had good rapport, and that is the familiar feeling, that good rapport, that comfortability that you feel now.

Bluestar: I would like to know if this guy that I like has any romantic or sexual feelings for me now, or if he only feels friendship for me?

Council: We see it as friendship. Again, you have the ability to change it.

Bluestar: How can I work on my self-esteem as a woman to have a healthy romantic relationship with someone? I am trying to improve my relationship with myself by saying more positive things to myself and valuing my talents more, but I don’t really know what else to do.

Council: So take a look at what you do every day. If you cook something and it comes out nice, pat yourself on the back. Be aware of it and acknowledge it. “Oh, I did this and it tastes great.” Or, “I read this chapter in a book. I really enjoyed this book. I picked a good book.” Or, “I went and I got a haircut. I like this haircut. And if I’m not too crazy about it, well you know what? I learned I can go somewhere else.”

Look at the positive things that you do, the littlest things that you do every day. Even going to a store and buying groceries that you need. That you remembered to get this, you remembered to get that, and you’re taking it home. And there’s a little bit of independence that you do on your own. Make the effort. Look and acknowledge all the good things you do. As that happens, you will feel better about yourself, and then there’s Mr. Right.

Bluestar: I am waiting for your response, and I am sending you lots of love and gratitude for your time.

Council: And we send you love too.

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January 13, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment