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Will My Husband And His Family Learn Their Lessons For Their Bad Behavior?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named Soul Peace from a post we published called, How Do I Create A Successful Romantic Relationship, And Start A Spiritual Business?

Soul Peace: Thank you, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I have a quick follow-up question. Can you please help me get the answer when you get a chance?

I want to know if my husband and his family, including his parents and sister, will learn their lessons, or will be punished for their selfish, manipulative, bad behavior with me and his ex-wife?

Council: And so we would ask you, what are your thoughts on this? We feel that you wish that they would be punished. And in your lifetime, everything is created by you. So we would say, “If you believe and want them punished, that’s what you will create. That’s what you would see.”

In their realities, they feel they are justified by acting whatever way they are acting. And so there’s no justification and no agreeing with you wanting them to be punished because they behaved in a negative way. That would not be part of their reality.

And so if you wish to move forward, if you wish to create a happy life for yourself, it would be good to try and see them in a different light, and not wish negative circumstances to happen to them. And so, this is a lesson for you to move on in grace, in higher vibrational energy, or to stay stuck and wanting others to be punished for what you feel you were treated not well.

And so here the lesson is: change the perspective. Work on that. That they will grow, they will change happily, that they will do it in good grace and easily. And that’s how you would move on and bring in a different set of people into your life.

And so, we would say to meditate on this, work on your heart chakra, and let that part of your life go.

Soul Peace: My husband’s family has a huge role to play in both the divorces. In my case they have impacted my mental health and the life of my child for their selfish motives.

Council: And so acknowledge you feel they have impacted your mental health and your child. Once again, you have allowed this. And you have allowed this because you want to learn how to live differently, to project how you act differently, how you can have thoughts that are more positive for yourself and not focusing on them. Are you creating a better life for your child?

So forget what you have seen, and what you think they have created, and take hold of your life. This is your lesson, and create what you want for you and your child.

Soul Peace: I want to know if they will learn their lessons. Thanks, Soul Peace

Council: They will learn their lessons. They will learn what they need to learn, not that they will learn how bad that they feel they were to you. There are many lessons going on here for many of the people involved. And eventually, if it is allowed, if they are willing to grow, everyone (and we will say here, everyone) will learn their lessons and move on beautifully.

And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here, on the same path of bringing love, and bringing acceptance, of feeling good about others, about feeling good about yourself, and how learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Soul Peace and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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July 27, 2025 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Did I Have an Accident that Severely Hurt a Family Member?

This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Laura, who asks why she had an accident where a family member was severely injured? Laura still feels very guilty about the accident and it’s affected her whole life.

The Council begins by reminding Laura that in every lifetime you create there are lessons you wish to learn and experiences you wish to have and work through. Laura’s current lifetime comes from other lifetimes she’s gone through were she didn’t allow herself to understand the abuse other people went through.

In your current life you created this accident to experience it’s feelings so you could learn from them. In the other lifetimes you’ve experienced where there was abuse, murder, suicide, and deaths in families and in relationships, the one thing you didn’t learn was forgiveness.

In other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive the people around you who committed accidents. You didn’t understand why these people weren’t punished, or if they were punished, you thought it was never enough. The Council asks Laura if she’s punishing herself in her current life. They see she’s still not understanding the reason she created this accident.

This accident was agreed upon in spirit by everyone involved in it. Can the person who was injured live a good life with their disability? Can the family of the person that was hurt understand what happened? They all agreed to go through this experience and most of them are also working on forgiveness.

Read about past lives, how people learned from their other lives, and how they affect your present lifetime. When you realize what the lesson is from this accident, can you begin to forgive yourself and focus on how all the souls involved also had many lessons to learn from it? Instead of punishing yourself or holding onto grief and not forgiving yourself, can you imagine how you played your part? You really wanted to experience this accident because in so many other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive others. Now you’ve brought this accident into your life so you can learn forgiveness.

The Council recommends Laura read, Your Soul’s Plan, by Robert Schwartz, or any book by Brian Weiss on past lives. When you read these books and see how people have created misfortunes, diseases, and loneliness, you can begin to see what was created and what people were trying to experience and learn from, and you’ll understand more about why you’ve created this accident.

