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Can I Manifest A Romantic Relationship With A Guy I Met Online?

This post answers relationship questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine.

Christine: I have finally met this online guy twice. Our connection is incredible. However, I realize the reason it’s been so difficult for us to meet and manage any stability is due to his mental illness. Although I fully support him and want to be there for him, I can’t deal with the ghosting. He’s either completely obsessed with me, or disappears and I don’t exist.

Council: So from what we are hearing, it is very difficult to deal with this, and you’re not in a place that can accept it as it is and have the relationship when you can, or completely walk away. So #1, that is something you need to focus on and decide what works best for you.

Christine: I really sense we’ve had so many lives together, and he agrees, but were we ever in a romantic relationship in any lifetimes? I’d love to know that.

Council: We see many, many lifetimes, and yet – interesting that you ask this question – there’s never been a romantic relationship. You were always siblings or neighbors, and always growing up to around the age of 15, we see. And then, for whatever was going on in your lives at that time, you separated. So in your current lifetime, there is the coming together again, but in his way. This is how he will protect himself from the parting, which is not wanted.

Christine: I’ve discovered when he ghosts me, he’s playing video games, and I think he’s living in a virtual world.

Council: Yes.

Christine: But in 14 years of communication, he’s never mentioned it at all.

Council: So in 14 years this is never mentioned, you never got closer, and where it’s frustrating, you are still there in that relationship. What does this relationship give to you? And again, at this point, is this what you want? It’s a wonderful relationship if you find that it’s enough for you, but we hear and feel that more is wanted. In this particular relationship, and of course you can always change it, but it would take a lot of imagery, work, and feeling to change it. If that’s something you don’t want to do, then this will not get much better than what you have right now.

So there is the accepting that you wanted to learn, or put it on the side and have it when you can have it with this person, and find another relationship that’s more permanent.

So you have options here, but you have to figure out what it is, and then do the mental work to create it. That’s by meditating on it, seeing it down to the last detail the way you want it, over and over. And when you see it, feel it. Feel it like you already have it. And of course when you do this, the universe will bring it to you.

Christine: When he tells me he loves me, is it true, or is it the mental illness talking?

Council: In his reality, he does love you as best as he can, which is wonderful.

Christine: When he tells me, I can feel it and I can hear it, but is it really him, and is it coming from his soul?

Council: Of course it’s really him. There is no fake him. It’s what he’s feeling. And we would say, it would be nice for you to be able to accept that. Because as much as he can love you, he loves you.

Christine: He believes I’m his soulmate, but I feel we’re karmic. I feel like he’s punishing me in this life because of our previous past lives.

Council: There is no punishing going on here. It is something you both agreed to. And you agreed to experience it, and in it learn your likes and dislikes, and how to handle it. And most of all, like what everyone here is doing is, learn to accept it. If there’s true love there and you want to be in it, then accept it. But only you can decide what you want at this point.

Christine: Am I able to manifest a relationship with him, or if we haven’t planned to be together in this lifetime, am I able to do that?

Council: You can create whatever it is that you want, but we would say there are many lessons there. So we’d say for you, do the work. Go back and see how you met. How did it develop through the years into what it is? Fourteen of your Earth years is quite a long time.

Christine: I thought you can manifest whatever you want. I’d love some answers and would be grateful if you can provide me with some guidance. Much love, Christine.

Council: Well that’s a wonderful letter. And there’s so much in this lifetime for the both of you to realize, to accept about each other, to create more. And perhaps accept the relationship the way it is, but have another relationship where you get more out of it.

There’s learning that can be done. You can share with this person what you find out, what you’re working on, asking that person if they’d like to work on it also. And that, again, would bring a closeness. So you can just respond with what you find out for yourself, and share it, and see if just the sharing changes the relationship.

And so we wish all of you great happiness on your journey. You all created this, and you all wanted to learn so much from what you have created. And with that we would say, have fun with it.

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May 19, 2024 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Love, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 2 Comments

How Can I Help This Man Who’s Dealing With Loss?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Curious. She says, A family friend who I haven’t heard from in years, maybe decades, reached out to me recently because he’s dealing with loss and he’s having a difficult time with it. He thought that since I was also grieving he’d get in touch and maybe we can be a listening ear to each other. I’m trying to help him, but I’m struggling with my own grief. I’m very moody and sometimes I’m sharp with him. I talk about my own problems instead of helping him, so I’m not sure I can be of help.

The Council says the two of you pre-planned in spirit for this man to reach out to you, be supportive, and for you to help each other get through the grieving process. When you speak about your own problems, that’s a way of sharing and helping the other person, even if you don’t see it that way. You can talk about feelings and things you think about. When you share these it helps the other person. Don’t be so hard on yourself and know that this was planned in spirit. Your way of helping is by sharing. And pay attention to what this other person shares. It’ll make an impact on your life.

Curious was told she should try to be of service to others, so she’s trying. The Council asks if Curious knows when she’s of service to others she’s also bringing healing energy to herself. It’s never a one-way issue.

Curious asks, How can I be of service to him and others? The Council says by doing exactly what you’re doing. Go through your moods and feelings and share them. How the two of you share your experience with each other is how you help each other in this situation. When helping others, always be a good listener. Be compassionate and find comforting words that you feel. As long as you feel and believe it will help this person, share that.

Curious says, I’m curious if we’ve had past lives together and I’m supposed to help him during this time. The Council repeats that this was pre-planned and mentions that you’ve shared a few other lives together. Because of these other lives there’s comfort with each other, a lot of learning together, and a lot of joy together. In this lifetime, because you’re both dealing with grief, there’s the desire to come together and deal with this grief together.

Curious says, I don’t know his intentions and I don’t want to be rude and directly ask him what they are because he’s very fragile, grieving, and needing support. The Council says his intention is to support you and not feel alone in his grief.

Curious says, I don’t want to assume someone always wants something, but I wonder why he’s contacting me now. The Council says it’s not that he wants something from you. He’s contacting you so you can share your experience.

Curious asks if this relationship will be for a short time and once he’s moved on from his grief, things will be back to how they were and we’re just crossing paths for only this moment? The Council says they feel the creations you’re both working on right now is to keep this friendship and not disappear from each other’s lives. If the both of you continue to have these thoughts of a longer-term relationship, you’ll create this. We can’t predict ahead of time what you’ll create with your thoughts and your feelings, but you planned to stay in touch.

Curious says, This experience has shown me that I’d love to be of service to others and help them. I’m even thinking of trying to learn Reiki or something like that. Is this something I should pursue, or just stick to concentrating all my energy on my sons? The Council says they always advise pursuing healing modalities. By learning Reiki you’ll learn more about energy and vibration and how to work with it. This is a very good thing. By learning Reiki you’ll learn how to heal yourself, you’ll learn how to heal others, and you’ll be of service, which is what you wanted.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Curious and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it in one of the Comment boxes that appear toward the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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June 15, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Helping Others, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

What Happens When a Soul Learns All It’s Lessons?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wonder, who asks what happens when a soul learns all the lessons there are to learn.

The Council says we are never finished learning. There are always more levels. When you feel you’ve had enough learning you’d come back into another life and work on those lessons with other people. You’d help them discover these lessons and the answers they’re looking for. You’d be the catalyst to bring these people to the point of learning about the many things you already know. There’s always another approach, whether it’s to learn for ourselves or to help someone else learn.

Next Wonder asks if souls have to repeat any lessons even if those lessons have already been learned. The Council says you can go through a lesson again if you choose to repeat it because you want to see this lesson from a different perspective or you want to repeat it to teach this lesson to someone else.

Lastly Wonder asks if souls ever quarrel over anything in spirit, or are they always about showing love no matter what? The Council says it’s always about showing love. There is no quarreling in spirit. There is sharing, there’s compassion, there’s happiness, and there are jokes. It’s the most loving place you can imagine. That’s what it’s like in spirit.

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March 25, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Love, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit | , , , | 6 Comments