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Finding Gratitude in Marriage

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initial, A.

A: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thank you for taking our questions. I would like some insight into my marriage. I don’t feel like I can be myself around my husband. It feels like my heart is closed off. I have a lot of resentment towards him, especially since having a child, and where the first few years I received almost no support from him.

Council: And so why are you now staying in that past, and what you experienced in the past? Can you see anything that you can be grateful for in your marriage now? Look at your partner. What is there that’s positive about him? Look for the good. When you do this you will find it. And the more you look, the more you will find.

A: I have found his behavior to be very selfish. I try to move past the resentment, but each new selfish act reminds me of the past. I no longer feel joy when I am around him.

Council: And so, when you see him do something you consider selfish, take a look at it. Is it really selfish? Or are you just going back into that feeling of how it was before? And if you see him doing something selfish, can you replace it and force yourself to find something that’s good? We ask you to look at this so that you can make a decision for yourself that’s more of what you want.

A: We have brought up divorce quite a few times. I’m not sure if this is the route I want to take.

Council: And that is why it’s good, at this point, to look for stuff to be grateful for in your marriage.

A: When I imagine that [divorce] future, part of it feels more freeing, but not all of it. I also don’t want to remain in a relationship where I feel alone and misunderstood.

Council: And when you feel like this, what usually happens in your human existence is you look for someone else. Someone that would give you the littlest bit of attention. And so we say, before you go there, look and see what works, and if there is great kindness in your marriage.

A: I’m not sure if I’m expecting too much from my relationship. I know I need to learn independence, but I’m not sure if this is the real problem, or if it’s just incompatibility between us.

Council: So again you’re saying you need to learn independence. What can you do to experience that now? Take that step in changing yourself. Take that step of learning something that you feel you need to learn. It is wise that you know that. So instead of waiting until later, do it now.

A: Another strange thing has been happening. I met this man…

Council: Ahhh!

A: …that I have hardly spoken with, and when I’m near him, I think about him. I have very strong feelings that cause me to question my marriage. This has happened twice now. I’ve never felt feelings like this towards another person.

Council: Because there is a longing in you that is looking for something new, something easy, something happy.

A: Who is this person to me?

Council: It is a spirit that you have called in because you feel something lacking in what you have now.

A: Are these my feelings, his feelings, or both?

Council: It is your feelings. And you can create it to go in any direction you want. But we say, question yourself, look for the good, come up with an answer, and then start the focusing and imagery on how you want your life to be.

A: Thank you very much for any insight you can provide.

Council: And we send you peace and love.

Listen to the entire 2-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for A. and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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January 11, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Is An ‘Ignorance Is Bliss’ Approach To Life Helpful?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Still Questioning.

Questioning: Hello. I was hoping to ask The Council about knowledge, guilt, and the mentality of ‘ignorance is bliss’. I’ve been reading about how technology is advancing from artificial intelligence, to computer implants in people’s brains, to Apple’s new virtual reality goggles, to the ubiquitousness of social media. A lot of the articles I read are negative with some very legitimate concerns about privacy, misinformation, people losing their life’s purposes or jobs, and children being abused and exploited, etc.

Council: Many people are worried at this point because even though AI (artificial intelligence) has been going on for longer than is known by the public, there’s a worry that robots or artificial intelligence will take over. Yes, there are people that will lose their jobs. There’s a lot of negative stuff that can happen and that has happened in the history of other realities. But what also comes out of this is wonderful discoveries and medical discoveries. Many great diseases will no longer exist because there are cures that will be found. There will be ways to handle your emotions differently, very relaxing ways. There will be ways to travel quicker and to see parts of your reality that you have created that you’ve never seen before.

So there is good and there is bad. There are always people who, with the power, they want to control things. That will always happen. There are people who want to use technology for good and experience more freedom and more love. And so it is the individual’s choice of how they want to see this and how they want to use it. And that’s why it comes up in different realities, many times to see how it is now being handled. And that is where you are now in your reality where people are beginning to hear about this. And many people will be frightened, but many people will see the good that will come.

We would suggest, in your reality, that you take care of your thoughts. We can’t help people think differently or behave differently, but if every person would just concentrate on what they are thinking of and what they are feeling, it will all change, and more and more will change for the positive. Maybe more and more will change for the negative. But your job is to concentrate on what kind of light, what energy of love can you bring into this reality? And so there will be great strides made with this intelligence.

Questioning: These things like artificial intelligence are all making me feel exposed and anxious. In this case and in general, is an ‘ignorance is bliss’ approach to life helpful?

Council: Ignorance is not bliss. It’s good to know what’s going on. It’s good to read up on this, but then when you know what’s going on, now you decide. Is this what you want? Is it too negative? And change the thoughts. Still, in your reality, people don’t understand how powerful your thoughts are. It starts with vibration. It starts with your thoughts.

So you will find out negative stuff or positive stuff. And you’ll think when you experience negative thoughts or fearful thoughts, change it. No, I understand this can happen, this is happening, but I’d like it to be this other way. And concentrate on the way you want it to be. So you will not constantly be thinking of the negative, hearing the negative, focusing on the negative. It’s your power to create the way you want it in your life.

Questioning: Should I stop reading news articles about technology or about wars in the world and focus on my immediate surroundings, or how I want my life to be? In this case, having a life free of artificial intelligence and social media, and full of meaningful connections to others.

Council: It is so powerful where you are at this time. And so if reading about wars, or negative things about artificial intelligence, if you find those are the articles you are reading and you are finding, then yes, we’d say don’t do that to yourself. Read one, get the general idea, and let it go. Don’t keep reading the negative. A little bit of knowledge of the negative is quite enough.

Now your job is to focus on the way you want it to be. It doesn’t have to stay negative. It’s not written in stone this will happen. You are the creator of your universe. Take this time to focus on how you want it, and don’t keep putting yourself in a negative situation where you get upset and nervous because of what you’re reading.

Questioning: Artificial intelligence technology seems very far off from the truly wonderful life I am living, for which I am extremely grateful.

Council: Artificial intelligence is already working much more than you know, and there are many, many wonderful things that will come about from it.

Questioning: Once I learn more about a topic like artificial intelligence or war though, I start worrying, which is only making those worries into reality.

Council: Of course.

Questioning: It feels like I’m shooting myself in the foot repeatedly, but I can’t seem to stop.

Council: So it would be wonderful for you to concentrate on: I am here. I am spirit. I am so powerful. And I came here, jumping into this reality at this time, to see what I could do with it. How could I make it loving? How could I make it positive? And run with that thought. Always with the thought you are so powerful.

Questioning: A part of me feels like an ‘ignorance is bliss’ approach is inherently selfish. It seems like putting my own personal happiness before understanding the struggles of others and trying to help is a bad thing to do. Oftentimes beyond thoughts and prayers, there’s no way I can physically help, and sometimes even positive thinking and praying about it feels like an overwhelming duty.

Council: Thoughts of prayers and positive thoughts are so powerful that doing that, thinking positively and praying, helps more than you realize at this point.

Questioning: On the other hand, The Council and others have pointed out to me that it’s not my job to save other people, and that everyone has their own path that should be respected.

Council: But do you realize it’s not your job to save other people? It’s your job to make yourself feel good. It’s your job to make yourself know that you can create whatever it is that you want. And as you concentrate on your thoughts and they go out there into the world, others will feel that positive vibe and they will start thinking more positively. So you are affecting other people, but you are affecting other people by increasing the happiness and the joy that you can feel.

Questioning: For The Council, is selfishness even a useful concept here or anywhere?

Council: If, by selfishness, you mean concentrating on yourself, what you want, how you want to be happy, the better life you want, the better world you want to create, then go for it.

Questioning: I want to be a good human who is relatively aware of the world around them and tries to help others, but is also not overwhelmed by guilt, or by the Herculean task of trying to save the world and everyone in it.

Council: Save yourself. You will be saving the world.

Questioning: How can I balance knowledge, ignorance, and my sense of responsibility to others. I want to put down my burdens of anxiety and guilt, but I’m not sure how to do it.

Council: And so acquire knowledge and learn about what you like and don’t like. Now use your wisdom and know your answer will come from you with how you think, and how the vibration is that you’re sending around. And that is your job. That is what you are here to do.

And guilt will not help anything. That will only slow you down because it will make you feel bad. You are not here to feel guilty. You are here to do the very, very best you can. And every time you have positive thoughts, know that you are helping your reality. You are helping people all over your world. And you may not understand how the vibration works, but it is happening. Guilt is not necessary.

Questioning: I hope these questions aren’t too long and winding. They have been churning in my head for a while. Thank you very much for your time.

Council: They are wonderful questions, and you are a wonderful human being, and you are even a better spirit. And when you finally know that, you will feel such joy and such love for everything that you are doing. It will be wonderful.

Listen to the entire 13-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Still Questioning and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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April 3, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Do I Pursue My Ex-Partner Or Try To Move On?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee. We previously published the post, Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner? in response to Lee’s original questions.

Lee: Following up on the answers to my questions in the post above, I unexpectedly and completely fell in love with this man. He makes me feel loved and safe, and I would spend the rest of my life with him if he asked.

Council: He’s here to show you what you can experience, but not with him.

Lee: But he told me he doesn’t want a relationship anymore.

Council: And this is true.

Lee: We live in different states and he was supposed to move to be with me, but now he’s changed his mind and doesn’t even want to carry on the relationship long distance. I’m confused and heartbroken, of course. He seemed so cold and defensive toward me. I’m trying my best to stay away and not contact him, but my heart hurts. It’s so hard, and it brings back the pain of losing my husband and I don’t want to feel like that again.

Council: Losing your husband and finding this person, it would be normal to think that this relationship would be forever because it feels so good again. But it was a transitional stage to make you feel happiness again, to give you some joy, and to point out all the things you like in a relationship, and then move forward and create that in someone new.

Lee: I guess I’m just looking for why he feels he doesn’t want me anymore.

Council: At this time he doesn’t feel that he’s ready to commit to anyone. These are the challenges that he faces – wanting someone then not wanting someone and being afraid of permanency. At this point it’s very loving for you to just let him go and for you to let him deal with what’s on his plate, so to speak.

Lee: What do I do? Should I pursue him? Or should I try my best to forget him and move on, which I don’t really want to do? But if I’m forced, I have no choice.

Council: We advise you not to forget this man, but don’t pursue him either. When someone doesn’t want a relationship, and someone pursues them and pursues them, it only pushes them further away because they feel that what they want isn’t being heard or isn’t being honored. We say do not pursue, but also don’t forget.

Find all the things you loved in that relationship and start focusing on those things, and how you’d like them in a partner that’s looking for a commitment and looking to be with someone permanently. You will create that.

We do see there’s someone for you if you do the work and you focus more on the positive. You’ll bring this in.

Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Lee and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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July 23, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , | 2 Comments

A Challenging Ex-Husband and Dependence on Her Mother

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amorist, who says, in my life I feel I’ve been coping with relationships with many overbearing individuals. I assume there’s a purpose, but my ex-husband has been such a challenging person who I think fits the description of a narcissist. Empathy doesn’t come easily to him and he has very toxic ways of dealing with others.

The Council tells Amorist, you’re someone who’s trying to learn that you are a spirit in a physical body and everyone on Earth is also a spirit. Take a look at how you’re seeing these other people as overbearing and your ex-husband as being narcissistic. Instead of seeing these people as spirits that are pressing your buttons, see them as people who are pressing your buttons to see if you can look at them differently.

You may find these people overbearing and annoying, but can you get yourself to a point where you realize you don’t know what goes on in their lives. You don’t know what they’re going through. Can you see these people as spirits that are here with their own problems and experiences that they wish to go through and turn around? You’ve all agreed to be in this life together and to press each other’s buttons.

We love you as a spirit and we love you for everything you go through. But you’re in a place where you look at people negatively, which is fine because this is there to help you turn it around. Look at these people in your life that are annoying or overbearing and begin to see them as going through their stuff and trying to learn from it.

And in their own way when they get to a certain point they’ll see they are their higher self. You may not know it consciously, but your higher self is here because you want to turn your thinking around. We want to accept everyone for who they are and wish them well on their way.

Amorist asks about her history with her ex-husband beyond their current lifetime. The Council says because of what you wished to learn, knowing about your history is not important. What’s important is focusing on your present. You didn’t plan in spirit to focus on the past. You need to focus on what’s happening now and that’s what you wanted to do.

Amorist asks what her children are learning from her ex-husband. The Council says your children are learning from you how you respond to your husband. Do you speak negatively about him or about others? Your children will learn how you speak. How you handle these situations and how you speak will help your children on their path. Look at people differently, and have patience with them. Understand something is bothering these other spirits. You may not know what, but you can begin to understand we’re all here to have the fun of changing your thoughts and your life for the better. When you do this you’ll see how your world will change.

Amorist says, as a result of my ex-husband’s influence I’m concerned for the well-being of my children. The Council asks you to be loving and positive around your children. Amorist says things were so difficult for a long time. It was heart-breaking. Perhaps there’s something you can tell me about this situation that will ease my anxiety or help with my outlook.

You’re still focusing on what you’ve gone through with your ex-husband and your children. It was a difficult situation, but how are things right now? Is it still difficult? Do you still find the people around you to be obnoxious and difficult to get along with? Are you picking up on people’s bad traits? Are you judging them because they aren’t the way you believe they should be? It’s not so much about the other people, but about you, the way you are thinking, and how you handle these situations.

Amorist says, my mother is someone who is a very emotionally reactive and controlling individual who I feel seeks out disappointment and problems. The Council asks Amorist if she hears her judgemental words. This is what you see within your mother. Take another look. Look at her differently and understand your mother has her problems and difficulties, but there must be something positive you can see in her. Even if it’s the littlest thing we ask you to please focus on that.

Amorist says we’re living with my mother now and I’m really struggling with this situation. I want my own home so badly, but I don’t see the path forward toward that goal. The Council says when you become more accepting of everything, when you become grateful that you have a place to live with your overbearing mother, and when you can see good things in others your life will change. You’ll be able to move forward and have a better life, a home, and everything else you need, but you have to change your thoughts.

Amorist asks, how will I make ends meet and find a safe space for me and my children? The Council says safe space begins with love and positive thoughts. Do you play with your children? Do you talk about beautiful things? Do you point out what’s good or how other people are trying? Do you show this to your children? When you do these things you’re teaching them to look for the good in others.

Amorist asks, why am I dependent on my mother? The Council says it’s because you’ve decided to be in this place to learn from it. Amorist says, I love my mother but I feel sort of trapped, as though I don’t have space or privacy. I just want everyone to be happy and okay. The Council tells Amorist you must be happy and okay within yourself and then you’ll be able to see it in others. If you feel trapped in a jail cell, you’re the one with the key. We can promise you if you work hard to look at the good in others, if you can find the love you feel for people, if you can be grateful for what you have and teach that to others around you, when you do these things you’ll get what you need.

Amorist closes by asking, who am I in all of this? The Council answers you are a spirit who’s created this situation to learn from it, to grow from it, to bring love into this reality, to help others around you, and we’ll all grow together.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Amorist and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question in a Comment box at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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April 29, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , | 6 Comments

What Can My Father Do to Improve His Kidney Condition?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Love&Health, whose father has been recently diagnosed with a kidney condition and he was also born with one kidney. We can’t do anything about this condition from a medical perspective. What can my father do to improve his health? Please let me know if there are any natural remedies, medicines, yoga, or meditation that can help his condition.

The Council says they’re trying to make it clear that everyone on Earth is a spirit and a vibration. Whether you lift your vibration or get depressed and your vibration goes down, you are still a vibration and a powerful creator.

Rather than looking for natural remedies and medicines, which always seem to have side effects, we’d like you to know that to cure or change the condition of anything it has to begin with the vibration of healing. It has to begin on an energy level first. This is the direction your world is going toward. This is what everyone here has agreed to. Everyone wants to learn more about who they are. They want to learn how they are in charge of their life and they are powerful and can create anything.

On a physical level lemon water is always good to purify the kidneys. But rather than going toward chemical healing, go into your chakras, which must all be working correctly, in order for your body to accept the healing energy that’s needed to change what’s been created in the body.

Someone can have many things wrong with them, but if their vibration is constantly lifting and your thoughts are constantly positive and you’re constantly thinking of being well, no matter what shows up on a diagnosis, you may have a wonderful and long life.

Begin with aligning the chakras, making sure the energy comes into these places. On a physical level massage is always good. It helps relax the body, which will affect each of your organs. But it’s most important to go into a meditative state or just sitting in a chair and thinking how you are well. In reality, you are well. If you look at yourself and understand you are a spirit being, you’ll know you are well. There’s absolutely nothing wrong.

No matter what’s created in this lifetime – having one kidney, a disease, a broken bone, whatever is going on – you are well. So it’s important to see yourself as well. Let go of your difficulties. Don’t hold onto how this hurts or that hurts or this is wrong and that’s wrong. Go into the vibration of being positive and believing in yourself. On a subconscious level you know how to make yourself feel well and that’s what’s needed at this time.

The real help will come from the belief you are well. And a belief is just something you think about over and over again. Believe you’re well and everything in your body is working correctly. No matter what the diagnosis is, you are fine, and you’ll begin to feel fine. Then you’ll see you are the creator and you’ll create more. This is the catalyst that will set you off into the correct path of working on a higher level.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Love&Health and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question in one of the Comment boxes at the bottom of most blog pages.

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April 27, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Chakras, Channeling, Healing, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Spirit, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Success in the Healing Arts

This post answers questions from a reader named Wendy, who says The Council answered questions for her before and brought her to the wonderful place she’s at today – 6 months pregnant with what she believes is the soul who tried to come through 2 years ago. The Council confirms it’s the same soul and Wendy can expect to have a lot more joy.

Wendy says she now wants to ask The Council about work. She’s worked with an Ayurvedic coach and loved everything she learned. Since then she’s enjoyed looking into many types of healing arts and has a feeling she’s meant to doing healing work, but isn’t sure how. The Council says Wendy has chosen to be a healer in different lifetimes and is experienced in many different ways of healing.

Wendy has recently enrolled in an Ayurvedic practitioner’s course. Part of her is very excited to see where this takes her, and another part tells her she’s insane. She’s afraid to take on something new because she hasn’t gone through with many commitments in the past.

The Council sees this pattern and asks Wendy if she’ll allow herself to fulfill this dream or will she sabotage herself? They say she’s able to successfully complete this course and help others if she’s able to stay focused on creating this. She should make the decision to take the course, and no matter what doubts come up, learn to focus on what’s positive.

Wendy asks The Council what she can do to break old patterns, have confidence, and complete this class, especially with a 7-year old and a new baby on the way?

The Council sees Wendy being successful, but they can’t create it for her. They advise seeing her success, going forward, and acknowledge when she has negative thoughts or feels unable to complete the course. Go slowly because she has her children to look after. Once she completes this course her perspective will change. She’ll be able to succeed and complete whatever plan she creates for herself, and her life will be more positive.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Wendy and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

February 2, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment