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Improving Self-Esteem for Healthy Relationships

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.

Bluestar: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I am almost 44 years old and for the first time, I think I feel in love.

Council: Oh, that’s wonderful.

Bluestar: This guy is my Zumba teacher. The problem is that he’s 20 years younger than me, he already has a girlfriend, and I am hopeless and sad.

Council: And so why would you want to try and have a relationship with someone who is in one already, and perhaps is very happy? Is it just that you are looking for a relationship? And this has come along and there’s a feeling of familiarity, or just a fantasy that you can imagine, and it brings you happiness. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, but the reason is that you do want a relationship for yourself.

Bluestar: A while ago I had two Akashic record readings, and the guides told me they saw me with someone in the near future. But in the second reading they told me that until I had more self-esteem, I would not be ready to be with anyone.

Council: And that is true with everyone. You always need some self-esteem. The more you can love yourself, the more you will bring in the perfect partner for you. When you have serious issues about feeling good about yourself, how can you bring someone in who will appreciate you and love you if you do not love yourself?

Bluestar: So I would like to know, was this [Zumba teacher] the guy that the guides told me about, or is he a different man? And if he is another person, have I already missed that opportunity by not being ready?

Council: There is someone there for you. We would not say it is this person [Zumba teacher], even though with the correct imagery you can create it the way you want it. You have not missed any opportunities. When you are ready, when you realize you are loveable and there is someone for you, and you don’t know who it is right now, but that you can get excited that that person is there and will come into your life, that’s when you’ll create it.

Bluestar: Have I had one or more past lives with this Zumba teacher that I like, and if so, how were they, because his company seemed familiar to me from the beginning?

Council: It seems like in the early 1700s he was wealthy and you were a maid in his household. But you were very friendly then, you had good rapport, and that is the familiar feeling, that good rapport, that comfortability that you feel now.

Bluestar: I would like to know if this guy that I like has any romantic or sexual feelings for me now, or if he only feels friendship for me?

Council: We see it as friendship. Again, you have the ability to change it.

Bluestar: How can I work on my self-esteem as a woman to have a healthy romantic relationship with someone? I am trying to improve my relationship with myself by saying more positive things to myself and valuing my talents more, but I don’t really know what else to do.

Council: So take a look at what you do every day. If you cook something and it comes out nice, pat yourself on the back. Be aware of it and acknowledge it. “Oh, I did this and it tastes great.” Or, “I read this chapter in a book. I really enjoyed this book. I picked a good book.” Or, “I went and I got a haircut. I like this haircut. And if I’m not too crazy about it, well you know what? I learned I can go somewhere else.”

Look at the positive things that you do, the littlest things that you do every day. Even going to a store and buying groceries that you need. That you remembered to get this, you remembered to get that, and you’re taking it home. And there’s a little bit of independence that you do on your own. Make the effort. Look and acknowledge all the good things you do. As that happens, you will feel better about yourself, and then there’s Mr. Right.

Bluestar: I am waiting for your response, and I am sending you lots of love and gratitude for your time.

Council: And we send you love too.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Bluestar Child and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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January 13, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Past Lives Did I Chose To Work On In This Life, And Why?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Maureen.

Maureen: I’d like to know the main scenarios of the past lives that I chose to continue to work on in my current lifetime, and why.

Council: There’s never one thing you want to accomplish in each life, but what we see here is the main thing that’s happened in other lives that you’d like to work on in this life is self-esteem and teaching.

Look at the life you’ve created now. Are you proud of your creations? Are you satisfied and feel happy about what you’re doing? Is there more you want to do and don’t feel capable of?

To work on that you must look at yourself, see what you desire, and then find a way – and we always say the quickest way is meditation – to meditate and see it, and then see yourself accomplishing it, whatever it is. It could be the tiniest thing or winning a million dollars. But it’s very important for you to see your accomplishments in your current lifetime, and then to help others that are in a place with low self-esteem. You’ve experienced that in other lives.

First find a way to look at yourself, see your accomplishments, be grateful for them, then see what else you want to accomplish, and then share these desires, even if it’s just with friends. Share what you want, and as you share it, just that little bit plants a seed in others, and they will learn from you, and they will go on and accomplish more.

Those are the main topics that you want to be done at this time. There’s plenty of work to be done there. And so we’d say, now it the time to work on this.

Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Maureen and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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October 24, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Desire, Guidance, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers | , , , , | 2 Comments

How Can I Help My Daughter Feel More Confident?

