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How Do I Cope With My Fear Something Terrible Will Happen To My Daughter?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Clare.

Clare: Hello Bob, hello Cynthia, and hello to The Council.

About two years ago my daughter was born. And since then I’ve been experiencing various intense fears about her being safe, about me being here for her, and being able to protect her. I’m afraid I might die, or that someone might kill me.

I feel more vulnerable since my daughter was born. For example, when I take a sip of a drink, I’m afraid someone might shoot me. I see what terrible things are happening in the world, like wars, school shootings, rape, and kidnappings. It’s truly horrifying what’s happening to small children or teenage girls, and it scares me deeply.

Council: We would like to say here, my goodness! You have picked a lifetime where you are trying to heal many, many lives of abuse, of being terrified, of early deaths, and losing family. So all of this is now going on for you to heal, and to find out why you are feeling like this.

We would like to tell you that the most recent [past life] was in World War II, where you and your daughter now, who was your sister then – the two of you, young girls taken away from your parents – and were in one of these concentration camps, and were abused, and were trying to stay alive. And seeing so much abuse going on, and you being two years older, feeling responsible for taking care of your sister, and trying to keep her safe. So that, #1, is what’s coming up for you and your daughter.

Clare: These fears paralyze me internally.

Council: And if you can imagine, that is how you were in that past life: terrified, paralyzed with fear, and not knowing how to protect yourself or your younger sister.

Clare: Is this connected to what is currently happening in the world? Or does it reach back into past lives?

Council: Both. We would say, unfortunately the way the world is at this time, it would bring up those subconscious memories.

Clare: What can I do so that these fears don’t paralyze me, and so that I can breathe fully and freely again, so I can feel love and safety in my heart, and know that we are okay?

Council: The #1 thing is, when you find out about a past life, it takes a little while, but when you accept it, and you realize what you are afraid of is not going on right now – you are not in a [concentration] camp right now. These are memories that come with a lot of feeling, but it’s to get to the place where you realize that was then, this is now. It is not happening now. And when we died in that life, we’re still okay because here we are. We’re okay. It’s a past life. It is not hurting me. It is not happening now.

Clare: Can you also tell me whether my daughter and I have shared lives together, and what soul contracts we made for this lifetime?

Council: The soul contract is that you both wanted to be together again, but in a happier atmosphere. So it is your place to find a way to realize what is happening now. We are safe, and come up with thoughts that can prove to you that you are not in that same situation again. Everything that goes on with you now must start with your thoughts. That’s how the healing will start.

So you have to find a way to think, “I’m safe.” Even if you sit down for ten minutes a day, and in that ten minutes think of love, and think of happiness. Come up with fantasies of what it would be like and sit in that happy feeling. As you begin to do that, that will grow more and more and will help you to release the fear. And it will help you realize it is not going on now. I am fine.

Clare: What can I do to help our relationship thrive and to love each other, even when she becomes an adult woman?

Council: We would say, as a child, play. Find play, happiness, and fun things to do. That is important. And that will go into adulthood, and you will have a much easier and happier life together because you’re going to start changing it now.

Clare: Friendships with women still feel impossible for me, and I can’t maintain any female friendships. Even within my family, no woman communicates with me. I’ve always felt like I had to submit to them. And when I expressed my opinion, nobody liked it. What can I do differently with my daughter?

Council: Show her love and understanding. Find happy things to do. The woman problem is also from that same life. If you realize you are in a camp with women, and sometimes they were very mean to each other, just trying to survive, so that is also part of the same past life.

So it is your choice, of course, but it is your hope to heal this [situation] in this lifetime. And for you to do it, you must change your thoughts. You have to have control of your thoughts. Ten minutes a day will be enough to start this.

Clare: I would like to have a beautiful, warm, and heartfelt relationship with my daughter.

Council: And you can have this. You have to do the work, but you can have this.

Clare: Thank you very much in advance for your advice and insights. I’m sending light and love. Clare.

Council: And so we send you love. We send everyone happiness, and hope, and the ability to change your lives. To know that you can, and make [your life] exactly the way you want it. And that is why we’re all here right now. Love to you all.

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March 3, 2026 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Why Am I So Connected To My Ex-Boyfriend?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Broken-Hearted Lady, who wants to know why she feels so connected to her ex-boyfriend who broke up with her. He had become depressed and said he had nothing to offer her.

The Council says in another lifetime you were together as friends in a German concentration camp during World War II. You were separated during that lifetime and there was a feeling of depression and sadness around that.

In your current lifetime there was a desire to come together and create what you could. You didn’t particularly pre-plan that you’d be together forever in this reality, but you did plan to come together and feel a closeness to each other.

The depression your ex feels is something he brought into this life from the life in Germany and he needs to deal with it. In that past life your ex could do nothing for you, and he also feels he can’t do anything for you or anyone else in your current reality. This is an issue he’s dealing with.

It’s good for you to be supportive of your ex. The Council advises you to move on from your ex and look for love in another relationship, but there’s no need to leave your ex behind. You can keep this relationship for whatever amount of time you like.

You need to learn there are different kinds of love. You can love your ex and try to help him, but you can also move forward. You can have both. Your ex needs support to face the challenges in his life. In spirit you wanted to be in your ex’s life and be supportive, no matter how his life turned out. This is why you’re feeling a heavy heart, but you’re doing exactly what you planned in spirit.

You don’t have to cut your ex out of your life unless it becomes too painful for you, but we don’t think it will go in that direction. You can send your ex love, whether you speak once a week, once a month, or once a year. You can still play the role you both agreed to of being supportive and still move on and create what you want.

Broken-hearted Lady says this was one of the most in sync relationships I ever had and I miss my ex dearly. My friends advise me to totally disconnect from him so I can move on, but the thought of doing that doesn’t sit well with me. We communicate every couple of weeks. The Council says this is because you’re intuitive and you subconsciously know what you both planned in spirit.

Broken-hearted Lady says she still has hope of reuniting in the future, but is that foolish? The Council says it is possible, but it’s what you create in your life and what your ex creates. By sending your ex love you help him through what he’s trying to heal in this lifetime and it also brings the vibration of love around you. If this is something you really, really want, then The Council suggests you focus on this.

Focus on your ex coming through the depression. Focus on a good friendship where you can connect and talk more often. Or focus on having a romantic relationship. It will take work. Remember to go into the vibration of joy first. Then imagine the way you want the relationship to be. Then believe you can have this.

Broken-hearted Lady says if my ex and I won’t be together again will I ever find a love that touches my heart and spirit as much as my ex did? The Council says everything is wide open for you right now. You will experience love. How you’re going to create this is totally up to you.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Broken-hearted Lady and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 28, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Healing, Helping Others, Love, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 1 Comment