Will I Be In A New Relationship Before My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Full Dreamland.
Dreamland: Hello, Council, Bob, and Cynthia. I appreciate all your guidance to me and others over several posts. I am in the middle of a separation from my husband. I have been told by a psychic that he will be in another relationship soon. I have also been told I will be in a relationship once I master being happy alone and learn my lessons around independence. I want to know if I will get married, or be in a new relationship, or if my husband will.
Council: Oh, is there a race here? Who’s going to do it first? Very interesting.
There’s more interest in finding out, not if you will get married again, and who will do it first, because no psychic can tell you. From moment to moment, your path can change. And a very good psychic may look and say, “Yes, I see you married. How wonderful.” And then the choices you make the next day can move the energy in another direction. So no one knows for sure what will happen.
We would say, if you want to see yourself married again, maybe you can be kinder to people. You can learn from what you went through in one relationship and make sure you don’t do it in another. It always comes from you looking at yourself – what you can do and how you can be on the path that you want to take. So that is the lesson. Look at yourself and don’t worry about what your husband is doing. It’s really none of your concern. His lessons will come to him when he is ready.
But if you would like to be married again without the thought of who’s going to do it first – thinking like that will definitely hold anything good coming forward because you are not looking at it correctly. As we said before, this is not a race. This is about your relationship. What have you learned from being in it? How have you changed? Are you working on yourself? Or are you wondering what he or his family is going to do?
Dreamland: I want to know what are my husband’s lessons with respect to my child and me.
Council: Well we won’t tattle, so we won’t tell you his lessons. But his lessons to you and to your child were to, when it was set up in your mind, your spirit, to come together in a loving fashion, to go through certain experiences, and find a kind, loving way to handle it. That’s what your lessons are. Everyone’s lesson is, when you come here, handle everything with the one answer, which is love, kindness, and compassion. So that’s why you are here. Have you learned it in your marriage? You would think that at one point it was there. Why did it change? What happened?
And this is not for you to look at him or his family and say, “They did this, they did that. He did this. He let them do that.” It was for a while this was going on. What is your part in it? How are you handling it? Are you honest, and sitting down and talking and saying, “You know this is going on. It’s uncomfortable. It hurts. And let’s see what we can do about it because we’re going down the wrong path.” It is that simple. The answer is always, “What am I doing? Am I kind? Am I understanding? Am I loving?” Though we hope, at this time, that you are doing that.
Dreamland: Will he ever realize the mistakes he made in our relationship and feel sorry for what he has done to us? Or will it be very easy for him to forget us and move on, and live his new life happily and without any regrets?
Council: You are not letting go of the thought of him realizing what he did was wrong, he’ll have regrets, he’ll miss you. Again, you are wasting time trying to figure that out. What you figure out is, how am I now as a person? Why do I have to know what his lesson is? That is none of your concern. We would never tell you another person’s lessons. Of course, he might be sorry, and then again, he may not.
But you’re taking your thoughts, your choices, and you’re putting them in the wrong direction. Work on yourself. Let go of what happened. Let go of getting even. Let go of wishing him not wellness, not a good situation, not being jealous if he gets married, and if he gets married first. Can you see that?
Dreamland: I find it disturbing that he and his family can keep on ruining innocent girls and his own child’s life, and not face any consequences. I’m trying to find peace in this situation. Thank you for helping.
Council: It’s not up to you to prepare to find out that he is having a hard time, or that he is having terrible consequences for disrupting other people. Again, we see you are concerned about will his family learn that? We would like to say, have you learned that? Have you learned that all of this has to do with you? It is your responsibility to change how you act if you find you are jealous, if you’re angry, if you’re wishing him and his family wrong. You are on the wrong path. And so when that begins to change, when you realize that, then you will find happiness.
And who knows, maybe tonight you’ll dream of us. And of course we have to add, you can see us every night, you can talk to us every night, you can dream of us, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to remember. But what we teach you, and what you need to know is within you, and when you need that information, you will remember.
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Son’s Anger Issues Related to Lifetime in Ancient Rome
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Lavender, who has an 8 year old boy with anger issues and she wonders why. The Council says this boy is hurting very deeply inside and at this point he doesn’t know how to feel love. He has a lot of mistrust and believes he must be alone.
The Council says your son is deeply affected by a lifetime in ancient Rome and he’s got a lot to heal from this lifetime. He was a slave who was taken to the arena where gladiators fought and was picked to be in charge of other slaves. This gave him safety, but turned the slaves he was friendly with against him.
He carries a lot of guilt from this Roman lifetime that he’s going to try and work out in his current lifetime. Your son has an authority problem in his current lifetime related to the lifetime in Rome, he has difficulty following orders, and he doesn’t like being told what to do.
The way you ask your son to do things will either create anger or give him understanding. Explain why, when you ask him to do the littlest thing and thank him for being a helpful part of your family. He needs to know he’s included and not alone. In his current lifetime he wants to know he can survive by being himself and being part of a family.
Lavender feels guilty for having this son when she was young and The Council says there is no use for this guilt. She needs to take part in helping her son heal the issues he’s brought into this lifetime.
Lavender asks The Council for advice on how to guide her son and The Council says their pre-birth agreement was that she would give him confidence and accept him no matter how he behaves in the moment. He needs an explanation how some of his behavior upsets her and why. And follow these explanations with reminders of the good he does.
Lavender says she recognizes in her son the same internal struggles she went through growing up. She is also resistant to authority figures. The Council suggests she explain to her son that she also doesn’t like to be told what to do. Maybe you can work on this together and bond over it. With understanding his mind will open, acceptance of how different things can be will begin to flood in, and clarity will come.
Lavender says she’s tried to teach her son things like the law of attraction, self empowerment, chakras, and meditation, and she says from this he became an elaborate storyteller. The Council says children have a great ability to astral project, remember their dreams, and travel to different dimensions. In your son’s case these stories aren’t made up. He is very psychic and intuitive and these are important tools for him as he grows.
The Council says many times your son is able to see from his third eye and he imagines other people can also do this. Encourage your son to talk to you about what he’s seeing and you’ll be surprised how he changes.
Treat your son with kindness, understanding, and love. Explain everything that’s asked of him. Explain when things annoy you and how you think about it and change it. Let him know how you want to teach him why he and everyone else is here: to handle whatever challenges he faces, to acknowledge them, to work on them, and to turn them around with love.
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Am I a Channel?
This post is inspired by an anonymous reader who says they were told by a psychic that they are a channel, much like Cynthia, but they’ve never channeled spirit before and they ask for The Council’s feedback.
The Council says we are all capable of channeling spirit, but some people go into channeling more easily than others. Anonymous has experienced the beginnings of allowing their self to realize they’re a channel.
Anonymous mentions automatic writing and The Council says if they are interested in this they suggest sitting every day for 15 minutes with a pad and something to write with in their hand and see what comes into their mind. As they keep doing this they’ll form words and sentences that make sense, or begin to draw pictures.
Information will come through from other lifetimes. Give yourself time. Sit with the pad and writing implement every day and eventually the automatic writing or drawing will come to you.
The Council says if it’s this person’s desire to become a channel in whatever way is best for them and whatever way they can serve other people with this gift, they ask Anonymous to keep practicing.
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Communicating with the Spirit of Loved Ones Who Have Passed
Bobby’s Question
This post is a response to a question from a reader named Bobby, who believes, “Spirit…[is], at times, available to us here on Earth when we want signs, information, a visit.” Bobby says, “I find it curious…, when I’ve had sessions with mediums/psychics/sensitives, my wish/want to have a visit or get information from specific relatives does not seem to manifest. …I have questions as to why some seem able/available, while others make no ‘effort’ to so much as send information to us?”
Bobby continues: “I have visited with more than a few reputable mediums/psychics who have given me very clear, relevant information/guidance, so I am fairly certain it is not the person(s) ‘translating’ the information in my situation. And I have most definitely had my fair share of crisis in my life well worthy of someone stepping in and sending me a shout out. But if Spirit is sort of out there willing and waiting to communicate in one form or another, why is it only some want to step forward?”
Bobby also wants to know: “At what time (if ever) is Spirit that has left this realm, available to us here for information? For example, Osama bin Ladin recently left our planet. Is he going to be a Spirit out there that someone, anyone, can speak with?”
They are Always Available
In response to Bobby’s comment that she believes spirit is available, at times, when she’s looking for spiritual guidance, The Council replies:
“They are always available.
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July 12, 2011 Thought for the Day
Astrology, Numerology, Tarot, I Ching, and Psychic Development
Are a few of the tools you knew, as spirit,
That would be available to you
To help you plan and guide your journey
Through your physical experience.
—The Council
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Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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