This post answers question for The Council from a reader named, Mel, who asks the best way to help her daughter feel more confident and boost her self-esteem. Mel wonders if her daughter’s past lives are preventing her from seeing the wonderful, smart, amazing woman she is?

The Council says Mel’s daughter needs to feel accepted. Do you compliment her often? Do you point out all the wonderful things she does? Right now your daughter’s confidence comes from you. When she gets enough of this and she believes it and accepts it, she’ll have more and more confidence in herself and won’t need the acceptance from outside herself. She wanted to learn appreciation for herself in her current life.

In your daughter’s last lifetime she worked as a servant and did what needed to be done. There wasn’t any excitement for her in that life and she didn’t have any goals. In her current life your daughter wanted the experience of feeling confident, and when she feels this way she’d allow herself to experience desires of different things she wants. We ask you to allow your daughter to be who she is, but also to fan the flame of her feeling good about herself.

Mel says maybe the interactions my daughter and I had in our past lives have prevented her in some way from healing her lack of confidence in her current life. The Council reminds Mel that the confidence your daughter is working on in her current reality comes from her last lifetime where there wasn’t any confidence, no dream, and no hope.

Mel asks if her daughter’s being overweight is a result of past lifetimes. The Council says the desire to lose weight isn’t a problem from past lives. This is something your daughter created to accept, and once it’s accepted and your daughter feels good about herself, the extra weight will disappear when the time is right and when your daughter learns what she wanted to experience.

The Council says if there’s a problem with being overweight, is it in your eyes or your daughter’s? Does something come up if you talk about this? Is this more negative than positive? If it is The Council advises talking more positively about weight loss. The fact it’s part of who your daughter is now doesn’t mean she’ll always be this way. Being overweight is one more thing your daughter created to keep in front of her while she was trying to build up her confidence.

The Council reminds Mel that everything she and her daughter talk about should be positive on all subjects. When your daughter learns to be more positive and look at things more positively, her life will change for the better.

Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Mel and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 20, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Haven’t My Breast Developed?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Depressed05, who says they think due to malnutrition her body didn’t develop breasts during puberty. She’s tried a lot of things to make her breasts grow, but nothing seems to work and it’s taking a toll on her self-esteem and confidence.

The Council says all the things Depressed has tried to make her breasts grow have been things outside herself. They say the answer is within you. You’ll never create the breasts you desire until you feel grateful for things you already have.

The Council says Depressed created this situation with her breasts when she was in spirit before she came into this lifetime and it was to learn acceptance. They ask her to think about what she’s able to appreciate about her body in her current life. What parts of your body are you able to love? And they ask Depressed to imagine or pretend you look the way you wish your body would look.

Every part of your body, down to your very cells, is listening to what you’re thinking and the universe will give you what you focus your attention on. If your focus is negative the universe will offer you what you consider negative experiences, and if your focus is positive the universe will offer you positive experiences. If you’re miserable and can’t accept your body, and you think about these things over and over, the universe will say, “Oh, this is making her miserable and she doesn’t like the way this looks. Let’s give her some more.”

The first step is to think of what you’d like, and to do this you need to be in a higher vibration. Think about what you like about your body. And if this is too difficult you can concentrate on anything you like or appreciate because when you appreciate something, the universe will send you more things to appreciate.

Once you get into the vibration of appreciating, from there you can create the changes you want in your life. Appreciate what you have, and that you’re the creator, and that you can change your life. Things will come together to make you appreciate the way you look and your perception, once it changes, will bring you what you’re looking for. Physically you’re able to create the change in your life that you’re looking for, but not from the vibration you’re in right now. What things are going on in your life that make you feel good? Think about this and stay in that vibration.

Your situation with your breasts not developing happened because you asked for this to happen when you were in spirit. You wanted to learn to accept the things around you, accept other people, but mainly to accept yourself and to find anything that reminds you that you’re a spirit living in a physical body. You are pure energy and energy can change form. Get in the right vibration and you can begin to see this change happen.

It will help you to put on clothes, stand in front of a full length mirror, and take a good look at yourself. See what clothing you wear that makes you feel better. What colors help you feel better? What gives you comfort when you put it on and you like the way you look? Find anything you enjoy. Eat whatever foods you wish to eat and know it’s filling your body with good feelings and vibrations. You’re taking care of your whole body. Once you begin loving yourself, and doing things to take care of yourself and appreciate yourself, how you feel about yourself will change.

Listen to the audio recording of our entire 9-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Depressed and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. We feel this guidance to find things in your life to appreciate rather than focusing on what you don’t want in your life is key to improving your life and we appreciate the way The Council lovingly points this out to Depressed.

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July 4, 2019 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment