Letting Go Of Struggle And Handling Your Situation Differently
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader in response to a post we wrote called, Did I Have Past Lives in Atlantis?
Anonymous: Thank you so much for this message Cynthia, Bob, and The Council. It really got me thinking. A month ago or so (May 20, 2023) I asked a question about being stuck in government systems and feeling helpless. I’d like to provide an update on the situation to add to my original questions, if you don’t mind.
All my big tax and visa troubles have gotten resolved in the way I had hoped except for one of them.
Council: Isn’t this wonderful. And we hope you’re remembering several times a day to be grateful for that.
Anonymous: This one issue will require starting a whole visa process over, costing significant time and money. I thought I’d come to understand these challenges as a way to show myself I can turn my problems around with my thoughts, and maybe I was able to do that with all the other situations that have turned out positively. However, I truly believed this last trouble would disappear, and this morning I’m shocked to find that it hasn’t gone my way. Was there anything I could have done differently?
Council: Of course, but not physically or an action to be taken physically. But when you’ve had such success turning things around and yet there’s one situation that hasn’t changed (it will take more time and more money), then it’s something you’ve pre-planned, something that will teach you how to handle your situation a different way.
Now this different way is for you to look at your situation and think: Maybe I’m looking at it the wrong way. Maybe there’s some other way I can look at my situation because there’s something else here that I need to learn, or there’s some person I need to have contact with. There’s another way to turn this situation around.
When you start thinking this way you sort of let go of the struggle. You think this must happen and you get angry because it hasn’t, but everything else has. Instead, it’s an interesting way to look at it and let go of the struggle process.
There’s something here. Something else you will learn. There’s something else to see, and that’s good for you because all good is happening. And because this situation is here, there is another way to look at it. You look at it in a way that there’s something else, another way that you’ll learn to get through this. It will be easy. You will be surprised, You’ll have joy from it.
But instead of the struggle, think about your situation as a question. Hmmm, my higher self is still showing me this situation. There’s something else I must learn. And in that way you are in control. And it’s a much calmer feeling, it’s a much lighter feeling when you think: Very interesting. There’s another way for me to look at this situation. So let me go forward with this.
Bob: It’s interesting that you mention another way of looking at this situation because Anonymous says…
Anonymous: Reading Sophie’s post on, Did I Have Past Lives In Atlantis?, it strikes me as another way of looking at the situation is that maybe I wasn’t listening to the signs saying: This isn’t going to work out for that specific issue.
Council: In that specific way that you thought it would, but there’s a surprise. The universe will surprise you. When you let go of the struggle and be open to: What is it that I need to learn, and how do I go about it?
Anonymous: Stubbornness and positivity saw me through on the other difficulties. I’m not sure why it didn’t work out in the way I wanted it to this time.
Council: Because that energy – stubbornness and trying to force it to happen – that’s a heavy energy. That’s you trying to push yourself through this and change the situation with just pure willpower. But there’s an easier way, and that’s what we ask you to feel. Feel it. Like this is so interesting. This won’t go away until I’m open to looking at my situation differently. That I will be shown by another person, by a bunch of people, or by documents that are needed, that it can change. And it won’t be difficult because I’m letting go of the struggle. I am opening to see how this will happen.
Anonymous: How can I look at the information about this situation more clearly?
Council: By knowing that there is something else. There’s another way to do this that you haven’t been open to. That you feel the struggle and all the time it will be taking. You need to go through this again, but that’s an old thought, that’s an old way. So the way for you to go through this is to relax. Be like a child excited about something new coming in, some surprise that will be easy, and let this situation change.
Anonymous: There are many things in my life to be very grateful for, but it’s unusual for me to get cast up on the rocks over and over again when normally things are smooth sailing.
Council: Well it’s not being cast up on the rocks. It’s being put back in the classroom. Now look at it. Look at what’s on the blackboard. Look at it differently. Look at it with interest, like a puzzle, and laugh. It’s there. It’s right in front of you. And do that with excitement.
Anonymous: I’m trying the techniques The Council has suggested to turn things around on a spiritual level as well as other practical efforts.
Council: This is another way to do it. This is the way you need to do it now because of how things have changed.
Anonymous: But I expect more course correction is needed and I’d greatly appreciate your suggestions on how to do that.
Council: And you just got our suggestions.
Anonymous: Finally, I’ve been seeing a lot of angel numbers around recently. Many more than I normally have. Angel numbers aren’t something I’ve paid attention to at all until now. Is seeing the numbers 333, 555, 777, and sometimes 222, and 1111 multiple times a day a sign? And what am I supposed to be taking away from it?
Council: In your reality now angel numbers are so popular. It means this, it means that. If you see it, it’s a sign. It’s a sign, but it’s not a sign of a specific thing. It’s your guides, it’s your angels, getting you to laugh and getting you excited when you see these numbers to show you they are around. There’s help there for you, and it’s just to get you to know that this help that you need is right there for you.
So a specific number doesn’t really mean anything unless it’s what you prefer to believe – 333 will bring me money, 444 will bring me a new home, but not really. What it means is: We’re here. Think of what you want. Relax. Feel it. Feel your way through what you want, and the universe has to deliver it.
Anonymous: Thank you for all you do. I always enjoy reading your posts and ponder the wisdom provided in this blog often.
Council: Wonderful, wonderful questions. This has been such a joy for us. And we’ll send everybody love and happiness on their journey, and remind everyone to stay with the positive thoughts. In your reality, because of what is going on, a lot of positive thoughts are needed. And when you tap into this and more and more of you do this, the whole reality that you exist in right now will change. The course of your world is up to you. It all comes with the right thinking.
You have created your lives with the special people in them for a purpose. You have agreed to do things together. And always the agreement was to have happy thoughts, positive thoughts, finding things that don’t work right and finding a way to get them to work right. Help each other, help animals, help the trees, and help the ocean. You’re all here together to make this reality better and better.
And so we wish you joy. And remember, coming into this life you came in with the thought of having a joyous time and to find happiness everywhere. And that is your purpose. Have a happy life. Enjoy it. Create fun. Create love. You can all do this.
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Why Did I Choose This Life And My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I have severe childhood trauma. I’ve never felt so lost in life. I’m 37 years old. Growing up I had a very turbulent environment with no therapy. I’m not sure if I can trust my thoughts. I feel crazy and lonely. When I was 26, my son was diagnosed with cancer. When I was 32 I lost my sister to heroin. My parents are still drunks and I feel like I’m their parent.
What’s worse, I’m not sure if I’ve settled in my marriage. I’m unfulfilled internally and I’m not sure what I should do. Fear is definitely there. Can you tell me why I chose this life, and why I chose my husband?
Council: You chose this life with all these experiences you mention to find yourself and to learn about yourself. How do you handle deaths in your family? How do you handle being in a relationship that you think you’ve settled for? How have you gotten through and handled your childhood traumas? It’s all about looking at yourself.
And so here, until now, you’ve had a difficult reality. So we say, Where’s your hope? Where’s your focus now?
You can feel lonely. And of course if you meditate you’ll eventually learn that you’re not alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are ancestors that are around you to help you. But you need to sit down in quiet time and ask for this help. Go through every issue one at a time. Tell yourself: I need to understand this. How do I change my feelings about this? And know, absolutely without any doubt, that you will get the answers to your questions. You are not alone.
It’s the reality you created to go through these experiences, feel the loneliness, and then say, I must change this. I feel horrible. I don’t understand this. And you know what? I don’t want to go through this anymore. So let’s see what I can do.
And so you find joy. If you have to watch a movie, if you need to read a book, if you need to put on music, or do anything that will immediately uplift you. And when you’re in this beautiful, uplifting vibration, start thinking about what you want. What is something new you can bring in? And then follow that desire. Follow that idea in your head. Don’t give up on it.
Your purpose for coming into this life was to experience things from past lifetimes that you needed to repeat here – the losses and the sadness – but this time around you wanted to not just experience it, but to change it.
Bob: Can you give Elizabeth any clues about why she chose her husband?
Council: Because she’s been with this person in other lifetimes – and we see here there were a few good relationships – when this other soul was planning this path they agreed to come again and be supportive, or not be supportive and make things more difficult so that she’d learn on her own that she could change it. And so it was from being in spirit and deciding to come in and be whatever was needed for you to realize you can change things.
So you haven’t settled. You have agreed in spirit to this marriage. This person is here. Do you wish for your marriage to work out? Then you focus on that. Do you wish to move on and create something else? Then you focus on that. But you’re not settling. You’re going through all the things you wanted to go through to learn that you are the creator.
And many, many people at this time are going through their lives and realizing, I’m in charge here. My God, I can make this happier. What have I been doing being miserable? I can really change this job, this relationship, this sickness, this loneliness, this sadness. I can change all of it.
And so there’s a great shift taking place in your reality at this time. Everyone is heading toward feeling better about themselves and they are starting to create exactly what it is that they want.
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