Please Provide Clarity On My Unexpected Pregnancy In My Unhappy Marriage
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, L.
L: Hello again Bob and Cynthia. You were kind enough to ask for clarity for me a couple of years ago when I became pregnant unexpectedly. It was a tough time, and I lost the baby at the end of the first trimester. I could not go through with a termination, and offered to the spirit that I would leave it with them to stay with me or go. Our world was a little rocky and the babe left.
I now find myself unexpectedly pregnant again at 42 years old. Again my husband is not happy. I am shocked, but less so than before. Our relationship was already in conflict, and this pregnancy is pushing the limits of our mutual disrespect and fighting. I don’t feel like my last pregnancy with him, but I definitely do not feel embraced.
I would love some clarity from The Council regarding this pregnancy and the way forward. Part of me hoped that we could make this pregnancy work for us, bring us closer together, and be more in harmony, but it has not. At ten weeks pregnant we can barely be civil to each other. I’m not in a position to be a single mother of three children, however. I’m so sad at what our relationship has become for me and our children.
I am looking for the light, as I feel at times so lost, being pregnant at my age, and in an unhappy marriage with two children. Any guidance would be appreciated. I wish for a happy, peaceful life with my family, and good health. Thank you, L.
Council: Unfortunately there are many, many people, when they are in relationships that are not working out, feel like they will have a child and that will bring you closer together. And that does not always work. Many, many times it makes it worse. You have a relationship where there are problems already. Do you think this new little spirit is going to change your life? The spirit agreed to come forward if that’s what you want, but the spirit will then have to deal with their issues, and you will still have your issues.
And so you are at a point where you must decide if you have this child and you wind up alone, is this what you want? Can you handle it? If you don’t have this child and you stay in this marriage, do you think it will improve at all?
But what we say is, now is the time to do the visualization the way you want your life to be. But make some sort of a decision, like no, I cannot be a single mother of three, or yes I can. What’s one more? But at least I’ll be free and out of this relationship. Or stay with two children and somehow we will get along.
But that won’t magically happen. What’s going to happen is your thoughts will create what will happen. So if you want to have this child, and you want to stay in this marriage, now is the time to see it, and to see it as if it’s already happening, to see it with joy in your heart that this worked out, this is wonderful. And that is how you create.
And we send you peach and love.
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Help with Her Daughter’s Marriage
This post is inspired by a woman named, Marie, who asks The Council for help with her daughter’s unhappy marriage. The Council says how Marie looks at her daughter’s marriage will create what she sees. If Marie thinks her daughter is in a horrible marriage, this is what she’s creating. The Council asks Marie if she’s able to find some moments where her daughter and daughter’s husband are getting along and to focus on that instead of focusing on them not getting along.
Marie asks if it’s wise to encourage her daughter to leave her husband. And The Council says, not at all. Marie doesn’t consciously know what her daughter’s spirit and her daughter’s husband’s spirit agreed on and what they’re trying to heal in this lifetime. The Council recommends letting the marriage unfold. They point out that love allows everything and by allowing them to work on their marriage without interfering, Marie is loving her daughter.
The Council recommends that with Marie’s thoughts and prayers she picture her daughter and her husband doing what they need to do, whether it was to come together and have the courage to leave each other, or to come together and see things differently and get along better moving forward.
The Council says Marie’s daughter is trying to come together with her husband and find a path where they can understand each other. They’re trying to turn toward the experience of love. They’ve had several other lives together and they enjoy having these lives and helping each other grow and learn.
The Council says it’s possible her daughter and her daughter’s husband get along better than Marie perceives, and The Council asks Marie to change how she looks at the marriage. They say to almost strain herself to find something good in this marriage and as she does this more of this goodness will be created.
The Council recommends that Marie talk to her daughter about nice times her daughter and daughter’s husband shared together. This will help her daughter remember these nicer times. Marie should try to bring some light into the marriage as she talks about it with her daughter. Look for the good in this marriage and talk about it with her daughter, and it will help her daughter on her path.
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1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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