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Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.

Anonymous: I struggle with what I suppose I view as sexism in my environment, and in friends and family who are dear to me. I’d like guidance on how to mitigate this challenge with grace or remain undisturbed. I don’t know if I’m too sensitive, or if others are insensitive.

Council: Does it matter if others are insensitive? If you feel you are sensitive, that’s where you are right now, and that’s what you work with.

Anonymous: I don’t know how to hear things that upset me so much and remain at peace. I feel disturbed when I hear men speak about women dismissively, or congratulating each other for sleeping with as many women as possible, or getting laid, or exploiting a sexual encounter with demeaning accounts of their experience with a woman.

Council: Can you bring yourself to a place where you allow this to be? You want to change the way people think, their ideas, and how they act. You can’t do that. The only thing you can do is work on yourself. How you handle it. And not everyone will feel the same as you.

So others are allowed to think and say what they want. That doesn’t mean you have to stay there and say nothing. You are allowed to say what you need to. But also remember, many times that will cause arguments. And so one of the things we’re all here to learn is to allow others to be who they are. They are on their path. They are dealing with what they need to learn, or what ideas are in their head, and whether they want to complete this life the way it is, or they want to learn how to change.

It’s very important that you allow others to be who they are. And when they say things that upset you, you can acknowledge that it upsets you and then remind yourself that’s not your path to change anybody. Your path is to allow them to be who they are, walk away, go into another room, and keep asking yourself, “Why does this upset me?”

It comes from other lifetimes where women weren’t treated right. There was a lifetime as a slave in the South, and again you saw a lot of horrendous things happening to women. So when you hear people talking like that it pushes buttons. It’s a trigger of something you remember unconsciously. And then you have to get to a place where you say, “Okay, I think I understand where this is coming from. I don’t like what I’m hearing, but I am a spirit, these people are spirits, and we’re all on our own path.” And allow them to go their way.

Anonymous: I feel that some men’s behavior is shallow, harmful, and self-serving. I contemplate whether to speak up or try to change the part of myself that’s offended.

Council: You don’t have to change the part of yourself. You have to acknowledge you feel offended and then make the decision. Do I say something? Will it bring this subject to a close? Will it cause an argument? And then decide what to do. And there’s always the allowing. Allow them to be who they are, but you don’t have to be around it.

Anonymous: How is it that I’ve come to be so hurt by these things? I don’t think women should regard men this way either. I don’t understand the nature of our attitudes towards sex on this planet, and what looks to me like ignoring that the other sex is a whole person rather than a useful subject to masturbate with.

Council: But remember here that everything you’re experiencing you have brought in. So you’ve brought these kinds of people in for you to learn how to turn it around where you are more comfortable now.

Anonymous: I’d like to see more care and love employed in the way we relate to one another.

Council: That would be wonderful, and we’re all here working on that.

Anonymous: Some input to help me understand myself and others would be so appreciated here. Thank you so much.

Council: It’s all about you. Remember that. How do you make yourself feel better? How do you allow others to be who they are? And when you can do that, your feelings around this won’t disturb you as much as they do now.

And so we wish you all a great journey, and to find love on your journey everywhere you can. Show it every day you can. Feel it for yourselves every single day and you’ll begin to change your life.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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January 28, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 7 Comments

Should I Have Sex with My Best Friend?

This post is inspired by questions from a woman named, Lavender, who asks The Council if she can have a casual sexual relationship with her best friend, or if The Council sees this becoming an issue later in their relationship. Lavender also asks if The Council sees a past life connection with her best friend.

The Council says sexual intimacy is definitely not a new feeling for her and her best friend. If they go ahead and have sex, their feelings for each other will change and The Council sees the situation eventually becoming awkward, but it would be okay in the beginning. They say if Lavender is interested in keeping this relationship on a friendship only basis, then having sex is not the direction to go.

The Council says if Lavender can be at ease with a sexual relationship it will be easier to create what she wants, which The Council seems to suggest would be a deeper more permanent relationship if that’s what Lavender ends up desiring. And they say if Lavender is worried sex will negatively change the relationship or ruin the friendship, it will be more difficult to create a loving atmosphere from this place of fear.

Even though Lavender would like a definite answer The Council says there are no definites because she is creating as she goes. They see it will be very lovely for a while, but Lavender has the ability to change the situation according to how she feels. Lavender’s current path is headed in a nice direction and whether it stays that way depends on what she creates.

The Council says they don’t feel, from what Lavender is currently thinking about creating with her best friend, that casual sex is meant to be a permanent change for the two of them. The Council appears to be suggesting the relationship could develop into so much more, even though this doesn’t appear to be what Lavender is asking The Council at this time.

The Council says if they can have a sexual relationship and be open and happy and have a positive feeling, that is what they’ll create. Go in with a vibration of love. Go in with a happy, hopeful feeling with the thought you’ll enjoy this and see what you can create.

The Council says adding sex to the friendship can become an issue later in the relationship if one or both become clingy, possessive, or picky, for example. If one wants to go in one direction and the other doesn’t it will create different experiences. But The Council adds it would be wonderful if Lavender can just go in and create a joyful situation.

The Council says Lavender and her best friend have been connected in other lifetimes and when they come together as friends in this lifetime, The Council believes there will be a lot of comfort because there’s a recognition and they know how to be around each other. But they are in a new life and the two of them will create it according to what they believe.

Lavender appears to be asking about a light and fun sexual relationship with her best friend. The Council appears to be saying this will be okay for a while, but the feelings will eventually change. The Council seems to suggest being open to a deeper and longer lasting relationship and seeing what develops.

Listen to the entire 7-minute recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Lavender and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

July 26, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , | 3 Comments