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Is The New Man I Met Right For Me?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Sophia, in response to our post, Letting Go Of Struggle And Handling Your Situation Differently.

Sophia: Thank you for your answer to my question about my partner smoking weed (marijuana), and me thinking of terminating my pregnancy. I did end my pregnancy and I broke up with my boyfriend. It was very difficult for him, and not easy, but liberating for me. He stopped smoking marijuana and he still wants to be with me. He started meditating and working on finances.

Soon after the breakup I met a guy who got me very interested because it seems like we have a lot in common. We feel very close to each other. Our parents live just 18 kilometers away. We both like to stay active. We grew up working hard. We have the same approach to work and living in a village. Our personalities are similar. And we both are interested in spirituality and self-growth, which is a very important point for me.

Council: So what we hear is a lot of … again … we, we we. Before it was the we with the person who was smoking marijuana, and you were pregnant, and you didn’t know if you wanted to have the baby. And so now that is terminated. And now you meet this wonderful person, and you have this in common and that in common. And we say, “And what about you?” What have you learned about yourself during the time you ended one relationship and started another? Jumping into another relationship you can create difficulties, and you can create a relationship not working out if you haven’t learned about yourself.

So we’d say, go back to the time when there was no other person in your life. What is it that you wanted for yourself? Not a relationship, but what is it that you want to be? How do you want to be? How do you want to live? And so you will grow from that, and then, again, you can pull in one, two, three other relationships. Whatever it takes for you to see, is this what I want? Is it not something that another person wants?

Don’t be in a relationship just to be in a relationship. Look at it. Is it the same? Does it have similar traits that your first relationship had? Did it work out and then all of a sudden it didn’t work out? So that person has a problem and you have a problem. And again, you are in something that isn’t going simply the way you want, where it’s easy and loving, and that’s it.

Everyone has baggage and everyone has to learn something. And so you need to learn about yourself and this other person needs to learn about himself. And in that time it’s good for you to not, what is the saying, put all your eggs in one basket. Allow this person to be who he is. Allow yourself to be who you are. And do not want your life to be without challenges because there are always challenges, and we learn to grow from them.

And so we’d say to enjoy what you have. When it turns difficult, is there anything similar in it that you had in your other relationships? Are you willing to learn from this? Are you willing to hang in there and see if it changes? Are you ready to run because it’s too much for you at the time?

And so right now your purpose is to learn about you, what you want, and what you don’t want. Where is your understanding of yourself? Where is your understanding of this other person? And so when you examine all of this you begin to know, I don’t have to stay in this relationship, I don’t have to jump into a relationship. And if this one doesn’t work I have to find someone else right away. This time is about you so that you don’t keep creating the same relationships that are so fun, that are so loving, that you want the same things in the beginning, and then, puff, out of nowhere it goes downhill.

Sophia: Since we met it all went so smoothly and quickly that I thought he was the one for me. It all seemed very positive. Everywhere we go it seems like people want to get closer to us. So what happened after it all went so quickly that he got scared of a relationship, and hasn’t healed past relationship trauma?

Council: It’s part of his life’s purpose. It’s part of him having to maybe learn why there’s a fear of relationships. Is he ready to jump into another relationship? Maybe it’s wonderful in the beginning, but when it gets very serious he can’t handle that right now. That’s for him to work out.

You, on the other hand, should be looking at: Okay, this person has a problem. Is it worth it? Is there really so much in common? Are there loving feelings? Or am I just here because it’s another relationship?

Sophia: So we started communicating less. My question is: Is it a sign for me to heal after my previous relationship…

Council: Of course.

Sophia: …and not jump in so quickly, and give him time to heal…

Council: Wonderful.

Sophia: …at the same time so then we’ll both be ready? Or is it a sign to move on because we’re not a match?

Council: It’s time for you to give each other time to learn, to heal and become friends, or to move on. Whatever it is, you can create this with your visualizations. So there’s nothing set in stone, but the key right now is for you to let each other heal. And for you, concentrate more on yourself and what it is you truly want.

Sophia: That close feeling we both felt keeps me thinking he could be the one for me.

Council: It could be. Let’s see what you create.

Sophia: I never felt so similar to anyone in my life so far. I feel that the universe is giving me a chance to choose a partner, as a lot of men showed up who pursue me, but they are either lacking something or they aren’t ready, like a guy who seems could be a great match.

Council: It’s not that they pursue you and are lacking something, or are not ready. It’s because you are lacking something and you are not ready, because you are not doing the work to understand yourself. Work on yourself.

Sophia: That’s very interesting for me. Hope it all will work out at the end.

Council: Do you see that you create someone … whether it’s one time, two times, three times, or four times … that’s so wonderful in the beginning, it looks like there’s so much in common, and then it goes poof. You create this scenario over, and over, and over until you do the work on yourself. And then when you’re happier with yourself and more aware of what you want, the (so to speak) right person will come along. But it’s all about you learning about you now.

We thank you and we send you all love, and blessings, and happiness, and wonderful, wonderful uplifting thoughts. And think of being in the light, and in love, and spreading it out everywhere you go.

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October 9, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Creation, Healing, Life Purpose, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , | 2 Comments

What is the Purpose of “Announcing Dreams”?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kenneth, who asks the purpose of “announcing dreams” where a soul presents itself to a living person, often declaring that soul’s intention to be reborn to the person or even just engaging in random parent-child activities.

The Council says you can have other souls come to you in dreams or visualizations and tell you what they want, ask you about your current lifetime, or if you’d consider accepting them into your current life as a child, a friend, or acquaintance. Souls will come to you and ask you what you’ve learned or ask you to show them what you’re going through. Souls don’t have to come to you based on a parent-child relationship.

Kenneth asks why some souls who come to humans appear as children and others appear as someone elderly from a prior incarnation? The Council says sometimes if the soul has known you before as a child or an adult, they’ll appear as a child or an adult. Or the soul will consider what you’re going through in your current lifetime and see whether you’d be more open to get information from a child or an adult. It’s always the spirit’s job to see where you are in your current life and figure out the easiest way to reach you.

Kenneth asks why some people have these announcing dreams while they’re still young themselves. The Council says it’s because you’re more open when you’re a child. You’re still very connected to spirit and what you go through in your life hasn’t changed your beliefs or somehow made you disbelieve what you hear.

Kenneth asks if souls who engage in this sort of communication with humans can declare their desire to individuals who they’ve had no prior incarnations with. The Council answers that they definitely can.

Kenneth closes by asking if he, as a spirit, thought it was necessary or desirable to communicate with a potential mother or father. The Council says not only a mother or father, but you’ve helped people many times. You’ve helped by coming in and giving the person ideas on how to get through something or spark some creativity in someone.

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November 29, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Soul, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment