Ask The Council

What will you ask Spirit?

Who Is This Older Man I Experienced A Strong Connection With?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Cretu.

Cretu: Long ago I experienced a very strong connection with a man 29 years older than me. Nothing happened between us. It was a silent knowing, just by looking into each other’s eyes and smiling at each other – a very pure form of bonding.

Council: It was a recognition with someone you’ve been with in other lifetimes.

Cretu: People around us became immediately aware of this energy and my life started to slowly get intoxicated by cruelty and jealousy to the point that years later I became a recluse. One girl went to a fortune teller and asked them to do something bad to me. I never believed in these things, but my life truly went downhill a few years later.

Council: Apparently you do believe that other people can create something bad in your life because no one can do anything bad to you. Many people say they don’t believe in curses or bad things being sent to them, but on a deeper level they do believe it. And so because of this belief, they start seeing things going downhill in their life.

It’s very important for you to know that you’re in charge of your life. If anything is going downhill, if you’re experiencing many challenges and much unhappiness, you are creating this from your thoughts.

The number one thing would be to meditate that you’re in spirit. You come here to the Earth path and you know that you’re in complete control of your life. Anything you’re experiencing, you’re creating it. When your life is uncomfortable, you’re creating it to see, know, and believe you can change it.

Bob: So when Cretu says that she became intoxicated by cruelty and jealousy, she chose to experience the cruelty and jealousy?

Council: Exactly. It was there and it was Cretu’s choice to let it in, but it was your choice on how you’d let this cruelty and jealousy affect you. Could you laugh at it? Can you let it go? Or will it overwhelm you, bring you sadness, and make you nervous? This cruelty and jealousy were experienced by you so you could see how you chose to experience it.

Bob: Any comments on what Cretu says about years later becoming a recluse?

Council: This was all her choice. This was out of fear and out of believing everything is going wrong.

Cretu: When I was in this man’s presence, I used to vibrate with such joy and love that I never felt anywhere else in the world. Just the thought of him would connect me with the source and my higher self. It was magical, and I could tell that it was reciprocated, even though we never told each other it was magical.

Council: This man came into your life to help you to connect with the source. And when you were connected and you knew that feeling was so wonderful, when this person is no longer in your life, it was your experience that would make you try to connect with source and your higher self without this person, and of course you can do that.

Cretu: I’d like to know who and what this person is to me, and who and what I am to him.

Council: You are spirits that have come together before, you have experienced lifetimes together, you learned well together, and you decided to take another crack at this process this time around.

Cretu: I’ve always wondered if there was a past life connection between us.

Council: You’ve come together in past lives as siblings, mothers, and fathers. You’ve switched roles. You’ve been partners before. For many lifetimes you wished to learn the same things, and so you jump in together in different lifetimes to create what you wanted to experience. It’s a wonderful partnership that comes together every now and then, and you’ve chosen this partnership in your current life.

Bob: Any comments on the 29-year age difference between Cretu and this man?

Council: Not at all. This connection was wanted and it was pre-planned that there would be such an age difference. It would just be when their meeting occurred, a recognition, a comfortable feeling, and being elated in the feeling of love because that’s who we truly are. And working together in past lives it was easy to connect to that emotion of who we really are as love and light when we’d be with that person, or even think of that person. It’s still possible.

Cretu: In two different periods of my life I experienced flashbacks from past lives and there’s one scene that’s haunted me forever – the silhouette of a man with a hat and cloak walking at night, and the same man lying with me on the ground in the street as one of us was dying, and promising to each other that our love would have been stronger than death.

It’s not easy to describe what happens to me when I connect with different times. It literally takes me away from the present, and all my soul and mind. I hope I can find answers through The Council.

Council: It’s very important when you had these images to see them and feel them. You can try and find out more about it, like what happened right before that scene in the street, or what happened after it. That’s an experience to connect with the past.

But we tell you that you are here now to focus on the now. It’s important not to keep going back to that past, or to any past. Take a look here and there, but live your life in your present. That’s what you intended to do – create in this lifetime.

Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Cretu and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

If you like this post, please click the LIKE button in the section following the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.

July 9, 2022 - Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Connecting With Spirit, Love, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , ,


  1. It was our pleasure, Cretu.


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | July 11, 2022

  2. How wonderful! Thank you so much for taking the time to explore my story. Much appreciated!

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Cretu | July 10, 2022

Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: