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Will My Husband And His Family Learn Their Lessons For Their Bad Behavior?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named Soul Peace from a post we published called, How Do I Create A Successful Romantic Relationship, And Start A Spiritual Business?

Soul Peace: Thank you, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I have a quick follow-up question. Can you please help me get the answer when you get a chance?

I want to know if my husband and his family, including his parents and sister, will learn their lessons, or will be punished for their selfish, manipulative, bad behavior with me and his ex-wife?

Council: And so we would ask you, what are your thoughts on this? We feel that you wish that they would be punished. And in your lifetime, everything is created by you. So we would say, “If you believe and want them punished, that’s what you will create. That’s what you would see.”

In their realities, they feel they are justified by acting whatever way they are acting. And so there’s no justification and no agreeing with you wanting them to be punished because they behaved in a negative way. That would not be part of their reality.

And so if you wish to move forward, if you wish to create a happy life for yourself, it would be good to try and see them in a different light, and not wish negative circumstances to happen to them. And so, this is a lesson for you to move on in grace, in higher vibrational energy, or to stay stuck and wanting others to be punished for what you feel you were treated not well.

And so here the lesson is: change the perspective. Work on that. That they will grow, they will change happily, that they will do it in good grace and easily. And that’s how you would move on and bring in a different set of people into your life.

And so, we would say to meditate on this, work on your heart chakra, and let that part of your life go.

Soul Peace: My husband’s family has a huge role to play in both the divorces. In my case they have impacted my mental health and the life of my child for their selfish motives.

Council: And so acknowledge you feel they have impacted your mental health and your child. Once again, you have allowed this. And you have allowed this because you want to learn how to live differently, to project how you act differently, how you can have thoughts that are more positive for yourself and not focusing on them. Are you creating a better life for your child?

So forget what you have seen, and what you think they have created, and take hold of your life. This is your lesson, and create what you want for you and your child.

Soul Peace: I want to know if they will learn their lessons. Thanks, Soul Peace

Council: They will learn their lessons. They will learn what they need to learn, not that they will learn how bad that they feel they were to you. There are many lessons going on here for many of the people involved. And eventually, if it is allowed, if they are willing to grow, everyone (and we will say here, everyone) will learn their lessons and move on beautifully.

And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here, on the same path of bringing love, and bringing acceptance, of feeling good about others, about feeling good about yourself, and how learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Soul Peace and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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July 27, 2025 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

Purpose of Sharing This Lifetime

This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader who identifies herself as D. She says many years ago she fell in love with someone who didn’t love her back and the relationship went from friends, to enemies, to friends, and on and on for years. The Council asks D. how she see’s this happening when she looks back on this, and to focus on the aspect of what was able to bring them back to friendship again.

D. says she felt a strange connection to this man from the first moment she saw him. She’s never been able to let go of that connection and often feels stuck and depressed about it. Recently he married someone else and D. describes feeling more loss and pain. She has moved and stopped talking to him, but the thought of this man is with her no matter where she goes or what she does. She asks why her soul can’t let go and find happiness elsewhere.

The Council says D’s soul is very willing to let go, but her human part holds onto what her future could have been with this man. This leads to feelings of depression and loss because D. feels she’s just this human body rather than a spirit in her body.

The Council explains that truly loving someone is allowing them to be however they want to be, and they ask D. if she can allow this man the happiness he’s found with his wife. And can she now find this same happiness with other people who’ve agreed to come into her life for this purpose.

D. wonders if she and this man have shared past lives together and that’s why she keeps feeling connected to him. The Council says they have shared many lifetimes, but ask D. if she wants to focus on what was, or where she is now, and create her future.

The Council says this man’s role was to teach D. to let go and find love wherever she can. And they ask if she’s ready to let go and find the love she’s looking for within herself. Can she feel the love with every person who comes into her life? As she feels love for herself she will attract love from other people.

D. says she’s always known that love is eternal, and The Council says it’s at these moments that she’s remembering who she truly is as a spiritual being. They say we are all love and we want to bring this feeling into this reality.

D. seems to associate her connection to this man with feeling loss and pain rather than appreciating the time they’ve spent together that’s been good for her. The Council says D. needs to change her thoughts about this man and realize he’s a spirit in a physical body. That is what will give her relief. And then ask herself what else she wanted to experience in this lifetime. And tell herself she’s ready to experience the next part of this journey, to experience love, joy, and happiness. Can she do that?

D. asks why she feels connected to a soul who doesn’t feel connected to her at all and she asks if this connection is one-sided. The Council says the connection isn’t one-sided, it’s just that she chooses to be more aware and learn from this connection.

D. finishes by asking what she can do to stop this feeling of connection and what is the purpose of sharing this lifetime with this man. The Council says there are many purposes and at any moment she and this man were able to choose the path they wish to take.

The Council recommends what she perceives as loss, she now perceive as the love she is that she’s looking for elsewhere. Appreciate the positive aspects of this relationship when she thought it was good. Ask herself what she’s learned that is good from this relationship and how she can move forward by bringing new relationships into her life.

This session appears to have some unusually good advice for D. and the rest of us. Listen to the entire 20-minute session with The Council to get all the detail.

May 23, 2015 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments