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How Do I Cope With My Fear Something Terrible Will Happen To My Daughter?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Clare.

Clare: Hello Bob, hello Cynthia, and hello to The Council.

About two years ago my daughter was born. And since then I’ve been experiencing various intense fears about her being safe, about me being here for her, and being able to protect her. I’m afraid I might die, or that someone might kill me.

I feel more vulnerable since my daughter was born. For example, when I take a sip of a drink, I’m afraid someone might shoot me. I see what terrible things are happening in the world, like wars, school shootings, rape, and kidnappings. It’s truly horrifying what’s happening to small children or teenage girls, and it scares me deeply.

Council: We would like to say here, my goodness! You have picked a lifetime where you are trying to heal many, many lives of abuse, of being terrified, of early deaths, and losing family. So all of this is now going on for you to heal, and to find out why you are feeling like this.

We would like to tell you that the most recent [past life] was in World War II, where you and your daughter now, who was your sister then – the two of you, young girls taken away from your parents – and were in one of these concentration camps, and were abused, and were trying to stay alive. And seeing so much abuse going on, and you being two years older, feeling responsible for taking care of your sister, and trying to keep her safe. So that, #1, is what’s coming up for you and your daughter.

Clare: These fears paralyze me internally.

Council: And if you can imagine, that is how you were in that past life: terrified, paralyzed with fear, and not knowing how to protect yourself or your younger sister.

Clare: Is this connected to what is currently happening in the world? Or does it reach back into past lives?

Council: Both. We would say, unfortunately the way the world is at this time, it would bring up those subconscious memories.

Clare: What can I do so that these fears don’t paralyze me, and so that I can breathe fully and freely again, so I can feel love and safety in my heart, and know that we are okay?

Council: The #1 thing is, when you find out about a past life, it takes a little while, but when you accept it, and you realize what you are afraid of is not going on right now – you are not in a [concentration] camp right now. These are memories that come with a lot of feeling, but it’s to get to the place where you realize that was then, this is now. It is not happening now. And when we died in that life, we’re still okay because here we are. We’re okay. It’s a past life. It is not hurting me. It is not happening now.

Clare: Can you also tell me whether my daughter and I have shared lives together, and what soul contracts we made for this lifetime?

Council: The soul contract is that you both wanted to be together again, but in a happier atmosphere. So it is your place to find a way to realize what is happening now. We are safe, and come up with thoughts that can prove to you that you are not in that same situation again. Everything that goes on with you now must start with your thoughts. That’s how the healing will start.

So you have to find a way to think, “I’m safe.” Even if you sit down for ten minutes a day, and in that ten minutes think of love, and think of happiness. Come up with fantasies of what it would be like and sit in that happy feeling. As you begin to do that, that will grow more and more and will help you to release the fear. And it will help you realize it is not going on now. I am fine.

Clare: What can I do to help our relationship thrive and to love each other, even when she becomes an adult woman?

Council: We would say, as a child, play. Find play, happiness, and fun things to do. That is important. And that will go into adulthood, and you will have a much easier and happier life together because you’re going to start changing it now.

Clare: Friendships with women still feel impossible for me, and I can’t maintain any female friendships. Even within my family, no woman communicates with me. I’ve always felt like I had to submit to them. And when I expressed my opinion, nobody liked it. What can I do differently with my daughter?

Council: Show her love and understanding. Find happy things to do. The woman problem is also from that same life. If you realize you are in a camp with women, and sometimes they were very mean to each other, just trying to survive, so that is also part of the same past life.

So it is your choice, of course, but it is your hope to heal this [situation] in this lifetime. And for you to do it, you must change your thoughts. You have to have control of your thoughts. Ten minutes a day will be enough to start this.

Clare: I would like to have a beautiful, warm, and heartfelt relationship with my daughter.

Council: And you can have this. You have to do the work, but you can have this.

Clare: Thank you very much in advance for your advice and insights. I’m sending light and love. Clare.

Council: And so we send you love. We send everyone happiness, and hope, and the ability to change your lives. To know that you can, and make [your life] exactly the way you want it. And that is why we’re all here right now. Love to you all.

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March 3, 2026 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

How Can I Help My Daughter Feel More Confident?

This post answers question for The Council from a reader named, Mel, who asks the best way to help her daughter feel more confident and boost her self-esteem. Mel wonders if her daughter’s past lives are preventing her from seeing the wonderful, smart, amazing woman she is?

The Council says Mel’s daughter needs to feel accepted. Do you compliment her often? Do you point out all the wonderful things she does? Right now your daughter’s confidence comes from you. When she gets enough of this and she believes it and accepts it, she’ll have more and more confidence in herself and won’t need the acceptance from outside herself. She wanted to learn appreciation for herself in her current life.

In your daughter’s last lifetime she worked as a servant and did what needed to be done. There wasn’t any excitement for her in that life and she didn’t have any goals. In her current life your daughter wanted the experience of feeling confident, and when she feels this way she’d allow herself to experience desires of different things she wants. We ask you to allow your daughter to be who she is, but also to fan the flame of her feeling good about herself.

Mel says maybe the interactions my daughter and I had in our past lives have prevented her in some way from healing her lack of confidence in her current life. The Council reminds Mel that the confidence your daughter is working on in her current reality comes from her last lifetime where there wasn’t any confidence, no dream, and no hope.

Mel asks if her daughter’s being overweight is a result of past lifetimes. The Council says the desire to lose weight isn’t a problem from past lives. This is something your daughter created to accept, and once it’s accepted and your daughter feels good about herself, the extra weight will disappear when the time is right and when your daughter learns what she wanted to experience.

The Council says if there’s a problem with being overweight, is it in your eyes or your daughter’s? Does something come up if you talk about this? Is this more negative than positive? If it is The Council advises talking more positively about weight loss. The fact it’s part of who your daughter is now doesn’t mean she’ll always be this way. Being overweight is one more thing your daughter created to keep in front of her while she was trying to build up her confidence.

The Council reminds Mel that everything she and her daughter talk about should be positive on all subjects. When your daughter learns to be more positive and look at things more positively, her life will change for the better.

Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Mel and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 20, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Is Daughter’s Fear of Choking Connected to Past Lives?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Kim, whose 10 year old daughter has a fear of choking, which seems to have come out of nowhere. It’s affecting her diet and causing weight loss. Kim wants to know if this fear is related to a past life and asks for advice overcoming this fear.

The Council sees several past lives for the daughter that are related to the fear of choking and they see it’s the daughter’s intention that the choking will stop in a relatively short time.

In one past life this fear of choking comes from being a fetus about to be born. In that lifetime the soul of this fetus agreed with her mother and father to be stillborn and when it was time to be born she wasn’t able to breathe. There was a tightness in the throat similar to what’s affecting Kim’s daughter’s current life. In that past lifetime the spirit of the mother wanted to experience the loss of a child and Kim’s daughter’s soul helped the mother out.

In another lifetime in the 1400s Kim’s daughter was hung for being a witch, and again there was a feeling of not being able to breathe. She had to hide her healing talents, her ability to make medicines, and her guidance of people.

In the daughter’s current lifetime her experience of choking will lessen as she learns to speak her truth and talk about how she feels. It’s a lesson for her to be brave about who she is and to speak out. The Council also suggests Kim’s daughter gets massaged, particularly the back of the neck, practices deep breathing, and takes singing lessons.

There was a lifetime where Kim’s daughter was a slave used for building and waiting on a royal family. As these slaves were no longer needed they were buried alive and again there was the feeling of not being able to breathe.

Kim’s daughter wanted to experience this choking feeling again and to know there was a way to transform the feeling of fear she experienced in two of her previous lifetimes and change her condition.

Kim’s daughter had another past life where she drowned. The Council suggests being on the lookout for fear of water, and they say that each of these deaths are affecting her current fear of choking.

The Council suggests, as Kim’s daughter becomes old enough, to begin letting her know that people have many lives for the purpose of experiencing love, and that you create everything that happens to you. She is a powerful spirit who is only experiencing this fear of choking so she can learn to change it.

Listen to our entire 10-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Kim, her daughter, and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

March 15, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 4 Comments