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How Do I Create A Successful Romantic Relationship, And Start A Spiritual Business?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Soul Peace.

Soul Peace: Hello, Council, Bob, and Cynthia. Thanks for all the guidance you provide through the blog. I want to ask The Council a question. I have faced relationship and emotional abuse issues in previous marriages. What kind of changes do I have to bring in myself in order to create a successful relationship?

Council: First, we would ask you to look at these relationships, and they always come with a lesson. And when you don’t get the lesson, it will happen again, and you’ll have another opportunity. And when you don’t get the lesson, it will happen again. The people may change, but the lesson is there.

So we ask you to look at this. What happened in each relationship? What did you do that you feel brought some of this on? There is always your part in it. What did you settle for? What did you not appreciate about yourself? There is always, always a lesson. And then when you acknowledge what it is, to thank yourself, to thank your higher self, and find ways – meditate on how to change your behavior.

Everything that happens to someone is part of their growth. It is always something they have created. So we would like you to understand this didn’t come out of the thin air, and no one’s trying to get even with you, or do this to you. You called it in, and it is your way of learning how to grow.

Number one, before you start anything, you must find a way to love yourself. Whether you look in the mirror every day and just tell yourself you love yourself, or appreciate yourself. Find things during the day that you appreciate what you have done. It is in honoring yourself and loving yourself that you would bring in the right people to love you. But if you have the negative words that you speak to yourself, or if you have doubts about who you truly are, which is spirit, all of that will get in the way. You have to find a way to find love for yourself. The rest will take care of itself. You will find the right relationships. Work on yourself first.

Soul Peace: My other question is around starting my company. I have always been inclined toward spirituality and metaphysics.

Council: That’s wonderful.

Soul Peace: Lately I have also faced emotional issues such as anxiety, and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

Council: And when you grow in one, which is spiritual, the second problem will disappear. So they go hand in hand. You become more spiritual, you meditate, you pray, you go out in nature, you walk on a beach. Whatever that is, the littlest thing, sit in a chair and look at the trees. All of that will begin to change your vibration. And when that changes, you make room for new ideas to come in, for new paths for you to go on. And that is another thing you can start to do right now.

Soul Peace: I’m thinking of creating something that helps people tackle these issues. How can I do this? Should I create a blog, or an app, or write a book that can help people?

Council: All three sound wonderful. But the easiest would be to start a blog so that you can write your feelings and what you’ve discovered. And have people write on it also, maybe to answer you or ask you questions. And so, the reaching out to other spirits with the intention of helping is what makes this happen. Of course, eventually a book would be wonderful, and you are very capable of all of this.

But we would say, when you begin this, make it very personal. Not just for you, but maybe for others whose stories you have heard. When you connect with people, they don’t want to feel like they are reading a book and getting information. They want examples. They want stories that feel real. Stories that you have gone through, and how you have gone through it, and changed it. Or people you know that write to you, or talk to you about how they have changed their lives.

Always make it about the person who has grown from the experience. Perhaps it was very hard in the beginning, but there was a way. What way did they choose to change it? Because that way will work for others, and that’s why you are there. To put this out. To get the ideas across that there is always a way. And by sharing with different spirits, the way will come forth.

Soul Peace: Being a spiritual and emotional coach is very different from my current line of work. I want to ask The Council if this is a direction I should go into.

Council: It’s a wonderful direction. How wonderful that by helping others, you’ll be helping yourself. By wanting to heal others, healing will come to you. It is a wonderful direction.

Soul Peace: And if this is a direction I should go into, what should be the starting point, and how do I grow this? Thanks.

Council: Begin to play with a blog. It’s very simple. Just throw out some ideas and see where it goes. Put yourself out there.

And so our wishes for happiness, and joy, and fun on your path go out to everyone.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Soul Peace and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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June 1, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 1 Comment

Will My Brother And I Heal Our Relationship?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Diana.

Diana: Thank you for your amazing work. My question is: Will my brother and I ever have healing in this lifetime? He denies the emotional abuse I experienced from our narcissistic parents, and he’s been pushing me away my whole life.

Council: Did it ever cross your thoughts that he denies this because it’s very painful for him to realize what you’ve gone through? And perhaps he’s gone through some things that he’s not ready to deal with? It’s not about wanting to push you away or not believing you, but about the uncomfortable feelings that it stirs within him.

Diana: On some level he does care though and wants to have some contact, but only if I never mention my experience or pain.

Council: We’d like to ask you at this point, are you constantly bringing this abuse up with him? It’s like he has a wound in his heart and you keep sticking your finger in it. He’s heard what you have to say and it makes him very uncomfortable. Yes, he’d like to have a relationship with you, but are you basing it on that you must talk about your abuse many times? Why aren’t you letting go of it?

If it’s you that wants this relationship, then it’s good for you to get to a place where you can realize it’s best, for now, not to speak of abuse, and to build your relationship without that part coming forth. And we say that this is for right now. If you can begin a relationship slowly and have it grow, then your brother doesn’t have to be afraid all the time that you’re going to bring up the abuse. When he’s ready he will bring it up, but he has to get to a place where he is ready. Can you allow your brother to grow at his own pace? Can you show compassion? Can you show love and have a relationship with him?

Diana: This doesn’t feel authentic to me so I’ve slightly distanced myself and I’m grieving a lot because I love him so much.

Council: Why do you think it’s not authentic to stay away from a painful subject right now? Why must it be authentic only if you can talk about this abuse? There’s pain involved in this, pain that you went through, and pain that he goes through.

And again we say it’s very important for you to look at yourself. Why must you bring up this abuse? You are keeping yourself in a painful situation. You are creating the distance because you need to talk about it and your brother doesn’t. You are ready, but he is not. So can you come together and start to build a relationship without talking about the abuse? You are keeping yourself in that relationship, in that situation that you went through, that was painful.

And this is all for your own growth to realize, what is your part in this? Why is it so important to speak about the abuse to someone who’s not ready? Perhaps you can find someone that will help you and talk with you about this, but if you truly want this relationship with your brother, you can leave out the abuse. And you can both come together and heal, and feel loving feelings for each other in time. The choice is always yours.

Diana: Will he ever understand, accept, and acknowledge my truth?

Council: Yes, eventually this can happen, but for now, can you let go of the subject of abuse?

Diana: Or will I also have to detach from him like I’ve detached from my parents? This leaves me completely alone.

Council: Detaching at this point will keep you alone and keep you feeling hurt. So why must you detach? It’s just a simple choice of, right now we will not talk about this abuse. Right now we’ll build a loving, caring relationship with each other by talking about other things and experiencing other things, and finding happy things to share. If this is what you want, then go in the direction of love. Go in the direction of joy. Go in the direction of compassion for yourself and your brother. When you choose this you’ll have the relationship you want.

We send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love, and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful, and you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Diana and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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March 6, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Is My Family Trauma More Spiritual Than Psychological?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gloribet, that were prompted by her reading of our post, What is the Purpose of My Life?  Gloribet says she experienced much pain as a child because of emotional abuse and hard discipline from my father. This seems to be a theme in my father’s family where there’s a lot of trauma that’s passed down through generations.

The Council says the reason your family is experiencing this trauma is that each person wanted to work with this trauma and learn from it. You came together as a family to experience this trauma so that each person can realize it’s in the family and ask why this is going on? Just having this thought will provide each of you with support.

Gloribet says this trauma had a great effect on me. I put my life and health at risk constantly, but I’ve always been very protected. Now I’m healing and growing spiritually from what I lived. Is there a spiritual component to the pain in my father’s side of my family? Is the cause of this generational trauma more spiritual than psychological?

The Council says it’s always spiritual. It comes into your human life as a psychological problem or challenge, but your spirit chooses this challenge in order to work its way through it. Every member of your family has a different reason for going through this trauma, but you all came together to offer support you can feel on an energy level.

Gloribet asks: How can I help my family break from this trauma and give my aunt’s children a chance at a life filled with love and light rather than anger and pain? The Council says you can’t change anyone else. Your cousins will go through what they need to go through until they come to a place of understanding and learning. How you can help others in your family not have to go through this trauma is by treating everyone with kindness, empathy, understanding, and love. Don’t always focus on this problem in your family and talk about it. You’ll teach the younger generations through your actions and let these people know there’s someone there for them to speak about this trauma if they choose.

Gloribet asks if her helping with this family trauma is part of her chosen spiritual path and will help her with her personal growth. The Council says if your path has been difficult, it was chosen by you in spirit. Of course you’re on the right path. Will you get to where you want to go? Yes, when you show kindness and love and accept people for the way they are.

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December 2, 2020 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Healing, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 1 Comment