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How Can I Attract A Loving Relationship?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Jay.

Jay: I’m just so confused. Why is it that the guy I didn’t have any energetic connection with ended up being the guy I could open myself up to, while the guy I had a connection with triggered something in me to shut down?

Council: How could you think there’s no energetic connection if you can open yourself up to someone? We would say to take another look at this because if you feel safe enough to open up in any way that you imagine, there is a positive energetic connection there. So look for it, feel it. It’s definitely there.

Now it may be not what you want at this moment, but you have to give it time to grow, and watch it, and learn from this. And when there is no energetic connection, what do you mean by energetic connection? A love attachment, Intimacy? There’s much more than that in a connection.

And so watch and look at how you feel with both people and learn from it. And be aware of what’s going on. Be open to what you see.

Jay: I don’t know if I should continue dating or not. It seems to drain my energy, so I’ve decided to focus on creative pursuits to build myself up a bit more.

Council: So why does it drain your energy? Are you trying so hard to make something happen? Is it not going in the direction that you want?

You can date and keep things very light, and learn about yourself in these relationships, and learn about these people in the relationship. So there’s a lesson in there. There’s a learning that you wish to go through.

Jay: I did reach out to the first guy to be friends with him because I felt it was easy to open up to him, but I’m worried I could be setting myself up for an attachment.

Council: That’s because it’s something that you want, a relationship. It doesn’t mean it will be with this person. Can’t you have a friendly attachment to this person and then see how you feel? Or let things grow? Or fall apart? But watch these relationships?

Jay: What can I do to move past this and attract and keep a loving relationship with a man I desire, especially since I’ve never been in a relationship before?

Council: So if you’ve never been in a relationship before, imagine how you’d like your relationship to be. Nobody can do that for you. Nobody knows what you want.

So you have to do the work of getting yourself in a good vibration. Either meditate or think of happy thoughts. Anything to raise your vibration. And then imagine with the person you want, or a brand new person, how would you like it to be? And focus on that, and feel that.

And that’s how you bring in what you want. You always do the vibrational work first. It’s already happening for you. So for you to bring it in, imagine the way you want it.

These are fun questions. We love being part of this, we love watching you, we love giving you supportive energy, and we love seeing you grow. And when you come back here (to spirit) we’ll have a great parade, we’ll have a dinner, we’ll have happiness and dancing, and we’ll all be together again.

And it might help, when you do something that makes you happy, or you help someone, to say to yourself, “Wow, wait till I get back home. Wait till I share what I did with this.” And that’s part of the fun.

And we wish you all love and light, and take out your crayons and your paint brushes, and create the colors, the happiness, and the feelings. Create anything you want.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Jay and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own free question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll answer it when we have time. For the time being you don’t have to attach your name to the comment, but there have been a lot of anonymous comments lately, and it can be confusing for us to keep track of a lot of anonymous comments. It would help us if you made up a name rather than using no name.

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February 6, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Imagination, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

How Can I Deal With My Secret Relationship And My Strict Mother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish.

Starfish: Hi. I want to ask about my relationship. I’m currently dating someone, but I have to keep this a secret from my family. This is because my mom is very strict and I don’t want to deal with the pressure and stress she’ll put on me if she knows.

Council: We’ll say right here that the condition where you have to keep things secret is not the kind of vibration that will bring you forward into the kind of life that you want.

And so we’d always say to speak your truth, whether it’s understood or not. For your growth it’s better for you to speak about this and let your mother and your family know what’s going on in your life. It’s not your place to have your family understand. It’s your place to speak your truth, and their ability to understand, to open up, and to grow from your truth is up to them.

Starfish: However, this secret is giving me major anxiety and guilt.

Council: Oh, we would understand that. Yes, because your higher self knows that’s not what you’re here for. You are here to live your life, and speak the truth of what’s going on and how you feel.

Starfish: How can I manifest more freedom in my life? For example, being able to go wherever I want, at whatever time I want, with whoever I want without reporting to my Mom and not having her angry at me.

Council: That comes in time with speaking your truth. Right now you can’t go anywhere you want, whenever you want, and at any time. You’re not there in a place to understand that when you do that, there’s more maturity in that, and that you will learn by seeing the people around you listening to you and understanding what you need. As they listen and there’s more understanding, there will also be more freedom.

Starfish: How can I continue keeping my relationship hidden and in peace?

Council: It will not always be hidden. It’s not your job to hide this relationship. Part of this incarnation of yours is to be heard, to have free expression, and to grow from it. And to know that you are responsible for yourself, for your feelings, and being able to speak about it, and then to watch the people around you. How do they accept it and how do they grow? And this takes patience and it takes time. And when you can be grateful that you see the little changes, that’s when everything begins to change.

Starfish: Can you give me some advice on how to deal with my controlling Mom?

Council: This is part of your mother’s challenge, and she will continue to be controlling until she can hear you, what you’re saying, and why you’re saying it. And hopefully you don’t say it violently or with anger, but that you’d talk with the reasoning behind what you want, and also the understanding how much you can do at this time.

And so with the understanding, with the patience, and with the love for your mother and for yourself, to have this come together and be solved, that’s how everything will move into a better circumstance.

Starfish: My relationship with my Mom has always been very challenging, and I feel so frustrated with the limitations she puts on me.

Council: This was all pre-planned in spirit before you were born. And so yes, there are limitations that your mother feels she needs to impose. And so you need to understand her and talk to her about why she makes these limitations, and to do it in a loving, open, understanding way to hear what she has to say. And as you listen to her calmly and you can discuss your situation, again, things will change.

Starfish: I can’t live like this anymore. I want to move far away from my mother when I’m financially independent.

Council: And so when you’re financially independent this can happen, but at that time, if you try speaking your truth, and try understanding your mother’s point of view, you may not be in such a rush to move away. Things can change. See it as you desire it. See there becoming peace and understanding between you and your mother.

Starfish: Is there any way to speed up this manifestation of moving away and becoming independent?

Council: First of all, do it in the vibration of love. Meditate and see exactly what you want. See yourself moving away. See yourself being able to have relationships and not having a difficult time with them. The vibration of what you want, when you see it with love, and when you see it and it makes you feel happy, that’s what goes out into the universe, and that’s what you’ll pull back into your life.

So learn to meditate. If you can’t, then sit there every day and picture exactly what you want your life to be like. But do it in a place of love and happiness, as if it’s happening already, and that will begin to make things change.

Starfish: How can I make my mother less controlling of me?

Council: Speak to her. This is part of what you wanted. It’s your place to speak your truth, and always speak it in a calm and loving manner. And eventually you’ll be heard and you’ll be understood. This is what you created.

We thank you, and we send you all love, and blessings, and happiness, and wonderful, wonderful uplifting thoughts. And think of being in the light, and in love, and spreading it out everywhere you go.

Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Starfish and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own free question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll answer it as soon as we have time.

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October 2, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Desire, Feelings, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s Blocking My Having A Long-Term Relationship?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s looking for a long-term relationship.

Anon: I asked you about a long-term relationship in my future a while back and recently, after not focusing on relationships for a while, I tried to date again and met someone I thought had some potential. However, it’s been a very brief and confusing experience and they’ve decided to see someone else.

Council: So what have you found in this relationship that would bring you joy? What have you found that you can move on and find in another relationship? It’s always good to look for the experience and you’ll find in it things you want and things you don’t want.

And so we always say, before you look again, what have you learned? And what is the desire you want that you can create with the next person you bring into your reality?

Anon: I feel I understand the part I may have played in sabotaging things a bit, but I can also see that this person has baggage that makes us incompatible, at least for now.

Council: It’s good that you acknowledge this, but this baggage that you mention, it’s just experiences. It’s just beliefs the other person has, wanting to change or bring into their reality.

As a spirit you can notice, and you’ll only notice where you are, you can notice the differences or the baggage as something you’d like to go through with this person and also learn from. Or just help. Or you can be in another place where this is too much for me. I don’t want to be involved. There’s no right. There is no wrong. It’s just choices.

Anon: Is this just another short learning experience, or is there any further potential in this relationship?

Council: There is always potential. But what we like to put out there to everyone over and over again, you are the creator. If there’s potential and you want to stay in this relationship and see how you create it the way you want it to go, it’s because that is your focus and your heart’s desire. Your wanting will make it the way it will appear in your reality.