No one has created this accident but you and you can begin to see the purpose for it. Take the focus off the idea that this accident has tortured you your whole life and you can’t forgive yourself. The Council says of course you can forgive yourself.

It’s a big deal for Laura to learn this lesson of forgiveness in this lifetime. It’s a difficult lesson because it’s been in so many of her lifetimes, and she’s never understood and properly learned from it the way her soul wants to learn it.

Don’t be surprised when you get to the place of forgiving yourself. It will be a great relief. When you see how you’ve all come together to experience this accident and the forgiveness, you’ll begin to find love, first for others and then for yourself.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Laura and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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September 9, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Guidance, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

What About Evil People?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Trying To Learn, who asks about people who do bad or evil things on Earth, such as serial killers, mass shooters, and dictators who commit genocide.

The Council says, somewhat surprisingly, that people who do these so-called bad things have agreed to this in spirit with all souls involved so that each soul can have the experience they desire on Earth, which apparently includes learning lessons from what these ‘bad’ people have done.

The Council says these souls agree to go through acting bad to teach other souls the lesson of how to stay in love and protect one another. And when this isn’t done, learning the lesson of how things can get out of hand. Then it’s the choice of each soul to work with their higher self to bring peace and love into this situation and remember we’re all souls here to support each other.

The Council says the souls that agree to be the most horrible people have agreed to this to teach a major lesson that thousands or millions of people wish to learn because they wish to learn together how to change this situation.

From a spiritual point of view there aren’t any bad people. The question is how can we support each other to stay in the vibration of love by rescuing one another, caring for one another, and by changing the situation for the better, having it end, and then experiencing what we have gone through and learned from it. And this knowledge becomes part of the collective whole and every soul, whether you were in this Earthly reality when it happened or still in spirit, will learn from this situation.

Trying To Learn asks if the spirits of these ‘bad’ people interact with the spirits of those whose death they facilitated. The Council says as we all come together in spirit, there’s a great appreciation for what these ‘bad’ people have done. In spirit these people held up their agreement of what was supposed to happen. They played their part. And as all spirits continue to look back on what’s happened and learn from it, there is only peace and love on the part of each spirit. In this light Bob asks if the spirit of Adolf Hitler is regarded very well by other spirits and The Council says, “Exactly”.

Trying To Learn (Bob incorrectly identifies her as Audrey on the recording) asks if these ‘bad’ people receive any sort of punishment when they return to spirit. The Council says the only punishment they’d receive would be something that is self inflicted. If they don’t remember their agreement with all the souls involved, they might feel guilty and not understand that what they created was very acceptable and many lessons were learned.

If the souls of these ‘bad’ people can’t let go of a past reality and are stuck in the emotions and personality they played while on Earth, they can choose to create punishment for themselves. Bob asks for an example of what a punishment might be.  The Council says, as some people believe, there’s a Hell and you’ll be forever in darkness. Some people’s Hell would be abandonment. There’s the well known version of Hell where you’re in fire. Whatever you believe Hell is, you can experience this because you’ll create it, until at some point you realize this isn’t the way it’s supposed to be. It’s an illusion you’re temporarily stuck in.

You’d realize it’s an illusion because there are other souls around you that would try and help you through this by sending you higher vibrations of love and acceptance. When you finally allow this love and acceptance and begin to feel it, you’ll let go of the personality you were and the role you played. Then you’ll be able to come together with other spirits and learn from this experience.

Trying To Learn asks if the soul of these ‘bad’ people has a choice to reincarnate and if they do, will they be punished on Earth. The Council says these souls always have the choice to reincarnate. Why they reincarnate would be up to them. They can create a wonderful reality. Or they can choose to redo some horrible experience from another lifetime. Trying To Learn closes by saying, “Or is there no punishment,” and The Council says there isn’t any punishment.

Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Trying To Learn and the rest of us. It’s a very interesting session. And let us know what you think.

April 3, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Soul, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment