How Do I Handle This Relationship With A Man Who Isn’t My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lisa.
Lisa: I met a man who makes me smile and feel special. Being around him instantly raises my vibration and makes me happy.
Council: With familiar souls that usually happens.
Lisa: We’re drawn together like magnets. He has asked me out, but I’m married and won’t have an affair. I want this person in my life as a friend because I feel like we bring each other up and can help each other, but I’m not exactly sure why the Sun or the universe brought him to me.
Council: The universe, or God, or whatever you believe in, brought him to you because you have called it in. You are at a point in your life where you want someone to make you feel special.
We suggest you begin to find things about yourself that make you feel special, so it doesn’t have to come from an outside source. When you begin to appreciate yourself and not rely on this person to help you feel good, then your relationship can move on and you can become friends.
Lisa: Is he my twin flame or soulmate? Am I crazy and he’s just a player, and I’m making this up because I want to feel loved?
Council: Yes, you’ve created it because you wanted to feel love, but it’s someone that you’ve known in other lifetimes. There’s that coming together with sort of a giggle because it’s what you have planned, and how you go forward with what you both create out of this relationship is in the works. And so, it’s a wonderful place for you to be at this time.
Lisa: My husband doesn’t know about him. If he did know about him, I’d never be allowed back to the park, even though we are just friends and only talk at the park. How should I handle this?
Council: Well, you can be honest and tell your husband this. Or you can just go there and not feel that this is something you have to be sneaky about because it’s just a friendship. And you have to be very clear that you want to keep the relationship just a friendship.
And so eventually we would hope you would get to a point and say, “Oh, I met this person and we talk a lot.” And maybe you can find out if this person is married, what kind of job is this person interested in, and does he have a family? And just repeat that to your husband so it is open, it is honest, and everyone will be okay with it. Let go of the thought that you have to keep this information quiet, or secret, or you won’t be able to go to the park. That will bring in drama and chaos.
So just think of it as a familiar soul. You’re friends right now and you’re just going to go forward. It doesn’t have to be secret. There’s nothing wrong. When you feel things have to be secret, that will create problems.
And so we send you all love, and wonderful, wonderful experiences, and clarity, and fun along the way. Life is always supposed to be fun, even in the difficulty. It’s the way you look at it. And know that no matter what, you have the ability to change it.
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What Is The Council’s Spiritual Perspective on Donald Trump’s Presidency?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Audrey, who asks for a spiritual perspective on Donald Trump’s presidency.
The Council begins by saying our collective consciousness has decided to bring the lessons of contempt, dishonesty, and manipulation, and there are others who are trying to bring in honesty, goodness, and love. And this was chosen by everyone on the planet at this time.
The Council says the man who will come as the correct president will be intuitive, honest, and able to point out his mistakes and laugh at himself. He will be president to teach the idea we are all one in this country and on this planet rather than teach competition, separation by boundaries, skin color, and organization. The way he’ll do this is by working with others to show more love, understanding, and compassion.
The Council says after Donald Trump there will be another president and they wonder if it will be time to for this new president to swing the pendulum the other way and teach love and happiness and working together. And they say even when this happens there will be people who love this, but there will always be people who see this a different way.
The way things are will continue until we reach a state where we’re closer to spirit, tired of fighting, and tired of lying and manipulation. A new lesson will be born on this planet for all of us. And when we realize our purpose for being on Earth is to raise the energy of this planet, things will begin to change.
The Council advises not being against one president or another, but see which president you align more with and picture what that president stands for more and more until peace comes into this reality and the vibration of everyone on this planet will raise.
The Council says one of the purposes of Donald Trump’s presidency is to bring a certain kind of awareness to the people of this country and the world and to pave the way for a new president who exhibits different qualities. Then it’s up to each person to decide what they want in their lives. What are the new candidates bringing into our reality? Is there turbulence? Is there disturbance? Or are people now beginning to want a president with a more peaceful nature who is able to find ways to work together, remove boundaries, and realize we’re all one?
The Council closes by saying it doesn’t do any good for individuals to get upset with Donald Trump’s policies. You are here to see these policies, decide how you feel about them, and when you decide, do the inner work of focusing on the kind of leader you want for your country.
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What Are My Son’s Gifts, and What Past Lives Do We Share?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, LearningSoulSite, who asks how she can help her 5 year old son achieve his potential.
The Council says one of the things they hope LearningSoulSite is doing is reading her son stories and then ask him to make up stories to tell her. He’ll have a great desire to write and the storytelling will help this. He’ll also like to perform in front of others so getting him to speak will encourage him in this area.
LearningSoulSite asks about past lives she and her son or family members may have shared, and if he’s trying to work out something in this lifetime she asks how she can make things easier for him. The Council says she can’t ease anything that needs to be healed between other people.
LearningSoulSite and her son were soldiers and close comrades in World War I and they had a lot of trust in each other in that lifetime. It will be very helpful for her to be as honest with her son as possible and teach him what trust really is. This will bring the bond from the lifetime in WWI to the surface in this lifetime and she’ll be able to have a very close relationship with her son.
The Council says it’s a good idea to continuously praise all children. When they tell you stories that seem silly, ask for more information rather than putting then down and laughing at them. Always show interest in what your son tells you and then share a little of your thoughts and dreams. The more stories you can tell your son the better it will be. You are the teacher and the storyteller while your son is young, and when he’s older you’ll exchange roles and you’ll help him in a career if he continues to choose storytelling as an avocation. And he can be very successful in this career.
The Council says there was also a lifetime in Japan where her son was her father and they fished together a lot and sold the fish in the village. It was a quiet life and when they come together they want to bring in the energy of peace, learning, and trust.
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Am I Working Through a Past Life Connection with My Boss?
This post answers questions for The Council from an Anonymous reader who has a tumultuous relationship with their boss an wants to know if they have a past life connection with this person and they’re trying to work through it?
The Council sees a past life in England where you were both friends, running a general store, and having mistrust for one another. What you’re trying to accomplish in your current lifetime is to work together, but with a different kind of understanding.
Can you speak honestly with your boss the way you weren’t able to in the lifetime in England. If you’re uncomfortable how you’re being treated in your current life or there’s misunderstandings, it’s for your growth to speak up about these things. Your boss, if he wishes to grow spiritually, has to get to a place where he listens and tries to understand your point of view. There’s lots of communication the two of you wish to work out in your current relationship.
Anonymous asks why their boss insists on giving them work while they’re on vacation. The Council asks if you’re able to speak to your boss about this. And The Council asks if Anonymous respects themself enough to put up boundaries to let their boss know that when you’re on vacation, you won’t be available to do this work? Can you trust in what you deserve and make these boundaries? As long as you’re unable to give voice to these difficulties, they will continue.
Anonymous says they’ve tried to use a pendulum to get answers, but sometimes it doesn’t seem accurate and they want to know if this is a valid way to get insight? The Council says you’re able to get the pendulum to give the answer you want by using your mind and your energy.
The Council says when you want answers, the best way is to sit quietly and think of the problem, then let the problem go. When you can sit quietly and relax into the silence, the answers to your problem will come to you.
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Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
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If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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