So yes, of course there’s the possibility of a relationship with this person. And there’s also the letting go if that’s what you wanted. Always know that you are the creator. What will you learn in the relationship? How will you bring love into this relationship?

Everyone has your so-called baggage. You have baggage. Where is it?

Always remember it’s your choice on the path you take. It’s not written in stone anywhere that you must do this because there’s this contract. There is no contract. There’s just spirits coming to help and say, “I’ll be there for you. I’ll go through this with you. Or I’ll pop in for a little while.”

The #1 example we’d give you  is to look at this relationship. Is there enough for you to want to work through the baggage? Or is it too difficult for you? Make that decision and then go from there.

“Well it’s difficult, but I’d like to create it a little differently.”

“Well it’s too difficult. I need to get out of this situation and find somebody else where it’s easier.”

Well you can do this also.

“Oh, I’d like to have two or three partners at one time and just have fun.”

You can create that too. You are the creator.

Anon: At the least I do feel like this person could become a friend in my life and I’d like to help them on their journey, but I’m not completely sure.

Council: Well, you can jump in there for a little while. Show kindness. Be supportive. Show love. See what you receive back. And is this making you feel you’re closer to the true you? Are you closer to spirit?

Whatever decision you make, whatever direction you decide to go in, if you don’t like it, well the answer is simple. You change your mind and you start creating in another direction. It’s as simple as that.

Anon: What would be the most loving way for me to approach this connection?

Council: Be genuine. Love yourself. And in every situation try to remember this person is also a spirit that has agreed to be in your life, and wants you in their life for whatever reasons. Isn’t that wonderful? What a wonderful friendship. So take this relationship where you want.

Anon: Is there someone else coming into my life with whom I’d be able to build or co-create a long-term romantic relationship?

Council: It’s entirely up to you.

Anon: What’s blocking a long-term relationship from coming in?

Council: Just your focus. Find your desire. Focus on it and it will happen.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for the anonymous reader and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. You can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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October 12, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee, who has a follow up question on our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man? that we published last month in response to Lee’s earlier questions.

Lee: I feel drawn to a man I recently started dating. The relationship is moving very fast and we’re even talking about marriage.

Council: Is this what you want? It’s all up to you. You can take the relationship and have it move slowly or quickly, but you have to decide if you’re comfortable with it moving quickly.

Lee: I feel very connected and comfortable with this man. It’s as if I’ve known him forever.

Council: How wonderful. You recognize the spirit within this person that you’ve known in other lifetimes. You both agreed in spirit that this person would come into your life. What is it that you want? Where do you see this relationship going?

Lee: I feel very connected to him spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but he comes with a lot of failed relationships and baggage. I’m afraid I may be ignoring red flags and making a mistake.

Council: It’s good to recognize there are red flags. There’s always a problem when you’re getting signs, but you ignore them. By taking your time with this relationship you can see more and more what this person is truly like. There’s no reason to rush. If this relationship is something you both want, you’ll both feel the trust and the love in it to make the relationship happen.

Lee: I’m a recent widow and I feel guilty. I wonder if I’m just vulnerable and lonely, and the relationship isn’t real.

Council: Of course you’re vulnerable and lonely. That’s part of the human condition when we love someone and lose them. There’s no reason to feel guilty. It’s perfectly fine to move on and have another relationship if that’s what you want. But again we tell you, it would be wise to slow this relationship down. If it’s real and something you both want, time won’t change it. You can work towards it.

Lee: I’m also worried about my son’s reaction to the relationship.

Council: This is another reason to take your time. Because this relationship is new, it’s up to you to take a good look at it, see how you feel, check out the red flags, and take time to see what this person is really like before you involve your son. We feel you know that rushing into this relationship isn’t wise. If you do rush into it, you’ll be faced with challenges more quickly than if you take your time.

You might not know the direction to go if you rush. You’ll get exactly where you need to be. Be in the relationship. Experience the good and the bad, and see what it is that you want.

Lee: Should I continue with this relationship or is it infatuation?

