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Why Can’t I Fall Asleep When I’m With My Partner?

This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Jolanda, who says the first question I asked The Council was about my relationship with an abuser. On The Council’s and other people’s advice I ended the relationship three years ago and I’ve been so much happier. After doing a lot of self-development work, ten months ago I was blessed to find an amazing new partner. My problem is that ever since we’ve slept in the same bed together I haven’t been able to sleep. I’ve never had this problem with another man.

The Council says what you’ve called into this lifetime with your current boyfriend is another abuser, but it was from a different lifetime with you and it’s a wonderful thing. When we look at how you planned your current life, it was to work on abuse. You experienced it with a different person and then called in your current partner, who you experienced abuse from in another lifetime, but you both decided to be in each other’s life to heal this abuse.

In this other lifetime in India you were twelve years old and part of a prince’s harem. Your partner in your current life was a man in charge of the women that belonged to the prince and he kept the women in line with physical and emotional abuse. You were terrified of this man. You were afraid to sleep and to be where he could see you because he abused you. At the end of that life he had you killed because he didn’t like you.

In your current life, if you feel uncomfortable around your partner when it’s time to sleep together, which is what you both planned in spirit, this feeling comes from that previous life in order to heal this abuse. The energies, memories, and thoughts from this previous life are still around you. If you create many years of fear in a past life and bring those feelings forward into your current life in order to heal them, you’ll find yourself being uncomfortable with your current partner and not knowing why. What you’ve carried forward is the fear of sleeping because when you slept in your past life you’d be dragged out of bed and beaten and sexually abused.

Jolanda says she’s tried many rituals to cleans herself and her partner before bed: sage, visualizations, prayer, protection, deep breathing, and having showers just before bed. The Council says this is wonderful, but what’s needed is the understanding of where this difficulty falling asleep is coming from. Jolanda says she used to worry this problem was a sign her partner wasn’t right for her, but he’s such a beautiful, loving, and kind man and we truly feel like soulmates and twin flames.

The Council asks Jolanda to look at how right the two of you are for each other. You have given your partner the chance to be in your life so he can change his behavior toward you. This is a wonderful gift. It will take time, but when you understand what you’ve both gone through and that you’ve both agreed to be in your current life to heal that abuse, this begins the healing and the sleep will come.

The Council wishes Jolanda good luck with the healing. Go into the experience and let go of the fear. This past life was a long time ago. Your current life is brand new. Heal this relationship.

The Council closes by saying they find it joyful to see how you set up your situation so that your boyfriend wouldn’t be afraid to sleep. It’s you who was afraid in that previous life and you who are afraid now. With this new understanding you can begin the healing.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Jolanda and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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August 5, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | 15 Comments


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