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How Can I Deal With My Secret Relationship And My Strict Mother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish.

Starfish: Hi. I want to ask about my relationship. I’m currently dating someone, but I have to keep this a secret from my family. This is because my mom is very strict and I don’t want to deal with the pressure and stress she’ll put on me if she knows.

Council: We’ll say right here that the condition where you have to keep things secret is not the kind of vibration that will bring you forward into the kind of life that you want.

And so we’d always say to speak your truth, whether it’s understood or not. For your growth it’s better for you to speak about this and let your mother and your family know what’s going on in your life. It’s not your place to have your family understand. It’s your place to speak your truth, and their ability to understand, to open up, and to grow from your truth is up to them.

Starfish: However, this secret is giving me major anxiety and guilt.

Council: Oh, we would understand that. Yes, because your higher self knows that’s not what you’re here for. You are here to live your life, and speak the truth of what’s going on and how you feel.

Starfish: How can I manifest more freedom in my life? For example, being able to go wherever I want, at whatever time I want, with whoever I want without reporting to my Mom and not having her angry at me.

Council: That comes in time with speaking your truth. Right now you can’t go anywhere you want, whenever you want, and at any time. You’re not there in a place to understand that when you do that, there’s more maturity in that, and that you will learn by seeing the people around you listening to you and understanding what you need. As they listen and there’s more understanding, there will also be more freedom.

Starfish: How can I continue keeping my relationship hidden and in peace?

Council: It will not always be hidden. It’s not your job to hide this relationship. Part of this incarnation of yours is to be heard, to have free expression, and to grow from it. And to know that you are responsible for yourself, for your feelings, and being able to speak about it, and then to watch the people around you. How do they accept it and how do they grow? And this takes patience and it takes time. And when you can be grateful that you see the little changes, that’s when everything begins to change.

Starfish: Can you give me some advice on how to deal with my controlling Mom?

Council: This is part of your mother’s challenge, and she will continue to be controlling until she can hear you, what you’re saying, and why you’re saying it. And hopefully you don’t say it violently or with anger, but that you’d talk with the reasoning behind what you want, and also the understanding how much you can do at this time.

And so with the understanding, with the patience, and with the love for your mother and for yourself, to have this come together and be solved, that’s how everything will move into a better circumstance.

Starfish: My relationship with my Mom has always been very challenging, and I feel so frustrated with the limitations she puts on me.

Council: This was all pre-planned in spirit before you were born. And so yes, there are limitations that your mother feels she needs to impose. And so you need to understand her and talk to her about why she makes these limitations, and to do it in a loving, open, understanding way to hear what she has to say. And as you listen to her calmly and you can discuss your situation, again, things will change.

Starfish: I can’t live like this anymore. I want to move far away from my mother when I’m financially independent.

Council: And so when you’re financially independent this can happen, but at that time, if you try speaking your truth, and try understanding your mother’s point of view, you may not be in such a rush to move away. Things can change. See it as you desire it. See there becoming peace and understanding between you and your mother.

Starfish: Is there any way to speed up this manifestation of moving away and becoming independent?

Council: First of all, do it in the vibration of love. Meditate and see exactly what you want. See yourself moving away. See yourself being able to have relationships and not having a difficult time with them. The vibration of what you want, when you see it with love, and when you see it and it makes you feel happy, that’s what goes out into the universe, and that’s what you’ll pull back into your life.

So learn to meditate. If you can’t, then sit there every day and picture exactly what you want your life to be like. But do it in a place of love and happiness, as if it’s happening already, and that will begin to make things change.

Starfish: How can I make my mother less controlling of me?

Council: Speak to her. This is part of what you wanted. It’s your place to speak your truth, and always speak it in a calm and loving manner. And eventually you’ll be heard and you’ll be understood. This is what you created.

We thank you, and we send you all love, and blessings, and happiness, and wonderful, wonderful uplifting thoughts. And think of being in the light, and in love, and spreading it out everywhere you go.

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October 2, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Desire, Feelings, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , , | Leave a comment

What Is My Main Purpose in This Lifetime?

This post is inspired by a reader named Darla who is asking The Council for some career advice. She’s been a stay at home mother for 14 years and loves her children very much, but now she’s ready to re-enter the workforce and she has huge insecurities about what type of job she’d be suited for. She feels lost and like she’s not traveling down the right road to genuine fulfillment, and she asks The Council her main purpose in this lifetime.

The Council begins with a statement that everyone’s main purpose in all lifetimes is to bring the feeling of love into whatever you create. And they suggest Darla begin slowly and perhaps jump around a bit until she finds what gives her the most joy.

The Council says Darla intended to be of service, make a difference, and teach the people she meets how to speak their truth using pictures and stories. If she still feels joy around being with children they suggest she start out by volunteering with them, or possibly young adults or older people.

The Council sees Darla wanted to work specifically with pictures and recommends finding opportunities to teach children to make pictures of what kindness looks like. They say there was also a desire to work with older people who have memory problems and they suggest working with colors to stimulate them.

The Council says Darla has the ability to feel what others are feeling and this is a great gift. They recommend feeling what is needed in each situation, learning more about it, and coming up with ideas to bring out the comfort and joy in each person she works with by talking about feelings that need to be spoken and released or drawing pictures of these emotions. They say this will take time. And they add that of all the things Darla wants to create in this lifetime, trust, love, and safety figure prominently.

The Council says if Darla goes in this direction she’ll open a door within her and find the gifts she needs to bring out the creative side in people. They say this is a big job and it will lead her on a wonderful path, and there will be lots of growth and change within her as she finds ways to do this.

The Council says Darla wants to find a way to teach kindness to the people she meets. And they say as she goes from place to place she’ll see what’s needed and create her own way to bring this kindness out in others.

The Council says if Darla begins in the workforce, even if she finds herself working in a restaurant or a retail store or an office if that’s what’s needed at this point in her life, they say to go with this. But everywhere she goes, without judgement she will see how people treat each other and ask herself how she can show kindness and teach it creatively. The Council says this will take time, but there will be many rewards as Darla moves forward this.

Listen to our entire 11-minute session with The Council on Darla’s questions to receive the full benefit of their guidance for her and the rest of us.

August 16, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Feelings, Love, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | 3 Comments

You are Pure Spirit in a Physical Body – Part 2

The Challenge of Being Our True Selves

This post is part of a series that’s based on a session with The Council in response to Robyn’s request for support and guidance to:

  • Get past feeling it’s not safe to be herself
  • Stop believing she will be rejected if she expresses her true feelings
  • Start speaking and living her truth

Part 1

Part 1 includes a transcript of an 18 minute message to Robyn from The Council. The primary theme of this message is that we are all pure spirit in a physical body and the more we are able to keep this thought in mind, the less troubled we will be by the issues that Robyn describes and the more successful we will be at speaking and living our truth. This post addresses some of the challenges of being true to who we really are.

This is an introduction to this post. Click here to read the full post→

April 10, 2010 Posted by | Connecting With Spirit, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , | Leave a comment