Council: Of course it’s infatuation. Should you continue with this relationship? It’s totally up to you. And that’s why we say: Be in it. See what this relationship is. Don’t rush it. Experience this person and see what baggage he has. Why were there failed relationships? All of this will give you clues about what you want to do.

Bob: You say that it’s infatuation, but it sounds like you may not be ascribing a negative connotation to the word.

Council: In infatutuation, people are taken with someone else. They feel so in love and so happy, and that could be the feeling now. But in time you’ll learn about this other person. You’ll learn about yourself and how you handle another person if you see a lot of characteristics you don’t like. It’s good to give the relationship time. It’s something you want to learn from, and that’s why the relationship was created the way it was.

Bob: Earlier in the session you said Lee and her partner have relationships from past lives.

Council: Yes, there were a few connections. We see the coming together now is something they planned in spirit because they worked together in other lifetimes. But there’s no particular lifetime that’s tied into their current life where they need to learn something, complete something, or heal something. It’s just two spirits that like working together.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording (apologies for the sound quality) of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Lee and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can ask The Council your own question by typing it into a Comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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April 9, 2022 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Should I Hope To Be Contacted By This Guy?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, T. Franks, who asks about love and finding their soulmate. She says, I’m in my mid-20s and dreamed of finding my Prince Charming since I was a little girl. I’ve learned so many lessons in this lifetime and I’ve found unconditional love with members of my family with whom I’d previously not gotten along. I’ve dated a number of men, but we never shared that soul connection and I’ve never been in love. I want to experience the feeling of being in love with someone who is my soulmate.

The Council says when you date someone, whether your expectations are very high or it’s just a few dates, that is a soul connection. It’s two souls that have come together, whether for a short time or a long time. It’s a good idea to look at each of these relationships and find what’s good in each one of them. How did it make you feel? Being grateful for what you like you can create more and more love.

T. Franks says, recently my mother connected with someone who has a son my age who lives near me and he seems perfect on paper. It’s over a week and I’ve still not heard from him. I understand things are crazy with COVID, but I wonder if I should hold out hope or if the son won’t be contacting me and I should just move on.

The Council feels your thoughts about love and other people stepping in to help you make a connection are a little desperate. It’s like you think who’s going to step in and help you find true love. Be at ease with yourself. When you want something, ask for it, look for it, and you practice knowing this thing is coming to you. It will come easier than if you think you want to find your soul connection and have a parent’s friend step in. We understand these people are trying to be helpful, but the vibration is the wrong vibration to bring to you what you want.

The Council says looking at what was pre-planned before coming into this reality, this man also has different needs that he wants to be met. It’s a way where you can come together. We don’t see this relationship lasting a long time, but it’s just to bring in the vibration of having someone to speak with and to join with for a while. We see you pre-planned in spirit to be transitions for each other.

You planned to stimulate within each other what you’d call the vibration of true love or true romance by just being friends. We don’t see this relationship as one you have planned for the long term. It was just for you two to come in and sort of push each other through something by having a connection and wanting more. We don’t see this man as your Prince Charming.

T. Franks says dating is really difficult these days because I don’t participate in the hookup culture and online dating apps. I don’t want to be 40 years old when I finally find my Prince Charming.

To this, The Council asks why not? When you create true love you create it on your own terms. It doesn’t matter if you’re 15, 20, 30, 40, or 70. When you finally find the person you’re able to have a love relationship with, what does it matter how old you are? This is what you need to look at. You need to feel grateful that love is there for you. Sooner or later, as you keep positive thoughts about this love, you will have it. Would you rather not have true love at 40 and not have it at all. Or have it at 40 and go through the rest of your reality with it?

The Council advises T. Franks to appreciate the love she has with her family. Appreciate anything you can build on with this man you’re hoping to meet. Look around yourself to friends and anyone you feel a comfortable and supportive relationship with. As you appreciate that and ask for more, it will come.

There is a long term relationship that you pre-planned in spirit. We don’t want to give it away because your homework is to just appreciate the love you have around you from family, from co-workers, from friends, wherever you feel it. Even if you have a pet that you show love to and feel it back. Appreciate that. Appreciation will bring you what you want.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for T. Franks and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 27, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments